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Cutting v. 2
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true that.
roundrhombus
Greenlighter
Well just know that the "blood lust" that you feel... that feeling of just wanting to see that passion red... Is all in your head... It is a trained impulse.... Your chances of getting out of this will go up a lot if you just beat it once or twice... its the cycle thats hard to break.
Just don't do it Pill, we feel your pain.... if you fight it you will end up doing it because all you're doing is thinking about it and letting that demon take you down to the point where you just cant take it anymore.
but if you find something else to do that distracts you... you might get away from the impulse.
Just don't do it Pill, we feel your pain.... if you fight it you will end up doing it because all you're doing is thinking about it and letting that demon take you down to the point where you just cant take it anymore.
but if you find something else to do that distracts you... you might get away from the impulse.
Frank Lucas
Bluelighter
^^
I'm still technically married to a cutter (5 yrs) and I basically have bachellor's degree in psychology. In spite of that, I really know nothing other than that it's very difficult for a non-cutter to understand. I only wish you the best.
I'm still technically married to a cutter (5 yrs) and I basically have bachellor's degree in psychology. In spite of that, I really know nothing other than that it's very difficult for a non-cutter to understand. I only wish you the best.
xxkcxx
Bluelighter
I don't know if you know this technique (I think you might, but anyway). Tell yourself that if you can make it 15 minutes and still want to cut, then you will. But when the 15 minutes are over, make yourself do another 15. Make it less if you need to 10 or 5 minutes. The point is that these feelings don't last forever.
I know holidays make a lot of people unhappy, but they are useful distraction tools. Just start chatting with a random relative or ask to be the santa tonight and pass out the gifts so you have something to do.
I don't know if that helps, but I hope so. Mainly remember that cutting doesn't make you feel very good for very long.
gorgoroth
Bluelighter
back to the knife
xxkcxx
Bluelighter
^I like when people do stuff like that with scars...my best friend suffered from bulimia for a long time and had a scar on her index finger knuckle from her teeth hitting when she gagged herself. She got the word "survivor" right below it in small letters.
Why hun?? Please don't do it
That's a fantastic idea Mike, to forever remind you what you've overcome and how strong you are
I've got plans to cover all my scars with tattoos. There will be 6 tattoos altogether. I can't wait to have them all covered so I can wear shorts again
Thanks for supportThat's a fantastic idea Mike, to forever remind you what you've overcome and how strong you are
drug_wench
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those of us that matter do hun
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express, take advice, accept it, and live your life.
elbroski
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Hello to everyone on the thread. I have a younger sister that I love more than anything in the world and I was hoping that some of you could help me better understand her behavior and how to help her (if its appropriate).
My sister has been cutting since she was 11yrs old, which I didn't find out about until like two years ago (I'm now 20yrs old), and she is 17. We've had a rough childhood you could say, but I'm not aware of any direct physical or sexual abuse that she endured (I know this is a common element amongst people who self-harm). We're really close, and until a few months ago, I was the only person who knew that she cut herself. I've always been able to talk with her and understand where she's coming from, but I was totally foreign to this type of behavior and what caused it/how to prevent it. I'm a fairly heavy drug abuser, and you could say that its my "cutting", I use it to blot out painful thoughts and emotions.
The more I learned about it, the more hopeless it seemed. She tells me that she feels constantly depersonalized and unreal. I'm guessing that the pain she inflicts gives her a feeling of reality? It's confusing because my drug problem is used to put me in the opposite state of mind; I feel TOO real most of the time and use drugs to space me out. But like everyone here has stated, she constantly feels as if she must put on a "fake" smile, fake emotions, feels the need to constantly regulate others happiness and such...
Sorry for the long post, but really what I'm asking for, are any ideas that I, as her brother, can implement to help her in any way. I don't want to come off as judgmental by "overreacting" and letting her see how worried and appalled I am by what she's doing to herself, but I also don't want to just brush it off if she really needs me.
thanks for any advice you might have guys/girls
My sister has been cutting since she was 11yrs old, which I didn't find out about until like two years ago (I'm now 20yrs old), and she is 17. We've had a rough childhood you could say, but I'm not aware of any direct physical or sexual abuse that she endured (I know this is a common element amongst people who self-harm). We're really close, and until a few months ago, I was the only person who knew that she cut herself. I've always been able to talk with her and understand where she's coming from, but I was totally foreign to this type of behavior and what caused it/how to prevent it. I'm a fairly heavy drug abuser, and you could say that its my "cutting", I use it to blot out painful thoughts and emotions.
