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Bluelight Singles - from begining to end! don't we love the merge feature!

that came across a little sadder than I expected!!

I guess I just meant that I will always choose my friends and what makes me happy over trying to do things specifically to meet boys (which I think is what hoptis was saying). Conseqently I will continue to go clubbing or whatever....which quite obviously is not the way for me to meet someone (otherwise I would have already!)

so I'm resigned to my fate. Unless I change what I do socially it's obviously not going to happen. but I'm definitely not unhappy about it. not right now anyway ;)

It's taken my mum 19 years to find someone she could have a relationship with again so I guess 4 years for me isn't all that long! (I'm so happy for her =D )
 
miss apple said:
I guess I just meant that I will always choose my friends and what makes me happy over trying to do things specifically to meet boys (which I think is what hoptis was saying). Conseqently I will continue to go clubbing or whatever....which quite obviously is not the way for me to meet someone (otherwise I would have already!)

Changing your lifestyle from something that you love in order to meet guys would have to be up there in the "Top 10 List of Ways To Get Into An Unsatisfying Relationship". For the one obvious reason... you don't have similar tastes.

I agree that clubs and parties aren't the best places to try and find a potential S/O.. more like a great place to pick up a one-night-stand or a bit of a fling. Purely coz a lot of people you meet seem so much more attractive and interesting when you're right royally fucked up.

I cant think of anything much else to add atm.. maybe later.
stace.
 
yeah, miss apple this is the catch 22.
i love dancing. and i love the 7am in the morning feeling when you are sitting down and chilling with friends remniscing how good the night was and how good the music is. i would never trade these feelings for a g/f. i would add a g/f yes, but not trade them.

hoptis - i think that your posts are spot on.

i love the club scene, only certain clubs though, house music, (agreed it does a certain degree of prentiousnous to it, but i'm there to have fun, not tell let anyone else know that im better than them.) i generally speaking dont like the scene that most other clubs provide. i think its a differnt genre of music, and people.

on one hand i want a g/f in that scene, and someone who appreciates what i appreciate, someone whos interests are almost identical. and what other better place in the world than whilst pinging at clubs.

on the other hand, the concept of a sweet innocent uncorrupted mind is looking more attractive each day. and no...i dont mean that im parking in front of schools and offering lifts.

on second thoughts i think that i would much rather someone who has been there done that in terms of the "scene" (whatever that is), someone who still likes to go out, but is not running around as much. someone who has had their fun mucking around but still has life left in them.

this i think would be the ultimate g/f in this sense.

and im just blabbering too much now, so me and my(single)self chooses not to post in this thread for a weak, at the risk of sounding desperatly jaded. im sure i will feel better when the music plays again this weekend. i always do.
 
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ok, here's a challenge...

i read scifi/fantasy books, A LOT of them. i actually enjoy hanging out at borders.

im into computers, information technology and cyberculture. i used to go to computer swapmeets.

i have been listening to progressive house for a LONG time. i only go out when there's a dj i wanna catch or if i know the music's gonna be good.

where would some of u suggest i hang out (preferably one location) to meet the opposite sex? ;)=D
 
doh! but i've met u, miss apple, does that count? ;)

an actualy physical venue would've been more pragmatic than the singles thread =D

(i think im now guilty of derailing the thread, enough crap from me)
 
vurtomatic said:
ok, here's a challenge...

i read scifi/fantasy books, A LOT of them. i actually enjoy hanging out at borders.

im into computers, information technology and cyberculture. i used to go to computer swapmeets.

i have been listening to progressive house for a LONG time. i only go out when there's a dj i wanna catch or if i know the music's gonna be good.

where would some of u suggest i hang out (preferably one location) to meet the opposite sex? ;)=D
So you're interested in picking up geeky chicks who enjoy progressive? And you want to know where they all go to congregate? Egads. I dont think they really congregate anywhere in particular. Your best bet would prolly be a progressive club, being that the music taste would be the main differing factor.

I'm putting my vote in for a Partner Supermarket. "Custom made partners at the lowst price guaranteed."

stace.
 
no i didnt think they'd congregate anywhere either, i was joking with my question... really! =D

besides im sure some would argue that meeting another person, is not about finding someone who's ur exact twin in interests; besides a common ground to facilitate the initial encounters.
 
on that note, vurt, i think you are absoultely correct.
i recently did have a sort lived relationship with someone.
im still at odds whether she was just messed up, or that we were absolutely similar in intersests that there was no conflict whatsover. we thought the same in regards to absolutely practically everything.
i felt like i was with my soulmate, without the love.
which was really strange.
 
