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Cannabis and the Parents

Last march on the first day of march break, my parents found a lighter in my pocket. They asked me about it, and i was really high at the time so i thought it would be a good idea just to come clean. So i told them i've been smoking pot for 3 years. I could of left out how long but i wasnt thinking properly. So i told them and they were shocked, they would of never though. I kinda thought they had an idea because i thought it was so obvious.
My mother stayed home that march break and i couldnt go anywhere, so it was the lamest march break of my life. Spend the whole time in my room, shuned by my family. couldnt go to the Puscifer concert. All my mom said to me was 'i want you to stop'. I was 16 at the time.
I didnt stop obviously, and since then my parents have found my pouch full of paraphernalia and weed and confiscated it. Now i don't take anything home with me, which sucks. whenever they found something they wouldnt confront me about it. i would just find it missing, my mother not talking to me, and i would know they took it.
My parents have also found cough syrup bottles, but thats a different matter.
 
First time my mom caught me smoking weed when I thought she was sleeping.
It was kinda funny when I think about it, trying to light a bowl downstairs with all the smoke rising upstairs to my mothers room.
Immediately she comes running downstairs "who's smoking the good weed" LOL
 
just a heads up, some parents will just never accept you smoking weed. thats the case with mine, my dad used to be an alcoholic so he's worried about me getting addicted to it and shit. which i guess is reasonable because i am addicted but its a functioning addiction. my mom has never even been drunk so drugs just scare her. they both hate that i smoke so i never do it around them otherwise my life would be very difficult. and i'm 18, a freshman in college.
 
I got caught for the first time in 9th grade, about a year into my smoking career. From then on the level of trust my parents have for me, even as I turned 21 this past year, is pretty small. Some parents just can't stand the idea that their kids is using drugs, for one reason or another. Even being honest with can sometimes not be the right action as it can diminish their trust in you, which is an integral part of a relationship.

It sucks right now with my parents that I can't be honest. Drugs are large part of my life, both academically and in my everyday life. I've taken a large interest in the world of drugs and everything that surrounds it. It's sad because they can't truly know me, or understand the world that I live in if they don't open up and shut off the judgment valves.

Eventually when I have no financial ties to my parents I plan on telling them I've been doing drugs for years and years, and to take a look at what I've been able to accomplish even with my drug use. I'd like to show them that it isn't the drug who causes the damage to ones life, it is the person who allows (inadvertently, or adventently) the drugs to take hold in their life. With proper monitoring, healthy relationships, and a good environment, the potential for a user to allow the drugs to cause problems in life is diminished. Not to mention with good resources like bluelight and erowid, one can stay on top of the harm reduction, which all users of any drug (OTC, prescribed, or illegal) should take advantage of. I personally try and promote healthy choices when it comes to drugs to all of my friends. I try when ever I can to spread the word of harm reduction, and I'd like to think I make a difference. I have many of my friends calling me up from time to time to make sure they are not going to run into any potential problems with combinations, or even ways to help prevent negative reactions to drugs from happening, ie bad trips.

Being in some sort of financial or underage bind with a parent can potentially make being honest with your parents a hard thing to do, which is very sad. Parents could be used to help promote safe places of ingestion, safe routes of transportation, and reliable monitoring (allowing to smoke on weekends after all homework is done [i would have been more than happy to show them my homework for the week]). Sadly with the way society is setup we promote delinquency with our children, putting them farther into harms way, potentially turning them into "criminals" in the eyes of our society, and even promoting children to fall into addictive tendencies.
 
I started smoking at 16 and have been smoking off and on for the last four years. I have never been caught, I have had my parents call me when I was high but they never confronted me about it. I would always smoke either at a friend's place or outside in my backyard when everyone was asleep.

I don't think they would make a big deal out of it if they found out, they were both flower children. I also suspect that they know and just don't want to confront me about it because there have been too many close calls for them not to know, or smell a lingering scent.
 
this thread did a lot better than i thought it would :D haha; anyways had a good long talk with the parents even mentioned smoking with the father but he wasnt too keen hahaha; they arent cool with it and dont want it anywhere around their house and well that is fair enough it is their house after all
but thanks for all the opinions guys for real
 
When I smoked weed for the first time I came home and it apparently took ages for me to find out how to open the door and my Mum immediately asked me "Did you take drugs ?" I told her I tried cannabis for the first time and then she just smiled and asked me "How was it ?". So she's kinda cool with it but still is in desperate hope it's just a "phase". I also tell her when I do drugs for example I'm planning to take LSD soon and told her about it and asked her if I could do it at home and if she could give me some Valium when I ask her if shit gets too hard. So we are kind of cool with each other having more of a friendish relationship.
My dad is a different story. Drugs are evil meh meh meh. We had this huge talk at a beach in Italy when we were drunk together and in the end he said "I don't know much about drugs anyways, I trust you as my son that you know youre shit, just don't become an emotional vegetable".
 
