^^ The ban must be enforced. I've spent far far too long being someone that someone else wants me to be. I have to spend some time getting to know who I am and who I want to be.
I'm not kidding myself into thinking it will be easy (it has already proven difficult at times), but it's something that I really think I need to do.
I ended my last relationship not because I didn't like her any more, but because being in a relationship was not making me happy.... in fact was making me unhappy.... As messy as still living with her is, and it has gotten extremely messy at points, I'm still happier being single than I was in a relationship.
None of this means that I am swearing myself off sex for that time-period. Dear God No! But I will be making sure that anyone I get close to knows exactly where I stand on the relationship front.