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cutters - you are not alone. (merged)
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vnvnation
Bluelighter
next time your coming on a internet forum saying someone help me please, dont fucking tell someone to shut the fuck up for speaking the truth to you.
You cant be helped, you can be given advice, medication and rammed into a mental institute
but once you come out of there, if you want to cut yourself your going to do it.
Dont come on a forum that is specifically here for us to give each other advice and offer somewhere to vent and talk if all your going to do is throw that advice back in someones face
StarGirlie
Bluelighter
vnvnation is right on some things - you did ask for help - but advice, medication, support - those things do help, and can aid greatly in recovery. i have scars over my chest, my arms, my hips, my abdomen - pretty much everywhere. i slipped up twice in the past week after almost a year of being "clean" - cutting is like opening pandora's box - it's gonna be fucking hard to close it again, you know, but asking for help and actually wanting help - those are the first two steps - don't worry about what other ppl say or think - and have you tried using ice (holding ice against the skin causes similar pain but no lasting effects and no possible deaths or trips to the ER - been there) or a red marker - it may sound stupid but it helps sometimes. another thing that has really helped me is giving yourself three hours. if you say to yourself, "i will cut in three hours if i feel like i still need to" then usually, after the time goes by, you won't cut. it's ok to slip up - recovery is not a straight line - it's more of a jagged slope - you will have many ups and downs - good luck
beanpoophead
Bluelighter
i guess life just feels less lonely when i cut
that makes me scared
that makes me scared
StarGirlie
Bluelighter
surfa girl - you might try reading some books on cutting - a good one to try is A Bright Red Scream and another just called Cutting, i think. they might give you some insight into the situation of cutting and cuttters in general
DrUgMeSaNe
Bluelighter
i cut myself. i really didnt think that so many others did too...at least im not alone 
vnvnation
Bluelighter
^^ no your not alone, alot more people than you think do it - some hide it more than others though
AmorRoark
Bluelight Crew
^ Good truthful words. 
vnvnation said:
my theory on the ppl who make no attempt to hide it is that they're just looking for attention or to generate a reaction from ppl. they make it worse for all the real cutters out there cuz everyone just assumes the only reason ppl cut is for attention. i've met and talked to more serious cutters than i and i dont think any of them were proud enough to just leave it on display for all to see. my general take on it is that for every 1 cutter you can just visually identify, there are about 3 more who you'd never guess would ever do that because they get really really good at hiding it.
Raz
Bluelighter
^^^^I get what you're saying, but I don't necessarily agree. When I cut, I don't hide it because I'm ashamed of it, I hide it because I don't want to make my friends and family worry. When I'm around people I know can handle it, or if I'm so depressed that I don't give a fuck, I don't make any effort at all to hide my cuts...and I've never made any effort to hide the scars. This isn't because I want it to be a big statement, it's because this is how I deal with pain, and I know it's not the healthiest coping mechanism, but it's my coping mechanism and I refuse to be ashamed of it.
That's not to say there aren't people who do cut just for the attention, but I don't think it's fair to assume everyone has the same motives...
That's not to say there aren't people who do cut just for the attention, but I don't think it's fair to assume everyone has the same motives...
collegekid
Bluelighter
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used to cut myself... havent for about 16 months. sometimes get the urge to... but the last time i did do it, i was drunk, and ended up cuttin the top of my forearm (i had been cutting myself for about a year prior, all on my upper arms/shoulders). im now left with 7 slightly visible scars (very visible to me) on my left arm. it is a constant reminder of what i did to myself, but, at the same time, has stopped me from doin it again.
AmorRoark
Bluelight Crew
Raz said:
I agree entirely.
vnvnation
Bluelighter
my answer to this would have been...
i dont really care who sees my cuts, its how i cope with stuff, i only really hide it from people who i care about who i dont want to know - why should i hide it from the general public, i dont reallt care if they think im an attention seeker because those people dont matter to me or my life
vnvnation
Bluelighter
^^ its a generalization though, alot of people dont do it for attention and dont give a fuck who sees - but then you get the stereotypical goth/emo/whatever that goes about going ''oh im so depressed i cut myself LOOK'' then shoves theyre arm in your face
razorburns
Bluelighter
cutting is also, in addition to being an emotional release, a form of control over ones life. again, similar to anorexia or bulimia, when and where one has no control, this is a place they can control.
to those that do still cut, please do get help. no matter how old you are or where you are in your life, there are better ways to work things out than cutting/burning/biting/scratching.
thank you all for posting.
to those that do still cut, please do get help. no matter how old you are or where you are in your life, there are better ways to work things out than cutting/burning/biting/scratching.
thank you all for posting.