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Bluelight Singles thread "Living without justification" Part 2

Damn, listen to you all get into specififcs

Dictionary.com says....

One who is digustingly foul or filthy and often considered sexually promiscuous. Used especially of a woman or girl

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It is similar to being a slut or a hoe however a skank brings more connotations of dirty, tacky "I get my jewellry from a gum machine and my singlets from spotlight" type of lass.

Adikkal
 
plazma said:
So a one night stand means that SHE is a skank? I'm sorry, I just spat my drink at my screen. I didn't realise we'd slipped back in time to the 1950s, I'd better go and get my tuxedo. Excuse me but WHAT THE FUCK? I had been under the apprehension that at some point in the last 40 years we'd got the whole sexual revolution and equal rights thing at least partly out of the way and I didn't attend the whole meeting but I'd thought at some point it was deemed okay for girls to want to have sex as much as guys, therefore I'm kind of perplexed by muzby's obviously horrifically chauvinistic statement.

Shit, don't get me wrong, there are skanks out there, but they're skanks because they're bitchy treacherous backstabbing swine who fuck on a first date, whore you for drugs, then sleep with your best friend. NOT because they have one night stands.

-plaz out-
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Love the reply and agree wholeheatedly. I really couldn't have put it any better myself.

In my opinion if a girl is supposedly a skank when she goes out and has a one night stand, then a guy who does exactly the same thing would be called a male slut, right? I mean we wouldn't want to have double standards or anything. ;)
 
kandyraverchick said:
My personal opinion:
1. Yes. He'll love the reaction.
2. No. He means what he says.
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wow... you're smarter than i give you credit for... ;)

$200 to the girl in the black dress... both correct answers...


i love reactions in this thread.. people always take thngs so personal... :D


and for the record, i think that one night stands, be they from guys or girls are pretty skanky.... i'm quite happy to stand by that comment and i'm happy to have the skank label attached to my forehead too.. part of the reason i wanna clean up my act.. :)

anyways.. i'll be back in another couple of weeks to stir the pot a little more... ;) next time i might mention something about how girls shouldn't be allowed to drink... or maybe that i need a girlfriend so that all my ironing gets done... :p


and anna, sorry about the tupperwear post. what i meant is that you should change the tires on your car every 30000 kms.
 
muzby said:



and for the record, i think that one night stands, be they from guys or girls are pretty skanky.... i'm quite happy to stand by that comment and i'm happy to have the skank label attached to my forehead too.. part of the reason i wanna clean up my act.. :)

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I guess you've justified it somewhat, but we'll have to agree to disagree on this one ;)

The thing I still don't comprehend is that fuckbuddies are ok in this equation. I mean to me, a fuckbuddy isn't that far removed from a one night stand. Essentially it's really just a series of one night stands. It's still two people using each other for sexual gratification...
 
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^^^ I agree dude...

I've had a few one night stands' lately... And I personally don't think there's ANYTHING more skankier... Why be with someone just that once... It's just stupid. It what relieves you for those 3 seconds? (Granted, best three seconds of her life)...

But why bother? Does it make you honestly happy? Just to be with that person for the one night, to have 3 months worth of lack of cuddles all fullfilled for that short amount of time? And is it right that the person you're with, although you and he/she are both in aggreeance that this is a one off thing, is it right that you start getting attached to the other person for those few other's you are together?

Don't get me wrong, I'm deffinatly the type of guy that get's attached to people very very easilly. As much as I go into a Friendship saying to myself in my head "It's fine, you won't start falling for this person, just be friends and it's all good", but then somwhere, somehow things go right up shit creek.

There are always people out there that say "I'm just out there having some fun, having a great time, I don't want to be tied down"... Then in 2-3 years' time they turn around wondering why they're single, and they wish that someone would be there, for company & love. Love is one of the biggest lessons in life, we'll continually do what we "Think" is right, but although we learn from our mistakes, it's one of the only things in life where we'll continue making the same old mistakes and finding ourselves in the same situations.

I guess in the end, do you really want to go out knowing you'll meet someone for a long time.... Or a good time... Stupid pun, but when it all boils down to it, that's what it's all about...
 
^yeah, but until you meet someone you think is worthy of taking you off the singles' market, of course you're going to be of the 'don't tie me down' mindset.

for me, it wasn't a choice to get outta the game- but i met him and suddenly i couldn't not let things go the way they have. there was definitely never a conscious decision that i was sick of being single or wanted love or whatever. i honestly didn't give a fuck.

but yeah.. when you find someone you so utterly respect and think so fking highly of.. your mindset can change. definitely more of a factor than waking up one day wondering where your life has gone at the sad old age of 20-something :P ;)
 
eloise said:
...waking up one day wondering where your life has gone at the sad old age of 20-something :P ;)
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20-something!?!

