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Bluelight Singles thread "Living without justification" Part 2

onetwothreefour said:
if anyone, including girls, ever gets a reply from me within three hours, i reckon they're the luckiest person in the world.

i totally understand the game-playing aspect to this (and have gotten myself in a knot about people's lack of replys far too many times), but like flg said, it's not always like that.

i still have a whole bunch of texts to reply to, because it takes me so much time to think of what to say, even if it's totally banal.
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sigh. I get instant replies from you when you want something =\

:p
 
Adikkal said:
So leading on from this topic, let me know guys... own up, who of you plays games? Who consciously thinks about their actions and plans what to do?
Or do you all just wing it and hope for the best?

Pros/Cons?

Spark this discussion!

Adikkal
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How about - I consciously think of what I want to say, but am brutally direct when I can afford to be. I dislike being toyed with, and hence, I dislike toying with others.

Planning occurs, but never toying.

I came to the conclusion a fair while ago that people who wish to fuck with my head in any way are not people worth knowing.
Guess that might explain why I'm single, but in all honesty, it doesn't affect me one way or other.
 
'Planned inaction' is the way imo

There's no quicker way to make someone realise they don't want something than to give it to them straight away.
 
Macksta said:
There's no quicker way to make someone realise they don't want something than to give it to them straight away.
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I really have to keep this in mind... :( Everyone's telling me to allow guys to chase me but all I see is that it as a game... Though, recent experiences has told me that maybe the chasing game is one that need to be played, so that people will treasure what they gain out of it...
 
That sounds painful doof!

I'm still in no where land, kind of fallen for someone i think (i dont even know what i want). But i dont want to give up on it, even though there is a another really interesting opportunity.

I know we cant always have what we want, but if you dont really know what you want .. should that mean you deserve nothing? Or settle for second best?

As for the game playing mentioned earlier, i try to avoid this at all costs. Straight forward .. no bullshit thankyou.
 
Schizo said:
*Steps graciously from the thread*

That's right people!

After 2 1/2 years of proud singledom, I've found someone I'm actually interested in! Things are going great at the moment, this is why I sound a lot chirpier than usual lol

See ya later! (Hopefully much, much later :P)
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Well, it's over. Just waiting for her to call so I can break up with her officially.

That, and I'm even more jaded about women than I was before.

Treat 'em like gold and they'll treat you like shit right back.

:( :( :(
 
Schizo said:
Well, it's over. Just waiting for her to call so I can break up with her officially.

That, and I'm even more jaded about women than I was before.

Treat 'em like gold and they'll treat you like shit right back.

:( :( :(
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I treated my ex like a queen. Never said a bad thing about her, said alot of compliments and all.

Later on when we were breaking up due to the fact I was going to move country. She said that she can't ever take my compliments and she said it lost it's meaning :(

One chick I was an asshole too, and she said she was falling in love with me even though she had a fiance.


Chicks are confusing indeed :(
 
It's not just women, it's humans.

Treat em mean keep em keen. It shouldn't be a surprise anymore. The better you treat someone, the nicer you are, the more things you do for them, the more boring you become. You lose that spark, that tension that provokes the question and curiosity. You become predictable and obtainable.

They 'like' you... but become less attracted to you. E.G. the 'nice guy' and "let's just be friends" category.

It's a fundamental paradox and i'm sure we've ALL experienced it many times. The more you like someone and the more you show it, the less attracted they will feel to you. They begin to act less interested, become more nonchalant about things and the result is you become MORE attracted. See how this works?

It's a paradox. You can either choose to acknowledge and embrace it or continue with your normal ways. It comes down to controlling your emotions, not always acting on those urges, that desire to speak to them at 2am in the morning. It takes a level head to stop and think "will this get me what i want?"

The result is you will become cooler and more nonchalant about things and the more this happens, the less involved emotionally you will become with girls/guys you are interested in. Is it better? Who knows.... It's certainly more in control, steadier and without the ups and downs of emotional flux. It enables you to find out more quickly whether or not you really click with someone without time consuming emotional hang ups so it's more efficient. However, without much emotion involved, it rings sort of hollow.

8) Who knows? It's all very interesting though.

Adikkal
 
this is where i belong.
i have not been in a relationship for about 4 yrs. partly by choice.
i had a new girlfriend every month or two from yr 9 until just after schoolies. - it just lost meaning.
lately though, my party life has quietened down my thinking has changed.
 
you been saying our guna get that done for some long now doofy bout bloody time you finaly did it

had the oh so fun where are we going convo with a FB last night

the funny thing is i can only see it getting less physical
and going back to just being friends

oh well spose you can only find out by trying
 
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