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cutters - you are not alone. (merged)

Cutting warning label

Im not sure if this has been posted before, but I'll do it anyway, its off recoveryourlife.com

WARNING
....before you make that first cut remember. You will enjoy this. You will find the blood and pain release addictive. Even though you think you can make a few tiny cuts that aren't deep and will heal easily ...they will get deeper. They will scar. They will take sometimes months to heal!!! And years for the scars to fade! IF you think you can limit the cutting to one area of your body think again...it will spread when you run out of skin. Be prepared to withdraw from others and live in a constant state of shame. Even if you are the most honest person ever to live ....you will find yourself lying to the people you love. You will jerk back from your friends when they touch you as if their hands were dipped in poison. You will be terrified that they will feel something under the cloth of your shirt or because it just plain hurts so much to be touched.
Be prepared to get so out of control you fear your next cut because you don't know how bad it will be. Just wait for 10 cuts to turn into 100....Be prepared for your entire life to revolve around thinking about cutting ..cutting and covering up cutting And just wait till that first time you cut "too deep." And you freak out because the blood won't stop...and you are gaping....and you feel yourself shaking all over. You are having a panic attack and you are terrified but you can't tell anyone. So you sit there alone...praying it will be ok swearing you'll never let it go this far again...But you will and further. Don't worry, you will learn how to take care of your cuts so that you can go deeper and deeper and avoid the ER. And the better you get at treating your cuts the deeper they get.
You will lie to yourself and justify it when you find youself spending 20 , 30 or 50 dollars every time you go the pharmacy. You will feel the flutter of your heartbeat everytime you go to the counter to ring up your order. Butterfly strips...3 or four different kinds of dressings...betadine....antibiotic cream..medical tape..scar reducers.....You will tap your foot impatiently hoping the line will just move and no one will stare at you or wonder why you need all these things. And at the same time secretly hope someone will notice...someone who is standing in line with an armful of the same supplies...someone who understands but of course that never happens.
Medical supplies won't be the only thing you spend all your money on. Be prepared to buy a new wardrobe...longsleeve shirts in summer colors, bracelets, wristbands , boots... gloves..the list goes on and on.
You will start looking at everyone in a differnent way...Scanning their bodies for any signs of SI... just hoping that you might meet someone like you so you don't feel so terribly alone. You wont even think about it ..as your eyes scan their wrists arms...hoping just hoping they will be like you....But they are not. You will see their clean arms and feel terribly ashamed and alone.
You will start doing a lot of things alone. You will always have to wash your laundry in private so know one sees the blood stains on your clothes and towels. You will always be cleaning up the blood..Scrubbing your bathroom floor...wiping the blood of your keyboard....
You won't be able to make it through a day without cutting....Next thing you know you are in a public bathroom somewhere breaking open a scab with a sewing needle that you keep in your wallet for emergancies. When you get really desperate anything will be a cutting tool ...scissors...a car key...a needle ... a paperclip..even a pen. Doesn't matter what it is if you need to cut bad enough you will find something.
Say goodbye to things you took for granted. Like wearing shorts or sandals...pedicures...sleeveless tops.
A normal summer day at the beach or in a swimming pool will become a far off memory for you.
Get ready to itch. Beacuase you will itch and itch ..."so much you will look like you have fleas or a skin disease."
You will become an expert on your body as you destroy it carefully.. You will dream about cutting...you will dream about being exposed. It will haunt you day and night and take over your life. You will wish you never made that first cut because while you absolutely HATE cutting...at the same time you love it and can not live with out of it.

you have been warned.....
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http://www.recoveryourlife.com/Self_Harm_Information/Articles/10164.aspx

I wish I'd read this before I done that first cut
 
if i had read that before cutting, i would not have understood or believed much of it. after having hurt myself for many years, i see how true it is and how lucky i am that it has never fully consumed my life.
 
cuttin is shit!
does anyone else ever get the problem of little shitty ''friends'' that think they are so fucking cool that they cut! im sick of it! and if i dont notice they show me! i have enuf of my own REAL problems to deal with and i dont need theirs!! grr sorry i need to get that off my chest! but yeah ive been cutting for about 2 years, about 2-3times a day...before skol....at lunch...and at night...i have sleeping problems but no one even knows i do it anymore, i used to cut my arms, both of them, and then ppl started to notice so i hide it..where my undies sit or just under where my boobs are, and sometimes my fingers....its just so addictive, i feel as if i am the only one who is actually havin a shit time tho, i started this shitty little epidemic at sko now everyone is and one girl even rings me everynight tellin me its my fault she cuts :( it makes me feel like shit. and then my bestfriend tried to overdose twice on panadol n now shes like in a mental health hospital...so wanna cut right now :(
 
cutting: anyone got suggestions on how 2 stop?

heya all,
i have been cutting for awhile, and i hate it, i do it now even if im not pissed off, its like a part of my daily routine. I dont remember how it got so out of control. Just wondering if anyone has any ideas on how to help me stop! i love it! but i hate the 'after-feeling' and the scars i get. Help me please!
 