The more I learned about it, the more hopeless it seemed. She tells me that she feels constantly depersonalized and unreal. I'm guessing that the pain she inflicts gives her a feeling of reality? It's confusing because my drug problem is used to put me in the opposite state of mind; I feel TOO real most of the time and use drugs to space me out. But like everyone here has stated, she constantly feels as if she must put on a "fake" smile, fake emotions, feels the need to constantly regulate others happiness and such...
Sorry for the long post, but really what I'm asking for, are any ideas that I, as her brother, can implement to help her in any way. I don't want to come off as judgmental by "overreacting" and letting her see how worried and appalled I am by what she's doing to herself, but I also don't want to just brush it off if she really needs me.
thanks for any advice you might have guys/girls
elbroski, it sounds like you and your sister have a really special relationship and I'm sure you treasure it accordingly
Has she ever seen a doctor or a counsellor about her self-destructive behaviour? Sometimes (perhaps most of the time) a self-harmer needs help from a professional in order to stop their destructive behaviour patterns.
It sounds like the reason you've come up with (that she cuts to feel "real") is likely to be correct, which also indicates that she is likely suffering from depression or some other disorder? For more information about why people cut themselves have a bit of a browse through this whole thread, there are many good explanations from people who cut. And if you have more questions feel free to ask.
At the end of the day it's important for you to just be there for her and support her when she needs it. I wish you and her the best of luck in overcoming this.
Has she ever seen a doctor or a counsellor about her self-destructive behaviour? Sometimes (perhaps most of the time) a self-harmer needs help from a professional in order to stop their destructive behaviour patterns.
It sounds like the reason you've come up with (that she cuts to feel "real") is likely to be correct, which also indicates that she is likely suffering from depression or some other disorder? For more information about why people cut themselves have a bit of a browse through this whole thread, there are many good explanations from people who cut. And if you have more questions feel free to ask.
At the end of the day it's important for you to just be there for her and support her when she needs it. I wish you and her the best of luck in overcoming this.
Butterfly_kisses
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Pillthrill. i dont understand you cut urself because ur brother was angry cause you chased away a rabbit he wanted to kill?
i dont understand why you would harm urself when you have just saved a rabbits life?
i also self harm quite a bit and all so i understand how small things can trigger it. but you saved the rabbits life so why would you need to harm yourself?
SrhKween420
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Been there.. Done it.. Not worth it.. KEEP YOUR HEAD UP!!
**hAyzzZZ**
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I have been thinking about this lately, and the thing that really pisses me off about this is that, over the years drugs have been and gone, but cutting has always stuck to me.
I truly fucking hate it. I fucking hate that I still do it, so many years later and nothing, even long periods in between, changes it. I just go back to square fucking one every time. It's like, when the fuck am I ever going to get over it? Drugs I can see a way out in some years, but cutting?
I truly fucking hate it. I fucking hate that I still do it, so many years later and nothing, even long periods in between, changes it. I just go back to square fucking one every time. It's like, when the fuck am I ever going to get over it? Drugs I can see a way out in some years, but cutting?
^^ I know exactly what you mean hayzz
Part of me knows that even though I haven't cut myself for a few months, and I've managed to stop the cycle, I know I will cut again one day...and that's a pretty depressing thought!
The best you can do is try
Part of me knows that even though I haven't cut myself for a few months, and I've managed to stop the cycle, I know I will cut again one day...and that's a pretty depressing thought!
The best you can do is try
Thanks honey
And yes I completely 100% understand that. But just throw the razor blades out though PT. Just do it.
wingnutlives
Bluelighter
It's been about three months since I cut... good for me yay
The trick is NOT to have anything too sharp in my possession. Kitchen knives are rather useless, razor blades are the best... if I don't have razor blades I am much less tempted.
The trick is NOT to have anything too sharp in my possession. Kitchen knives are rather useless, razor blades are the best... if I don't have razor blades I am much less tempted.
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