^ Hey I am really sorry to hear about that, MS. It is a very tough situation, and if she has never been through it before, it can be rough. But since there always has to be an opposite for everything, the beauty in these situations is that if a relationship survives this, it can bring the two closer together.
It might sound weird, but when my dude locked up, I try to think of the positive, like, instead of thinking about how bad it sucks without him out here I try to remind myself that I GET an opportunity to be out here holding shit down for him, waiting till he gets home, you know? Also, tell your girl that it might not seem like it, but doing certain things (like sleeping in your shirts, sleeping on your side of bed, listening to your fave song etc) can really help ease the pain. I really liked writing to my man, it really made me feel close to him.. even tho we talk on the phone daily, there is something I like about writing. Plus, I like to get cute cards and I spend a bunch of time decorating the envelopes and doing stuff like that because oddly it makes me feel better. Also, I have written on his Facebook wall once a month since he has been gone.. and even though I know he can't see it, it made me feel better. She will find her own way.. and find her way of stuff that makes the pain less. Keep me posted and let me know how everything is going once things transpire a bit. Also, let your girl know there is an online forum that is pretty cool-its much like BL, but only for prison stuff. Lotsa girls (and some males) that have loved ones that are locked up. Not only do they offer support, but they have a wealth of information.. pretty much anything you'd need to know about various prison systems, rules, regs...etc. It can be found here:
http://www.prisontalk.com/forums/
I hope everything works out for you buddy!
