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Bluelight Singles - from begining to end! don't we love the merge feature!
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punch e punch
Bluelighter
yeh! who needs a relationship when we've got enough people on this thread for a full-on orgy!
coincidently, the song thats playin in the background as i type this goes "love is just a poor man"s deal". Hmmmm...
[ 04 February 2002: Message edited by: punch e punch ]
coincidently, the song thats playin in the background as i type this goes "love is just a poor man"s deal". Hmmmm...
[ 04 February 2002: Message edited by: punch e punch ]
Sorry Bunkum Bunny, gotta totally disagree with your last comment. Although being free of committing to any goals can be fun, putting my life down on paper always gives me more headspace/objectivity.
The whole fear of acceptance thing? I kind of came to the conclusion that this was more the result of objectifying others whilst having low self esteem, and feeling let down if they [or your objectified concept of them] will accept something like you, thus depreciating their own value in your eyes [hope that made sense
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My last relationship was nearly a year ago, prior to that I did the whole fuck buddy thing twice, and went out with a few others. I miss the whole intimacy thing but I kind of needed time to fly free [plus going out with a manic depressive girl is a whole kettle of responsibility fish that i cant handle]. The best advice I could give from my experience in r/ships is to not to try to change people, or expect them to be your knight in shining armour. People will do this of there own accord if they believe your worth it, and a big hint for girls here, most guys cant handle conflict or pressure all that well [ever have a guy say he'll call you, then doesn't?]. Mummy issues aside, I guess all I look for in a relationship now is a girl thats interesting, attractive, and a challenge. I dont feel like I'm missing out on anything, but there are those times when you feel you've really got something to give, but noone to give it to [so maybe I am ].
[Plaz, it will get easier]
PEACE
k2
The whole fear of acceptance thing? I kind of came to the conclusion that this was more the result of objectifying others whilst having low self esteem, and feeling let down if they [or your objectified concept of them] will accept something like you, thus depreciating their own value in your eyes [hope that made sense
].My last relationship was nearly a year ago, prior to that I did the whole fuck buddy thing twice, and went out with a few others. I miss the whole intimacy thing but I kind of needed time to fly free [plus going out with a manic depressive girl is a whole kettle of responsibility fish that i cant handle]. The best advice I could give from my experience in r/ships is to not to try to change people, or expect them to be your knight in shining armour. People will do this of there own accord if they believe your worth it, and a big hint for girls here, most guys cant handle conflict or pressure all that well [ever have a guy say he'll call you, then doesn't?]. Mummy issues aside, I guess all I look for in a relationship now is a girl thats interesting, attractive, and a challenge. I dont feel like I'm missing out on anything, but there are those times when you feel you've really got something to give, but noone to give it to [so maybe I am
].[Plaz, it will get easier]
PEACE
k2
plazma
Bluelighter
*Huggles all*
Ummm I'm very confused right now. I don't know where I'm at, or anything like that. I'm hurt sad confused and spun out. I just wish things hadn't happened the way they did. Now they have I got to try and put things back together and work out where I stand, I'm in limbo at the moment.
*Has one foot in Bluelight Couples and one foot in Bluelight Singles*
Note to everyone. You can tell real love by the way it survives a disaster. When you love someone not despite the fact that they hurt you, but because that if they didn't hurt you, they wouldn't be that person that you love.
*Blinks*
Whatever. Anyways I'm tired.
You single bluelighters rule. Theres a few of you that I quite concieveably owe my life to. Thanks for keeping me under your supervision for those hours on Sunday/Monday.
-plaz out-
Ummm I'm very confused right now. I don't know where I'm at, or anything like that. I'm hurt sad confused and spun out. I just wish things hadn't happened the way they did. Now they have I got to try and put things back together and work out where I stand, I'm in limbo at the moment.
*Has one foot in Bluelight Couples and one foot in Bluelight Singles*
Note to everyone. You can tell real love by the way it survives a disaster. When you love someone not despite the fact that they hurt you, but because that if they didn't hurt you, they wouldn't be that person that you love.
*Blinks*
Whatever. Anyways I'm tired.
You single bluelighters rule. Theres a few of you that I quite concieveably owe my life to. Thanks for keeping me under your supervision for those hours on Sunday/Monday.
-plaz out-
RushingRococco
Bluelighter
*hugz plaz*
I know exactly what u mean and what ur saying - and especially if ur confused - the best thing u can do is get away by urself or with someone - go away for a few days - try to get ur mind off things, do stuff to keep ur mind occupied - stuff different from normal - enjoy urself and ull be surprised how well it works.
Its not running away from the situation - its gonna help u clear ur mind - its gonna help u think about things rationally and carefully.
The hurt and pain wont completely go away - but about 90% of it will....
good luck dude
I know exactly what u mean and what ur saying - and especially if ur confused - the best thing u can do is get away by urself or with someone - go away for a few days - try to get ur mind off things, do stuff to keep ur mind occupied - stuff different from normal - enjoy urself and ull be surprised how well it works.
Its not running away from the situation - its gonna help u clear ur mind - its gonna help u think about things rationally and carefully.
The hurt and pain wont completely go away - but about 90% of it will....
good luck dude
I think I have caught the same bug as GG, allergic to commitment.. I have been in a situation where something could happen, but make nuthing of it... *stoopid me*. but oh well U get that, I'm sure I will get over it before im 67yo,
*joins GG for Kandy*
*joins GG for Kandy*
*queensmack*
Bluelighter
*crawls quietly into the room...*
dont wana be here...it hurts to much...
*runs away out the door...*
*queensmack*
dont wana be here...it hurts to much...
