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Cosmic Mist said:
I find it i nteresting to note that as soon as you become unavailable it seems that that makes you all the more attractive to others... Since having removed myself from the market in a very semi-permanent way, it has come to my attention that people for whom a burned a semi sort of a flame for also carried a semi sort of a flame for me. It seems that people are scared by the potential o factually being with you, but when you';re unavailable, then they feel they can tell you these things.

What is with that??? :\ <-- confused face
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The grass is always greener over the fence.
 
flirting is good :) :) 'hi 1234'

gettin all depressed cos ur single is bad. that way, u'll NEVER find someone. and isnt it true, the more u look, the less u find?
 
mr fluffy: ive been suggesting we should call this thread the desperate and dateless for the last year!!!

went to a part at the uni last nite. ahh the memories ya no hot guys/gals, ugly guys/gals, someone had too much to drink and chucking all over the floor in the uni bar :) no that wasnt me thankfully.

think ill go back to drinking at bars. just moved back closer to the city on monday and loving it already :D Still single but I dont know I much happier this way.
 
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about 3 pages of posts.
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ha.

Cosmic Mist: People think they have all the time in the world to make their move when you're single and when you're suddenly unavailable it makes them think they may have missed their chance. It's also the thrill of the chase. Girls in relationships are 'untouchable' which makes them that much more attractive.

That being said, I'm the complete opposite. When I find out a guy I like is in a relationship I don't find them nearly as appealing. I guess that's a very good thing.
 
well, here's my opinion CM. it's the old fear of commitment. as long as we can commit we stand back, 'cos we be scared shit, as soon as that person is taken we can confess our desire, 'cos nothing's likely to happen. it maintains the status quo, and proves to us just how unworthy we are. i'd like to see if you could do an experiment. respond in kind to this person that's come to the party late, and see how they run screaming as soon as they sense that something's likely to happen. :)
 
actually i have to agree with Fluffy there to some degree.
I also have trouble settling on one person... of recent times Ive been interested in more than one girl so I cant decide which to go for... and instead of asking both and seeing what happens ive held back waiting for the decision to present itself...
 
Cosmic Mist said:
I find it i nteresting to note that as soon as you become unavailable it seems that that makes you all the more attractive to others... Since having removed myself from the market in a very semi-permanent way, it has come to my attention that people for whom a burned a semi sort of a flame for also carried a semi sort of a flame for me. It seems that people are scared by the potential o factually being with you, but when you';re unavailable, then they feel they can tell you these things.

What is with that??? :\ <-- confused face
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dam it dani...u know my secret now...ive always had a secret crush on u! ;) =D
 
I think that while this thread is generally negative, breakabeat is a bit off the money when she says everyone here is desperately waiting for someone to complete them. I think a good majority of people in this thread would settle for good sex and good conversation.

Okay, story time.

I was sitting a friends place last Saturday getting really, really, really stoned and was just at that giggly stage (heehee... luv the giggles) when another friend came over, let's call him Jarrod. It's about 2am and Jarrod had just come from a club up the road and had a really bright red cheek on one side of his face so we asked him what happened.

Two weeks ago Jarrod had started dating a former Neighbours girl. Of course, nothing had happened yet, but being the big egomanic Jarrod is, he told all his friends he'd fucked her. All of them, being the guys they were all said "Oh, good on ya! You're the best, You're the fuckin man, blah blah blah, etc." Of course, this got back to said girl who hadn't fucked Jarrod at all.

Anyway Jarrod had turned up to the club and she came right up to him and slapped him... hard. This isn't the best story to be told when you've got the giggles cause then you don't stop laughing for half an hour, it really hurts after the first five minutes.
 
Boy: "I met a girl the night before I met you and things to be going somewhere, she's a legal secretary too"

Me: "Thanks for ur honesty, you can't go wrong with a legal sec, all the best"

Boy: "I'm still keen to go clubbing/pubbing with you, if you'll have me?"

DAMN MEN! They are either down right arseholes or too nice for their own good!
 
Personally i like to go with the idea that the said person feels as though they've missed their opportunity... this however is a kind of silly line of thought to take, as far as i am concerned, because people aren't meant to stay with each other forever in my opinion, therefore there will always be another chance at some stage... ;)

Stars: Damnit!! I never knew!! You should have told me hon - we could have worked something out... i am bi after all! ;)
 
BopGirl said:
Boy: "I met a girl the night before I met you and things to be going somewhere, she's a legal secretary too"

Me: "Thanks for ur honesty, you can't go wrong with a legal sec, all the best"

Boy: "I'm still keen to go clubbing/pubbing with you, if you'll have me?"
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READ : If things don't work out with the other girl, it'd be nice to keep you warm over here so I can come back to you should I feel like it. Its demeaning to you of course, but as I hold the power in this relationship, you'll just follow whatever I say, rght?