I couldn't imagine anything worse than a relationship with someone exactly like me.. they'd be such a moody headcase! (But at least they'd clean the house =D )

What we all need is someone who complements our personality. Someone who finds our jokes funny, likes to do similar things as we do, etc.. but you also need someone who you can hold a discussion with, have an open debate about random things every now and then. How frustrating would it be to have a partner who agreed with everything you said.. I'd wanna punch them in the head after a while.

Man, its so darn easy to explain the kind of person that you would like as a partner.. if only it was as easy to find the bastard :)

stace.
 
you know the funny thing is that what you have said is almost the ablsoulte thing that happened. despite obviously having similar interests, i find that in hindsight i have never been so frustrated with someone so much. i have never disliked someone so much, which is a sad tale, because it tells something about my character.
the inablility for two identically minded people means that they run almost independant of each other but default. i know this sounds likes a huge paradox, but i think the one of the major factors in this is the "party - just want to have unrestricted fun" factor took precedence.
in light of this i will start attending knitting lessons to find my soulmate.
 
Well, here's an interesting little test that I found on Emode, called "Why are you still single?"

It's at: http://www.emode.com/jumpto?test=singleogt

Funnily enough, my one was unerringly accurate. "You won't settle." Damn straight I won't settle! Thankfully I've been able to get laid often enough to allow my penis not to do my thinking for me when it comes to relationships.

But really, how many of us out there will settle? We've all got pictures of that one amazing person who will come along and rock our world. Do we really want to go through all that hassle and heartache over and over again cause the person you're with doesn't push your buttons? Or are we taking the easy way out by building a wall around us, comfortable in the knowledge that the perfect person doesn't exist, so we can whine about all we like and know we'll never get hurt?
 
Fetish Jester said:
But really, how many of us out there will settle? We've all got pictures of that one amazing person who will come along and rock our world... Or are we taking the easy way out by building a wall around us, comfortable in the knowledge that the perfect person doesn't exist, so we can whine about all we like and know we'll never get hurt?

well for me it is weird, cos i have met the girl that i would love to fall in love with, marry and have kids with. i know who she is, i have photos of me and her hugging and with big smiles on our faces, i am in love with her, i know it and from the moment i saw her i was INSTANTLY in love with her. she is perfect for me and i am perfect for her, i know this. but i don't know if she knows it yet. i met her almost 2 months ago and i cannot forget about her, and that is that. she is the one for me... well one of the many who i would consider the "ONE", there is just no doubt in my mind that i love her and that i would marry her if i got the chance. so i'm gonna take it very very very slow and just let whatever is meant to happen happen.

in the meantime, there's much fun to be had, and much knowledge to be gained, friends to be made, lovers to be found and hearts to break (mine included), but i know that there is somebody there for me at the end of the line who i at least believe is for me. whether or not anything comes of it, who knows? but i love her, and it will never change, no matter what she does or who she goes out with. i will always love her.

i love you ****** =D

YAY!

Cohaa.
 
There is no need for a singles thread anymore... I have just found the reason why I am single... Thankyou Fetish Jester. Apparently my life is going so fast that I need to step back take a deep breath and get acquainted with an old friend called cleavage. Also says that i fear commitment so i go after those in relationships cause i know it will never happen... and i just thought i went after them cause im an asshole and most girls in relationships are hot.

But its pretty true with uni and work im constantly stressed out and im more interested in the subject matter of the conversations i have with women ie project group partners than i do at giving them a how u doing?
 
But its pretty true with uni and work im constantly stressed out and im more interested in the subject matter of the conversations i have with women ie project group partners than i do at giving them a how u doing?

^^^ Werd to that!

My god, if i had one full night's sleep without some sort of uni/work thing i had to do before i slept, it woud be great!

That said, i actually do go out and have a bit of a good time socially, but (as the stupid test said ;) ) i'm not ready to settle down - i know i COULD if i really wnated to, but the strange thing is, i don't think i do anymore. It'd be great, but where the hell would i find the time for that? It's not like i could just make the world spin slower... and none of my friends are in serious commited relationships anyway, so i guess being in a relationship would make me less social than i alreay am. :\

Hah hah! Oh well, i'm happy just to be me, and nothing else need be said... it's all about being happy really.
 
Backo, I'd listen to your project talk hun ;)

*Please see bluelighter you'd most like to FUCK thread*
 
che che

Backo said:
I need to step back take a deep breath and get acquainted with an old friend called cleavage.
woo WOO! /\ bopgirl n backo hehe

cosmic mist - i think that test is rigged, i got "not ready to settle" too, think they betta think of new reasons why we're single.
and yeah being in a relationship is doomed to alot less social life but alot more shags!!!
 
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