*runs away out the door...*
*queensmack*
BGMarc
Bluelighter
Know where you're at Plaz, can see you from where I'm sitting
*Hugz Plaz*
*Hugz Plaz*
Fetish Jester
Bluelighter
It's good to know someone else is in the same boat.
hugs x004x in recognition
And it's good to know someone cares...
hugs stacyrox in reciprication
Anyway, I'd just like to say that sad and fucked up my post sounded, I'm actually okay being single... As long as my ex is not around. Dammit, it's like a spell. And stacyrox, I've sworn off relationships until I fully know I won't fuck around the other person. One of the people I like knows this and is cool enough just to wait until I'm ready. But I shall visit this thread on occasion to dispense advice on how NOT to break up with someone.
hugs x004x in recognition
And it's good to know someone cares...
hugs stacyrox in reciprication
Anyway, I'd just like to say that sad and fucked up my post sounded, I'm actually okay being single... As long as my ex is not around. Dammit, it's like a spell. And stacyrox, I've sworn off relationships until I fully know I won't fuck around the other person. One of the people I like knows this and is cool enough just to wait until I'm ready. But I shall visit this thread on occasion to dispense advice on how NOT to break up with someone.
ChEmIcaL_NiGhT
Bluelighter
baaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa... Singles rock.
*looks at women's brain*
Nup, no hope of understanding....
So in the mean time, let the sex buddies continue
*looks at women's brain*
Nup, no hope of understanding....
So in the mean time, let the sex buddies continue
Andromeda
Bluelighter
im a single brisneylandian psychedelic funkmunchkin and id love a male type brisneylandian psychedelic funkmunchkin to share in all the delights my psychedelicattesen has to offer....
alas i cannnot find myself one of these male type munchkins...
*sigh*
Andromeda
alas i cannnot find myself one of these male type munchkins...
*sigh*
Andromeda
anna!
Bluelight Crew
-blinks at semi-
slut!
slut!
Dante
Bluelight Crew
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Well, it's been about 4 weeks since I finally realised that I'm happy with my singleness, and I'm still completely happy...
This is somewhat scaring me, it really shouldn't be this easy, and I shouldn't be feeling this comfortable.
That's not to say that I'm not interested in having a relationship, I'm just not actively looking, if that makes sense...
I'm not the only person that's like this, am I?
This is somewhat scaring me, it really shouldn't be this easy, and I shouldn't be feeling this comfortable.
That's not to say that I'm not interested in having a relationship, I'm just not actively looking, if that makes sense...
I'm not the only person that's like this, am I?
miss apple
Bluelighter
I've been single for so long now that I'm seriously getting worried about whether I *can* have another relationship.
I'm so independant and so used to doing my own thing whenever I like that I don't know if I could handle having another person to consider.
I also know that as soon as a boy is in the picture, I become a totally different person. Clingy, emotional, dependant blegh. I'm not any of these things normally so why as soon as a boy comes along do I get like that???
I'm sure when a relationship happens I'll fall back into it easily. I just hope I don't do all the stupid things and make the stupid mistakes I've done and made before. I guess that's what getting older is all about...learning from past mistakes.
I thought I was happy being single. Well, I was. But judging by the number of times I've posted in this thread I'd say it's on my mind lately. 3 and a half years of being single is just getting too depressing
[ 08 February 2002: Message edited by: miss apple ]
I'm so independant and so used to doing my own thing whenever I like that I don't know if I could handle having another person to consider.
I also know that as soon as a boy is in the picture, I become a totally different person. Clingy, emotional, dependant blegh. I'm not any of these things normally so why as soon as a boy comes along do I get like that???
I'm sure when a relationship happens I'll fall back into it easily. I just hope I don't do all the stupid things and make the stupid mistakes I've done and made before. I guess that's what getting older is all about...learning from past mistakes.
I thought I was happy being single. Well, I was. But judging by the number of times I've posted in this thread I'd say it's on my mind lately. 3 and a half years of being single is just getting too depressing
[ 08 February 2002: Message edited by: miss apple ]
trancechyck
Bluelighter
i was in a relationship once & that was when i was 16 cos it was the in thing 2 go out with some1 who was in year 12 (i was in year 11 @ the time)
now i'm just a little slut & fucking my next door neighbour who is about 2 become my room mate
i'm in no hurry 4 a relationship ... they're all the same u commit, sleep 2gether, go everywhere 2gether blah blah blah then get bored & break up or the fuckwit cheats on u, u hate urself 4 wks wanting 2 know what went wrong then find some1 else & the same thing happens again
until ... u find the 1 & everything goes perfect, u get married, have kids (if u both want) & die yrs later
thats life
now i'm just a little slut & fucking my next door neighbour who is about 2 become my room mate
i'm in no hurry 4 a relationship ... they're all the same u commit, sleep 2gether, go everywhere 2gether blah blah blah then get bored & break up or the fuckwit cheats on u, u hate urself 4 wks wanting 2 know what went wrong then find some1 else & the same thing happens again
until ... u find the 1 & everything goes perfect, u get married, have kids (if u both want) & die yrs later
thats life
Macca19
Bluelighter
Im single, have been for about 7 months...im looking tho...noone has tickled my fancy as yet...cept for one chick in Melbourne. But seeing as i live in Adelaide thats a bit tricky.
Hopefully some nice Adelaide chick will find me and like me...im hoping so anyway!!!
Single is good tho!!!
Hopefully some nice Adelaide chick will find me and like me...im hoping so anyway!!!
Single is good tho!!!
ChEmIcaL_NiGhT
Bluelighter
TC - Your right on the hammer...
My kinda women
Me and my girlfriend went here, then there yada yada, now where boered, all over lets look for another.
Chem Jaded.
My kinda women
Me and my girlfriend went here, then there yada yada, now where boered, all over lets look for another.
Chem Jaded.