/me stumbles teary eyed over to the "What made you frown today" thread
 
drEaMtiMe*@# said:
i definitely know that there are a few species of birds who only have one partner their whole lives and if that partner should prematurely die they never find or have sex with another partner again. anway, obviously we're not the same as birds, and i totally agree with all the stuff breakA said about the catholic church, it just got me thinking in a general sense, is all is all.

also isn't there a quote by someone that goes something along the lines of 'the opposite of love is not hate, it's indifference.'? anyway, i like that, and i totally agree with it.
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Total agreement. If you look at it on the emotional scale, love and hate are not opposites, more diffent sides to the same coin. While indifference is down the other end of the emotional scale.

My reasoning for this : If you hate somebody, then they are taking up some of your thoughts, and by thinkind about how much you hate that person it puts it colser to love rather than further away from it.
 
I asked this a few pages back, but it got lost among the answers to another question that got posted so I'm reposting :)

katmeow said:


I've been on BL for nearly 3 years now and I've seen quite a few BL love affairs run their course in a pretty public fashion at times. I always have a bit of an uncomfortable giggle at the spats that happen, particularly in this thread. Something I've been thinking about recently is how people deal with the etiquette of breakups in an increasingly online world.

For those who have dated someone who also features prominently in your online life (whether it be bluelight, livejournal or other webforums), how did you cope when you broke up? Did your breakup become open slather online or did you keep it to yourselves? Did you or your ex continue to post or did one or both of you stop posting? How did you feel about posting about new r'ships or reading about your exes?

And to those who haven't had a r'ship with someone you know online, how do you feel about reading the demise of someone else's r'ship online?
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Hrmmm….

The reason why no one answered your question is because we can’t deal with it online, answering that question would expose more about our relationships with in the bluelight community. The unfortunate thing is that the bluelight community can be very clicky at times, This can make opinions very biased.

I have learnt and thank bluelight for my break up of a 3 year relationship with a girl who I loved, long storey cut short, she ran off with one bluelighter and left that bluelighter for another. Yes I was very angry and lost many bluelight friends and gained new ones too.

So to answer ya question, the reason why we don’t like to go public with it, since bluelight is a community based on the net with words and not feelings, and yes at times it may be clicky and so forth, bringing personal lives into bluelight is just like another appreciation thread.
 
I'll answer it kat! ;)

I've had one break up with a fairly well known member of BL which ended up spilling over into BL to some degree. Can't remember the details exactly but I do remember a fairly heated fight that actually got quite a few other bluelighters involved and was promptly deleted [as it should have been]. There was also a post in Words that turned into a slanging match and in the end I deleted all my posts in it because it's so stupid to fight on a fucking forum.

That person no longer posts much on the board [if at all] but that has nothing to do with me and much more to do with the fact he realised how lame BL was and got out while the going was good. ;)

I'd have no problems reading anything he wrote - in fact I'm interested to see how he's been going. I don't think seeing him post ever bothered me at all, even after we had just broken up.

There's one other relationship breakup that I remember quite clearly and it was pretty messy. I think sometimes people might use the internet to indirectly get a message to someone without having to contact them directly. Either that or use a forum/ livejournal to get the support they require.

What about you, kat? You should probably answer your own questions. ;)
 
katmeow said:
And to those who haven't had a r'ship with someone you know online, how do you feel about reading the demise of someone else's r'ship online?
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As i'm perpetually single and destined to be for the rest of time, i do employ a degree of schadenfreude when reading about other people's messy breakups :p
 
Rubber_Duck said:
The unfortunate thing is that the bluelight community can be very clicky at times, This can make opinions very biased.
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That's an understatement. At times this place is:-

"More inbred, than guests on The Jerry Springer Show".


Also,to answer the question,I find it sad when reading on here about bluelight break ups that turn ugly.I tend to let the people vent and don't get involved.
 
ive come the relisation im gunna be single for quite some time to come

1) the girl im looking for either nolonger exists (please see that as she is unlikly to be single so thuse meaning she dose not exist)

2) being some one who is more enjoying being at home than going ot the pub or a club im lesslikly to meet some one (i think im starting ot get over my party lifstykle and enjoy doing other things than sopend all week and half the weekend recovering from one night out)

3) being in a new city its hard to meet and breaking to a new click of friends as they already have past conections with each other and its always hard being the new kid in school so to speak specialy when you are more pron to be a shy person who enjoys thewre own time

so basicly im farked

oh well back the the drawing board
 
im single

im also not in australia.

come overseas for some real man, real american blood...
 
I am goodlooking and smart and fuck well. But I am going to be single for years to come. I can see it now. I can predict the future.
 
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