Bluelight Singles thread "Living without justification" Part 2

[xcidium]

I am goodlooking and smart and fuck well.

Best Pickup line/quote/post/whatever............EVER!
:D

 

[Backo]

Does everyone turn into a social retard and complete pussy when they get into a relationship? I seriously dont know how the world works anymore

 

[kandyraverchick]

^ I tend to lose my guard to a certain degree, yes.

 

[shorza]

^
Do explain...

 

[Adikkal]

Does everyone turn into a social retard and complete pussy when they get into a relationship? I seriously dont know how the world works anymore

Some, nay, many people do as they get swept up in the whole "ohh my god how beautiful is it to have a partner" type of thing and as you said, become pussys. Whilst I am not as sharp as I was when I was single I am definitely far from losing my edge. Hence why it's good to still have a challenging partner to make sure you don't slip into pussydom.

Adikkal

 

[kandyraverchick]

^
Do explain...

People have different faces that they often (unintentially) portray for various social situations.

Getting to know someone as a friend often takes a fairly extensive period of time. If you're any good at picking characters, you'll have a fairly good idea regardless of the mask.. although they'll still be sides to a person that leave you with a big fat question mark. When a person exposes the reasons as to 'why' (the questions you were wondering), you step closer and closer to the inner-depths of another being. It could be that you like them more for who they really are, it could be that you like them less...

The gradual process is somewhat important to most people. Revealing who you really are, is pretty much wearing your heart of your sleeve.

"Here you go guys, these are my weaknesses. Feel free to hold them against me at any time".

Noooo....

Human beings can be complete asses, if they want to be. It is important to develop trusting relationships first and foremost.

In a relationship, especially if you've found someone you consider worthwhile getting serious with - you're more likely to expose your true colours at a more rapid rate. That's because things progress at a more rapid rate on pretty much all levels.

 

[leecie]

Does everyone turn into a social retard and complete pussy when they get into a relationship? I seriously dont know how the world works anymore

I dunno about everyone but you most certainly do you

 

[Shnouzerpuff]

An interesting couple of days...

I made a direct move on my boss on Saturday night. We have been heading out with each other every weekend and I was 100% convinced of a mutual attraction.

Unfortunately I got rebuffed... but she seemed flattered and there is no awkwardness or anything there at all. I have a niggling suspicion that she does like me, but because of a few factors such as

- the work situation.
- my - as anyone who has followed this thread for a while can attest to - unwarranted reputation.
- the fact that I was involved for a while with her arch nemesis.

May be why she knocked me back.... At least that is what my ego is telling me


Then today I felt both violated and flattered... I ordered a new book from the bookstore (Don't Try This At Home - Dave Navarro) and since there was a bit of a wait I had to give my name/address/phone etc so they could contact me when it got in.

Well halfway through night class at uni I get a msg... turns out the girl who served me in the bookstore grabbed my number from the form and wanted me to come hang out.

It was flattering but I also felt kind of... I don't know. Like my privacy was being a bit butchered.

I refused.



Curious though, how would you guys feel about the bookstore situation? Think that is a bit of an invasion of privacy? Have you ever done anything like that to a client at work? Have had it happen to you?

 

[preacha]

I am goodlooking and smart and fuck well. But I am going to be single for years to come. I can see it now. I can predict the future.

but if you were SMARTER, you would have replaced your first 'and' with a comma instead. OH SNAP!

 

[BREAKaBEAT]

It would be snap, if someone other than yourself related intelligence to proper usage of grammar.

And ! I did that on purpose, for effect. Dick.

Crack that. Fucker.

 

[preacha]

i lose

 

[BREAKaBEAT]

I dunno about everyone but you most certainly do you

*NODS*

I am still apologizing for your behaviour at my party.

 

[Adikkal]

Curious though, how would you guys feel about the bookstore situation? Think that is a bit of an invasion of privacy? Have you ever done anything like that to a client at work? Have had it happen to you?

Hahah, i've done something similar to that... only because I was pretty damn sure there was some attraction there. Numerous times i'd seen her, strong EC, sexy smile etc.