Heya surfa_gal I'm going to merge this thread with the other big cutting thread that we have up at the top of the page :)

I'm personally not too familiar with cutting, but there are people here who are, so read through what they have written and listen to what they say :)

All the best :)

CB :)
 
as a long-time cutter and researcher of cutting i was surprised to read that most cutters are not usually mentally ill. from the books i've read and the research that i've done, cutting is usually a sign of mental illness, be it depression, PTSD, BPD, etc. when a person cannot use *normal* coping mechanisms and resorts to cutting or other forms of self-harm, then there is something wrong psychologically and that self-injurer should seek professional help. i've been in and out of psychiatric hospitals for years and know numerous cutters - it's a dangerous thing and should not be taken lightly or dismissed.
 
surfa_gal - good luck trying to quit - i've stopped and started so many times in the last 8 years it's not even funny - i used to do it every day - everyone thought i was "crazy" and i lost all my friends. please get help and try to learn some *positive* coping mechanisms - i don't envy what you're going through, but i understand - i had a friend that used to always try to one-up me with cutting "oh look at this cut - it's way deeper than yours" and "you had to get 8 stitches, well i had to get 10" don't give up though. good luck.
 
StarGirlie said:
as a long-time cutter and researcher of cutting i was surprised to read that most cutters are not usually mentally ill. from the books i've read and the research that i've done, cutting is usually a sign of mental illness, be it depression, PTSD, BPD, etc. when a person cannot use *normal* coping mechanisms and resorts to cutting or other forms of self-harm, then there is something wrong psychologically and that self-injurer should seek professional help. i've been in and out of psychiatric hospitals for years and know numerous cutters - it's a dangerous thing and should not be taken lightly or dismissed.
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what do you mean you were surprised that cutters are not usually mentally ill?

cutting is not a healthy coping mechanism, but in many cases is healthier than other things the person can do. i think most anyone in this thread would admit that they don't do it just for the hell of it. but more so that they can deal with something going on. or that they cut so that they don't do something else more destructive. but i would have to say that there is an underlying urge to why people hurt themselves, not just the pain from it...
 
Re: cutting: anyone got suggestions on how 2 stop?

surfa_gal said:
heya all,
i have been cutting for awhile, and i hate it, i do it now even if im not pissed off, its like a part of my daily routine. I dont remember how it got so out of control. Just wondering if anyone has any ideas on how to help me stop! i love it! but i hate the 'after-feeling' and the scars i get. Help me please!
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try distracting yourself whenever you have the uge. when you have the urge, come onto BL and postwhore in the lounge. or go out for a walk. call a friend. watch tv. take a bath. read a book. just do something to distract yourself.

start keeping a journal (if you don't already) and vent your anger and hurt in there instead of taking it out on yourself.

get some new healthy hobbies/interests to take up your time.

talk to someone, who can help you with any underlying issues about why you hurt yourself.

best of luck to you :)
 
i wish i had friends who could tell me that stuff everyday! thank you i will try!! ive tried the book thing but ive read everybook in my house like 2-3times n yeah...:( i wish i could run from this !!
 
its not something you can run from, you just have to face it :\

PM me if you need someone to chat to :)
 
i said i wasn't going to make it a habit again.
and it's not yet, but stuff keeps getting worse and worse for me (i got fired from my job, myfriends hate me now, slipping in school...), and i keep pushing the limits, going further up my arm or a little bit deeper.
i haven't been on my medicine for about 4 months, and i was feeling great... i am afraid now. i don't want to go back :( i still haven't gotten up the guts to ask for help again, either.
there are still a few people who are there for me, but most have just given up. sucks.
 
''Help me please!''

None of us can help you, we can offer you advice and someone to pm if you feel shit, but the only person who can help you stop cutting yourself is you
 
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