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Bluelight Singles thread "Living without justification" Part 2

Wacky said:
Can ALL the people in a relationship please get out of this thread:-


NOW!!!!!!!!!!! :p eg: Gabz,he,he,he,he,he........................ ;)
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whatcha going to do about it, huh? :P
*pushes you*




should i organise bl speed dating for everyone, then?
we could aerate goon... sparkling wine for all!!!
 
eloise said:
we could aerate goon... sparkling wine for all!!!
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Can we aerate it with Nitrous? That would spice up the evening :D

And to keep it on topic.... Single = Good. After looking back over the last stretch of my life, I have been so much happier since becoming single (and especially since I no longer live with the ex). There is downsides of course, sometimes you miss just having someone to cuddle when you come home, but for me (at the moment anyway) the good things about being single far outweigh the bad.
 
eloise said:
whatcha going to do about it, huh? :P
*pushes you*
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Like it kinky hey? he,he,he,he...................... ;)




It's strange I've been single for so long(Most of my life infact and NEVER had a long term or serious relationship.),I'm so use to it, I've forgotten what a relationship is like.If I found a girl anytime soon,it would probably feel really strange to be in one.Go figure!
 
Well, single is the way of life. I can't see myself having a girlfriend anytime soon, unless theres some AMAZING connection there.

Until then, i'll occupy myself with all the bullshit game playing that goes on in the intermediate stages of relationships. I mean, fuck.. i make a stupid ass mistake and then it switches this chick into a game playing bitch. Damn this power struggle. It's like, i don't really care about getting her that much, it's more that i get annoyed that i'm making stupid mistakes causing me to get played.

Note to everyone - text messaging is the fastest way to lose power in a relationship

But for those of you that still entertain the idea that there shouldn't be game playing and therefore ignore it's principles - message all you like.

It's the game of life.

Adikkal
 
^^^ Electreauxbella: I would LOVE to have a dog, but at the moment, I don't have a backyard, and I really don't know what I'm doing within the next 6 months, let alone the life-span of a dog :(

EDIT: I'm with you Adikkal, Single all the way, and texting = evil, never write anything down that can be used against you in ANY context at a later date. :X
 
RE: Texting

It took me repeated recent incidents with the same chick of sending text messages which gradually sucked away any sort of power i had in the relationship. Not so much what was said, but the fact that they went unanswered and when she'd msg me, i'd respond! Game playing to the max - i wasn't focused and dropped the ball.

The very nature of texting creates anticipation and mroe thought about the other person involved, when will they reply, what will they say, will they ask more questions blah blah blah. It adds unnecessary complexity and results in you risking any upper hand you have. AVOID IT AND SAVE ON PHONE BILLS!

i'm sure others will have a different take on it though but from my experience text = dangerous.

Adikkal
 
Hmm i dunno...

I think texting can be good when you just meet someone, it gives you both the opportunity to organise stuff and meetup if too shy to call, just impromptu texts are nice to recieve, and send...

They CAN be nasty in the sense of waiting and wondering, but generally its pretty obvious if the other parties not interested, by their reply... I think of texts the same as i think of msn and all the IM programs, same deal really when u like the person.
 
Lol I always get so paranoid when texting if they don't reply *immediately*. It could be for any reason (like they are out and there battery has run out or something) but in my head it's like "omg they haven't replied they don't like me"

Anyway I'm leaving this thread now since I'm no longer single. :)
 
Text messages fuck with my head. The waiting game drives me insane. One of my friends recently said she deleted the number of a boy she liked so she'd stop sending useless texts. I *need* to do this. I have however stopped sending texts and wait for the other to text me. The inactivity of my phone is killing me but whatever. Addikals right, it's the ultimate power game. But question: does everyone out there *know* its a power game, or is it just us that think too much?? What happens if the other person really doesn't think anything of waiting 3 hours before they reply - instead theyre just absent minded.
My phone bill is very high. Meh. Yeah, and come to think of it, didn't get me very far ;)
 
you need a phone cap!

I've been known to delete the numbers of exes in the past... problems is, im so good with numbers that i usually remember them even years after we've broken up :(
 
if anyone, including girls, ever gets a reply from me within three hours, i reckon they're the luckiest person in the world.

i totally understand the game-playing aspect to this (and have gotten myself in a knot about people's lack of replys far too many times), but like flg said, it's not always like that.

i still have a whole bunch of texts to reply to, because it takes me so much time to think of what to say, even if it's totally banal.
 
electreauxbella said:
you need a phone cap!

I've been known to delete the numbers of exes in the past... problems is, im so good with numbers that i usually remember them even years after we've broken up :(
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lol i know that feeling.... it sux..... its even worse when you remember the number belonging to a gf but use it thinking its another girls number
its anal.....
 
It's true: the ultimate power game. I think alot of people fail to realise this. It's like, sometimes i'll get a message from someone and i'll be busy and not think of replying until later - sometimes i forget completely then might send a random text a day later or something. Other times you get that message sound and the name is one you really wanted to hear from, you get kinda excited, read it then respond straight away and then wait..... and wait.....and think.....and wait..... and you hear that message sound....you get excited.....and find out it is from a friend asking some random shit....you get dissapointed.....you wait.....

It's just not an effective way of communicating. I mean, texts have their advantages, sometimes it works out but the risk of messing up your chances are high.

My advice - stick to phone calls. Short and sweet. It's almost like we *want* that uncertainty and anticipation involved in txt messaging, as if it provides some excitement/interest.

Adikkal
 
che - can't relate to that one.

straight up people - if you don't like someone you should just tell them. save them their 25 cents from the next sms you are going to send them if you aren't going to respond, or if you are going to play the power game. it's not cool to fuck with someone's head like that.
 
You get the message soon enough when they take a day to respond. I had a chick i was seeing do this too me about a month ago. But i have no ill will against her, because it's excactly the same thing i'd do.

After 2 weeks of no contact i sent her a friendly message asking how she was and if she was still going to the big day out. She took 2 days to respond with "yep, sure am" but nothing more. Needless to say i didn't bother contacting her about meeting up.
 
So leading on from this topic, let me know guys... own up, who of you plays games? Who consciously thinks about their actions and plans what to do?
Or do you all just wing it and hope for the best?

Pros/Cons?

Spark this discussion!

Adikkal
 
che_melbourne said:
phone bill before girl: $22.30 - 22 sms
phone bill after girl: $54.70 - 117 sms
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heh.
I know how that feels.
I wasn't even seeing this one and I recorded 600sms' in a month.

Since I basically cut all communications, my phone bill has dropped from ~150 to ~50

Good move, moe
 
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