Ended up meeting for coffee and we were verrrry opposite people and left it at that.

In retrospect it's not something i'd do again. You should always get someones number from them, not via a third party.

Adikkal

 

[m4dd0g]

Curious though, how would you guys feel about the bookstore situation? Think that is a bit of an invasion of privacy? Have you ever done anything like that to a client at work? Have had it happen to you?

I think I'd feel flattered; and somewhat curious about the girl.
She could be desperate, have balls of steel or maybe just socially leftfield.
If I was bored I'd probably msg back saying I wasnt interested, but would like to catch up anyways.
Curiosity has always been my downfall

 

[Wacky]

Curious though, how would you guys feel about the bookstore situation? Think that is a bit of an invasion of privacy? Have you ever done anything like that to a client at work? Have had it happen to you?

I'd also feel very flattered.In fact I would take up the offer .As long,as she was NOT too young or too old compared to my age.I'd just see it as an experience,basically,"nothing ventured nothing gained".

Could be missing out and left wondering 'what if?' If it was crap,then nothing lost,but I would hate more the 'what if?'

Personally,I'm sick of meeting people that go about most things the 'boring and conservative way'.At least it was a positive contact reason and NOT telemarketing trying to sell something.

Also,sounds like she would most likely put out easily,he,he,he,he......... jokes .

 

[anna!]

I would feel really angry about it, actually.

It's almost akin to telemarketing. Using your phone number for purposes other than what you intended.

It's probably illegal.

(Do you think she lied about the book not being in stock so she could get your phone number?)

 

[smart-e]

I would be flattered and I would go out with the person. I would feel a bit annoyed that they used my private details in such a manner but Id get over it.

 

[Wacky]

It's probably illegal.

Quick call the police 8)

 

[muzby]

Curious though, how would you guys feel about the bookstore situation? Think that is a bit of an invasion of privacy? Have you ever done anything like that to a client at work? Have had it happen to you?

i think it was rather sweet and you should be flattered...

i've had it happen to me through work when i was a sales rep and had to leave my card... i didn't follow through, cause i don't get my meat where i get my bread...

i'm very cautious not to hit on people when they are at work, cause i know how uncomfortable i feel..

that being said, i did have a chick try sign me up for an american express card once, and i ended up seeing her for a couple of weeks (but i'm a sucker for an english accent)

 

[drEaMtiMe*@#]

i agree about avoiding getting phone numbers via a third party; in my opinion your better off doing it yourself.

i had a similar thing to the bookstore happen to me once at a place that i was working temporarily. basically i got a job doing filing work at this company three weeks prior to christmas. in those three weeks i got to know some of the people there a little (as you do), amongst who was this guy that i ended up talking to probably the most. so three days before christmas (or however long that it was) it’s my final day there, and the boss gets me to write down my mobile number in his notebook so that he could call me after christmas break in case any more work came up for me, etc. so i did so, said my goodbyes, and was on my way. about a week later though i get a message on my mobile phone from an unknown number, which i couldn’t make any sense of, hence i prescribed must have been sent to the wrong number and decided not to reply. then a day later i get another message from the same number, asking me whether this is my number and that this is blahblah from the place that i worked and that he was sorry about sending me a message by mistake the other day.

basically what happened was that the only reason the guy from where i worked had been able to contact me was because he’d somehow gotten my number from where i had written down in the bosses note book. anyway, since my initial impressions of him at work were that he was a nice guy but whom i wasn’t interested in much else with; and then in addition to the whole awkwardness which ensued after his approach when he wanted to hookup - i decided to decline his offer. i’ll admit though that i was also flattered in a way, but i don’t know... like i said, it was when i put everything together that things just didn’t appeal to me.

so yeah, best get peoples phone numbers off them personally if you’re wanting them for those kinds of things i say. but also, i just wanted to highlight again that it was the combination of both factors not just the invasion of privacy thing that turned me off. although... i’d probably say no to the bookstore thing too (unless i had also taken an instant liking to the person but hadn’t done anything about it for whatever reason). but that’s just me. i know some other people that would say, ‘why not? give it a go and see.’ too though, and may be right.