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cutters - you are not alone. (merged)

interesting article, i agree with many of the points raised by the author.

i could not imagine telling my parents or close friends that i used to self harm. i don't feel comfortable talking about it to anyone. let alone to be in treatment and have my parents there...
 
yeah, this has been on the news quite a bit recently on the national news......

It's wont change a fucking thing.

Self-harmers who go to casualty are still treated like sub-humans, many are treated without any anaesetic......

To me, that is absolutely fucking appalling. As a society we should be fucking ashamed....
 
To cut, or not to...

Today is the first day in almost three years that has left me with more than just the desire to cut again. I think about cutting a lot, but I don't act upon those thoughts anymore. I promised the man I love that I would never cut myself again. Now, as our relationship is ending, the one comfort I can offer myself is off limits. The hurt I feel is overwhelming and my greatest fear is that if I don't cut and offer myself some kind of relief then I am going to snap and do worse. So I am at an impasse... I can cut and do so knowing that if the man I love were to find out, he would have NOTHING to do with me ever again or I can control my impulses and hope that we will be able to work through our problems. :(

Are there any recovered cutters out there that can offer me advice? I am just so tired of hurting this deeply and I don't know how long I can stand it for. Any real advice is welcome...

Thanks,

~~WoozEee~~
 
Read your PM.......

Because for all the great , loving, cool, down to earth people there are at the dark side, there are some truly fucking cold, ignorant, heartless pigs........
 
does anyone know of any methods/products to reduce the appearance of scars..? i start my dance classes again soon, and this summer has wreaked havok on my legs... :(
 
perhaps some tights/pantyhose if you need to cover up a large area? for a small scar, i find you can hide it with some foundation and green goo stuff that you dab on pimples. actually, hiding a small scar is alot like hiding pimples...

tanning helps reduce the appearance of scars. they don't seem to stand out as much. careful of self tanner tho. i used that once and botched the job making my legs look funny. it drew the attention to my legs instead of away.

there are some scar minimizing creams on the market, but i have not found any to be effective. i don't know if its the brands i use (cheaper ones), or they are all worthless.

just play around and see what works best for you. if you go the make-up route, by travel/sample sizes until you find the combo that works. good luck :)
 
Good information... I have about 10 stomps (cigarette burns) on my upper arms due to depression and other reasons about half a year ago... Since then I have stopped, and decided they aren't worth the scars.
 
shellshell said:
I cut sometimes when I just can't handle a whirlwind of emotions. The emotions are torturing me and the only way out for me is to cut. After I feel better, seeing the blood and all. ...
I'm trying to find better ways to cope when my emotions take over - I can't even identify these feelings. They just put me in a trance-like state and I have to cut. I really want to stop.
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^^ I have entered this thread so many times and wanted to make a post and never really known what to say but the above pretty much sums up how I feel about SI. :\ Although I'm not really sure I want to stop. I know that I should but its familar to me and deep down I don't know if i really want to stop. I'm thinking of seeing a councellor but can they really help me even if I'm not too fussed on helping myself? (does that make sense?)

I've been harming myself on and off for years now. I used to burn my hands and cut my wrists but now I find myself cutting my upper thigh so they aint obvious to others.

One thing i'm getting abit worried about is i've been really depressed the past few months and i have been cutting myself fairly regularly but now that I'm feeling better I cant get out of the habit - possibly due to comfort reasons. Does this happen to anyone else? How can you over come it?


I hope this post doesn't sound too stupid
 
Sometimes I cut my penis when I get depressed. Unfortunately, I managed to half-circumcise myself last night, after I got incredibly depressed about my girlfriend leaving me. I feel devestated.
 
syymphonatic said:
does anyone know of any methods/products to reduce the appearance of scars..? i start my dance classes again soon, and this summer has wreaked havok on my legs... :(
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Say it was your cat. Don't hide the scars of anguish.
 
I feel like I've tried everything to get rid of my scars. I wore long sleeves constanly for 3-4 years (and I lived in a country where it was hot all year round). I've only recently started not really caring(of course, I still find my right hand creeping up to cover all those scars on my left arm- why was I so stupid to do it right there were everyone could see??)

Anyway, the only advice I can give is to use vitamine E cream and massage the scars constantly to make the scar tissue soft. There is no instant cure(that I know of) for scars... good luck.

I burnt myself tonight... only a little 'smiley' from the lighter, but it still felt sooo good to feel the endorphins again. From crying my eyes out to just lying on my bed with a huge smile across my face...
Before this, I hadn't done it for about 4 months... and I hadn't been doing it as frequently as I had for a few years ago.. but I dunno, the loneliness of having all my friends so far away from me (in other countries), and being completely alone in my little apartment with not a person to call and talk to, I just had to. I think I'll be making burning myself a habit from now on, it's something to cure that desperate feeling of feeling-so.much-I-don't-know-what-to-do-with-myself...
 
i used to be one of thos 750 out of 100,000! its a serious problem that definatly doesnt get enought coverage! I wanted help but i didnt even kno there was others out there like me therefore didnt kno it was an actual problem!! This thread was an amazing idea! Hopefully it will help some greatly
 
guest said:
Sometimes I cut my penis when I get depressed. Unfortunately, I managed to half-circumcise myself last night, after I got incredibly depressed about my girlfriend leaving me. I feel devestated.
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Are you being serious?
 
People who cut themselves are attention seekers. It's such an overt way of showing your pain, come on...
 
^ Jesus man, you know shit....

Reading this after SI for the first time in about 8months.....

Recently started taking opiates and believe me they are nothing compared to the release of cutting.... From anguish to relaxation (and shame) in 10 seconds.
 
Once I cut my penis with a hunting knife while tripping on LSD.

You are not alone, even while under the influence of hallucinogenic drugs.

I'm tempted to try Datura, but am worried that I might hack off what is remaining of my poor penis. It could be quite hot though (which is why I'm quite tempted).
 
Self harm is something that is unfortunatly part of my life and has been for some time. I dont like talking about my reasons or my scars, but theyre there and as much as they disgust me because of the constant reminder they serve to me of a past i just cant let go of, im hoping one of these days i can proudly say that I havent self harmed for a while and my scars will fade like some of the people in this thread and some of the people I know in real life
 
anyone that has never dealt with this and makes the generalization that all cutters are attention seekers needs to shut their fucking mouth. the people that you KNOW are cutters tend to be the attention seekers, but for every 1 attention seeker, there are about 3 people who do a damn good job of hiding it from everyone.
 
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