^Xayo said:
When I smoked weed for the first time I came home and it apparently took ages for me to find out how to open the door and my Mum immediately asked me "Did you take drugs ?" I told her I tried cannabis for the first time and then she just smiled and asked me "How was it ?". So she's kinda cool with it but still is in desperate hope it's just a "phase". I also tell her when I do drugs for example I'm planning to take LSD soon and told her about it and asked her if I could do it at home and if she could give me some Valium when I ask her if shit gets too hard. So we are kind of cool with each other having more of a friendish relationship.
My dad is a different story. Drugs are evil meh meh meh. We had this huge talk at a beach in Italy when we were drunk together and in the end he said "I don't know much about drugs anyways, I trust you as my son that you know youre shit, just don't become an emotional vegetable".
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Those are some parents to really appreciate man; sounds like just about the right balance
 
Started at age 11 or 12, now I am 33 ,will be 34 in May. My parents never cared about my weed smoking when I was young living at home, as my dad was(I found out later) a big coke user,and my mom smoked in the late 60;s and early 70's.
The only thing my dad said was that a lotta other hard drugs will be around weed since it's illegal like heroin and coke and other shit, so be careful and don't get busted!! lol, he said he did not want the cops kicking in his door at 6AM and take him to jail also for me being around the wrong people smoking weed. In other words watch out for narcs and shit...lol..
 
When my parents found out they said they rather have me getting shitfaced under there supervision and they tried to talk about the whole reefer madness commercials saying it would make me insane and it was like meth..
 
^Xayo said:
When I smoked weed for the first time I came home and it apparently took ages for me to find out how to open the door and my Mum immediately asked me "Did you take drugs ?" I told her I tried cannabis for the first time and then she just smiled and asked me "How was it ?". So she's kinda cool with it but still is in desperate hope it's just a "phase". I also tell her when I do drugs for example I'm planning to take LSD soon and told her about it and asked her if I could do it at home and if she could give me some Valium when I ask her if shit gets too hard. So we are kind of cool with each other having more of a friendish relationship.
My dad is a different story. Drugs are evil meh meh meh. We had this huge talk at a beach in Italy when we were drunk together and in the end he said "I don't know much about drugs anyways, I trust you as my son that you know youre shit, just don't become an emotional vegetable".
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You're lucky mate. Keep her close to your heart
 
Yea I really happy to have them. It's such a good feeling that they know about it. Especially since my mum always recognizes when I'm high and she would be very angry if I did on weekdays so she's also kind of controlling my use but not in a negative way.
 
I first smoked at 16 and started doing it regulary at 17. I was 17-18 when I just told her Iv'e done it one of the times she asked me before she ever actualy caught me. Her and my dad used do it before I was born. I'm 23 now and my mom isn't 100% is cool with it but it's really not that big of a deal to her. The main thing she doesn't like about it is the fact it is illegal and that if I get a criminal record it could ruin my life. She has enough comon sence to know that it's better and safer to be stoned than drunk.

Usually I could just smoke around the house without her careing but since I got in trouble with my doctor by failing a drug test a little bit back and am being drug tested again I kinda have to hide it to avoid her bitching at me about how I'm gonnna get in trouble with my doctor again. I do understand she is just loooking out for me since she doesn't want me to be cut off from my pain meds by my doctor.
 
^Xayo said:
Yea I really happy to have them. It's such a good feeling that they know about it. Especially since my mum always recognizes when I'm high and she would be very angry if I did on weekdays so she's also kind of controlling my use but not in a negative way.
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Thats awesome. Drugs aren't something to take lightly and building a responsible relationship with drugs (and not to mention your mom) will only benefit you as a person in the future.
 
my dad had a grow op while i was growing up. i think he quit smoking when i was pretty young. i didn't get into it till i was 18 or 19 when my uncle started growing. after that i had my dad, grandma and uncle supplying/funding my mj use.. it was mostly medical mj

I'm thankful my family has been supportive when they see that something is helping me

Speaking of, I haven't renewed my card since 08' and have only smoked on rare occasions since.. It's been 7+ months since i smoked. I think it's time to stock up again soon :)
 
My parents are accepting... They better be cause they toke too!!! which is awesome... there really isnt anything better than to be able to toke up with your mom and dad and just shoot the shit and not feel judged or bad.

They would much rather see my smoking a joint and being happy and productive then having a needle sticking out of my arm or a bottle in my hand ruining my life like other family members.
 
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