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Bluelight Singles - from begining to end! don't we love the merge feature!

Originally posted by doofqueen
...i always see personality as more attractive then looks...

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hun...i know where ur coming from. for me personality is also important...as is looks...i find it often hard to find them both the at the same time...*shrugs*...

in all honesty though? i would prefer to sit down with a guy and have a coffee and laugh, watch a dvd or something, have a decent convo any day...

if it was a date? then i would give it time for some physical attraction to occur...maybe a few dates. but if it came to the crunch where i still didnt find him semi attractive...it wouldnt make me shallow or feel shallow in any way. even if we didnt sleep with each other. because i would of gotten to know him by that stage...spent decent time with him and still b able to part as friends knowing that his personality is still what i like.
 
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imo doof love, its probly best to end it/ set things straight before it gets to messy hun...for his sake and urs... :\

draws a stick man in the dirt on the ground round the camp fire... ;)
 
Doofqueen maybe its just that in my life ive always been into selling myself so i always make big deals of little things

It has gotten me many jobs but not many girlfriends... hehehe maybe girls arent interested in being sold a person.

I always come with Steak Knives... any interest?
 
yeah i know...i told him that i didnt want a relationship and that he freaked me out and he was all like 'oh im sorry i didnt mean that...i just wanted 2 be friends and see how we go from there' etc etc but he's sending me messages to see if i want to hang out and stuff

I'm going to say i just want to be friends :)
 
There is no emotioncon for how im feeling

BOYA ive got control of this thread again
and now im leaving never to return
 
Backo said:
I always come with Steak Knives... any interest? [/B]
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Hun, lose them and see what happens !


I just want to say a few things on my thoughts from what i have read from this thread and basically i reckon having a partner doesnt make you complete, therefore NOT having one doesnt make up any part of who you are, what you are doing or where you are going.

What im trying to say is that when you are with someone, unless you are in a really unhealthy dependant relationship, you are not "partnered", you are not a part of that person, you are still your own person, you just happen to spend a large portion of your otherwise useless time with somone else.

Therefore the term "single" is a load of shit. You are not single, you are not partnered, you are not some demeaning label of your sexual status. Being single has been made a label to be ashamed of and a signal that you are not "loved" or whatever. People also assume that you are less happy if you dont have a partner and you are always searching for one to make up for that happiness that is suposibly lost in your life

Being 'single' is not some skin infection you cant get rid of and are trying to treat with every lotion available on the market. Who you are doesnt make up who you are seeing. Who you are is made of your personality, where you have come from and most importantly where you are going. Dont bash me, I have small muscles and cant fight back much, but I know there is more important stuff to be worrying about, stuff that maybe if you concerntrated on making your life better in other area's , then only better things can follow. Like love you need, instead of loveless relationships we all chase instead.


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ps: I think this thread is far too negative and doesnt focus on the positives of being without a partner. Every one seems like they are in a desparate search for someone else. Find yourself first.

Sorry for the rant, I swear I wont come back

*runs*
 
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BREAKaBEAT said:
Hun, lose them and see what happens !
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lol u took me seriously... pfft if u read above u would see I talk alot of BS.... ahhh the differences between real life an online personas.

I get what u are saying but i dont think we singles in this thread spend the whole time pitying ourselves... but I think many question why they are still single... i dont think they are looking for pity.
meh as i said im not introspective enough to post here plus its not healthy to keep saying why WHY WHY

so yeah ill add my usual Macksta disclaimer to this one
 
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Cosmic Mist said:
Wow - this thread is over whelming... 8)

Cohaa: I think the problem is that you try too hard. As concerns relationships, people who smack of effort are instantly unappealing to me (I don't know about the rest of you) therefore i would never choose to be with someone who didn't seem to be genuine (which is how i perceive people who try too hard - because they're never relaxed, and always worried about what the other people are thinking...)
Don't get me wrong, effort and forethought are good, but there is a line between throughfulness and trying too hard...
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yeah... i know... i do try too hard...

but it is very hard for me to relax. i hate sitting around and just flowing with the current. its not natural for me to do this. i like to feel i am making a difference to the course of my life. i know this is not a realistic outlook (at work, my bosses and the big kahuna bosses are the ones making the decisions, how can it be any different in the outside world) and it is probably wise to relax more and go with the flow. but i still cling on to this notion that i am in control of my own life. i know it seems stupid or something, but its there.

for the last 5 years of my life, i have been in total control of it (or so i thought). all the work at university i did i was the one determining how well i did at it. in all the group activities, i always assumed leadership to make sure that we succeeded. i am not used to being out of control. it is new for me.

i just wish i knew i would succeed. if i was sure of success one day, i could relax and enjoy the ride, but i have never taken anything for granted. i assume that if i do nothing then nothing will happen. i will fail. this is very irrational but it is hard for me to break a cycle that has served me very well through my studies, and in my opinion got me to a job that i probably don't belong in or deserve to have.

it also hurts when people don't ring you back. what am i meant to do? just not think about it? i mean, its not like i have anybody here who i can come home to and talk to... all i have is the internet. there is nobody up here to listen to my problems and thoughts. this is driving me around the bend. hense some of my crazy and zany posts lately. i am a social person and i need to socialise.

anyways, i think i've gone far enough up that tangent for now, again wallowing in my own self-pity.

Cohaa.
 
^^^ lol

now back to the singles thread.... is there a word in Klingon for Loneliness...
 
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BREAKaBEAT said:
...Every one seems like they are in a desparate search for someone else. Find yourself first.
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i would generally comment on this...but i feel infuriated enough as it is...

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the short version of it...

not all who post in here are in desperate search for something or someone else...thats to much of a generalisation for me...if im over stepping the mark then please tell me by all means...but imo i dont think i am...im not searching for anyone or am depserate for anyone or anything...and i know their are othes in here that are the same as me.

this thread to a lot of people provides somewhere for people to express aspects of being single that they want to discuss...

if u find it to be to negative then y not start a conversation within this thread to lighten it up???

...just my 2c anyways...

backo: do u come with those steak knives? ;) reow!
 
actually to be perfectly honest...

SAYING FIND YOURSELF IS SOOO PATRONISING

im pretty sure that most people in her arent the type to go on spiritual journey's to know what they are truely on about.... I look in a mirror say the things ive done what my plans are for the future.. thats me ive been located. =D

Stars would u like a free demonstration?
 
^^^ there was this movie on SBS once about these Lesbian nun drug addicts.... ..... was pretty cool ;)
 
Backo ... will you be my back up??

If we're both still single at 50 let's get married baby! ;)

You always gotta have a back up!
 
fuck it if i dont get a fuck in the next 5 mins u can be my fuck buddy..... Stars is also more than welcome

ohhh aint I sweet....

No I am not that horny...... yet.
 
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