I hope you've got this guy in the 'It's over' category... the 'too nice' thing certainly does not actually apply here.
 
^^^^ You couldn't be more close to the truth! He's out believe me :) Thanks for helping me realise I did the right thing :)

Miss Apple: Come on, admit it, your just jealous cos you don't flirt as much as Backo and I ;) But ... don't panic ... this flirting will eventually pay off, we'll start dating and you won't see us in this thread any longer :D
 
stop postwhoring all of you

i'm serious, we agreed to keep this crap out of the thread. You have email and chat for this, there's no need to litter the board with it. I'm going to go through and delete all the meaningless back and forth chatter from this thread if it happens again.

Think before you post.
 
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kitty: don't worry, this will be my only post on the issue (no post-whoring, ok), but i just wanted to point out that most of us (at least, those that post in this thread) *didn't* agree to keep all this stuff out - iirc, most people were quite happy with the way the thread was.

of course, their were plenty of dissent, but those that are annoyed always speak loudest. i know there's a commonly used phrase that says that better, but i don't recall it :)

anyway, back on to the actual singles thing...maybe i can add something interesting (probably not), by posing a question/situation...

my current problem is that i have three subjects at uni, over two days a week. two of the subjects have a lecture and a tute to attend (on the same day), and the other is a four-hour tute/lecture/film. ok, so there's a girl i like (oooh) in my four-hour class, but i'm fucked if i can figure out how to do anything about it, considering i only ever see her once a week, and our discussions (obviously) are never gonna last any longer than ten-fifteen minutes...

i'd do the whole "wanna grab a coffee after class?" thing, but (i'm shy and) i know everyone's totally fu><0r3d after class and just wants to go home...grr @ stupid arts course with shitty subjects :P :(
 
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If you actually read back through the threads in question the most common culprits actually didn’t say anything much about what they did/didn’t want in the thread. The ones who spoke out were the ones who actually usually have something to contribute but still wanted to be able to post lightheartedly every now and again.

There is no need to post just for the sake of posting, it’s in the guidelines (which you all should have read) the singles thread, although we do often let it go doesn’t actually get special treatment so the postwhoring crap and all this chat we put up with really shouldn’t occur, we allow it to a point but really it's been over the top.


As for 1234’squestion – do you have to have a study partner, can you come up with some questions about the material, is there something you’ve got in common that you could strike up a conversation about, do you have a mutual friend or mutual friend of a friend?

I understand what you say about everyone being buggered after class but perhaps you could meet for a before-class coffee or something the next week.

Just ask the girl, semester is nearly over and worst case scenario she may be in different units to yours next semester... seriously though you should ask. It's my new motto in life - I'd rather regret doing something than spend forever thinking "what if". (yes that thinking does often get me into trouble but at least the trouble is a hell of a lot of fun)

I only wish I had time for regretting doing something. Between full time work, uni and all the family stress that comes from my sister being sick, all i want to do is have a hot bath and crawl into bed... although there is a very distinct possibility that all this will change very soon. There must be something really attractive about a stressed out workaholic because i've had more offers in the past fortnight than in the past year and i think it's about time i actually gave someone a chance.
 
onetwothreefour said:
my current problem is that i have three subjects at uni, over two days a week. two of the subjects have a lecture and a tute to attend (on the same day), and the other is a four-hour tute/lecture/film. ok, so there's a girl i like (oooh) in my four-hour class, but i'm fucked if i can figure out how to do anything about it, considering i only ever see her once a week, and our discussions (obviously) are never gonna last any longer than ten-fifteen minutes...

i'd do the whole "wanna grab a coffee after class?" thing, but (i'm shy and) i know everyone's totally fu><0r3d after class and just wants to go home...grr @ stupid arts course with shitty subjects :P :(
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Mate, we're all the same. All tired, all pushed hard, all rather be doing something else. That being the case, you have about 10-15 minutes to grab her phone number. That's all you need to do. Plenty of time. Everything else you're planning can happen much much later, when you're both in better spaces. But in that little space you have with each other, approach her, be funny, be yourself and at the end of a brief conversation, ask her. Be firm, but respect her wish if it's a 'no'. Let her know that you WANT the phone number though, so you can continue your discussion some other time when you're both up for it. That's all you have to do. Talk to her until its the right time, and ask for what you want. You'll know if your chasing the wrong girl right about that point, in which case you won't need her number anyway. So ask.

;)
 
thank god for that. thanks kitty :)

1234 - take candyflip's advice. he knows what it's about ;) just say hello to her. you'd be amazed how rare it is for people just to make first contact. it says a lot. and then, just say you're on your way somewhere but can you get her number. what girl could possibly resist :)
 
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