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Bluelight Singles - Part XXV "Is my soulmate out there?"

Old thread is getting quite laaaarge :)
Plus, I wanted to start a thread :)
I just want to say, I wish I could read guy's minds, it would make life soooo much easier :)
 
Well, how appropriate! I was just thinking this last night. Somewhere out there, I don't know when and I don't know how! Though I am sure I will one day find out who you are! :)
*MWAH* to this one girl. I look forward to the day we meet. ;)
 
^^^ sorry to break your heart but she prolly doesn't exist :P
as much as we all like to think there is that "one" person out there i'm just way too jaded at the moment to bother with such romanticism, it just makes me more depressed.
thats my two cents worth :P
 
dicey - Without faith, there is no hope. I have faith in the fact that she is out there... ;)
I have a whole theory behind it if you want to hear me out. :P
 
Fishbulb: faith is one thing, false hope is another, we've been fed by ridiculous notions of love at first sight and soul mates by the media for so long that thats what we all think love should be like.
I personally have never met an abundance of people who HAVE met their soul mate or have ended up with someone they have fallen in love at first sight. If you can tell me a true story of soulmates and love at first sights then maybe i would start believing again.
 
nah
for me probably not
I've been single for aaaaaagggggeeeeeessss, so then again if I was in a relationship I probably wouldnt know what to do with myself
that said I'm the kinda person who's socialy pretty confident but have very little confidence in terms of my sexuality :\
[ 10 March 2003: Message edited by: moonlight_blue ]
 
Love at first sight, or lust at first sight. :)
Lust can become love... So in that case I fell in lust with my now ex-girl friend when I first gazed upon her beauty ;) Though I only realised it later. :)
I realised after about 6 months however that she was not my soul mate. I think soul mates have as much to do with the point in your life at which meet them, as the person themselves.
 
Originally posted by moonlight_blue:
that said I'm the kinda person who's socialy pretty confident but have very little confidence in terms of my sexuality :\
me too!! glad I'm not the only one.
and yeah I don't know what I'd do with myself if I was in a relationship either. It's wierd to think everyone who knows me right now knows me as being single. It's such a big part of being 'me'.
I just know if I find someone that I'll be accused of 'changing' or acting differently. The thing is of course I will change!! At least change a lot of how I act. So much of my social interaction is fuelled by my singleness and my wanting to meet someone that I have no idea what I'll be like if I actually do meet someone. I'd hope I'll be the same person...but I know my reasons for going out and my reasons for making friends will be different to what they are now :\
(that sounds horrible...it sounds like the only reason I meet people is for the possibility of a relationship. that's not true...but I'm continually open to opportunities, and do honestly sometimes leave the house because I think I'll miss out on meeting someone if I stay at home :\ )
hmm...maybe I should change my focus a little :\
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I don't believe that people are *meant* to remain with one partner for their entire lives. Every marriage in my family has ended in divoce (except my grandmother's third,) so that could be why i thinkt his way...
It just seems silly to me - people are in a constant state of growing and changing (unless they live under a rock or something,) and no matter how into someone you are, i'm sure the time will come when you will grow appart from them, and eventually leave. Either that, or endure the times you grow appart, and work on growing closer again...
But that is just what i believe... :)
 
Originally posted by Cosmic Mist:
I don't believe that people are *meant* to remain with one partner for their entire lives...
It just seems silly to me - people are in a constant state of growing and changing (unless they live under a rock or something,) and no matter how into someone you are, i'm sure the time will come when you will grow appart from them, and eventually leave.
Wh0rd up to that... I've been thinking about this quite a bit actually, and I can't seem to see any reason for wanting to stay with someone for an extended period of time... Fair enough, some people might talk about "love", but I don't think it's specifically necessary. For me, it's mainly about companionship and physical satisfaction. I care deeply about all of my friends, and I don't know if I can safely say that I'd care anymore for a partner...
Besides, are there any animals that have relationships apart from humans? (I seriously don't know, so if I'm wrong, tell me...) It seems to me that the notion of a relationship is something created by religions, forcing marriage upon people. Why not meet people, say you think they are attractive, fuck, and be gone?
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^^^ Dante is right companionship and self satisfaction is the key.
Hahaha yeah your soul mate is out there... problem is they are fucking someone else who is their soul mate.
I used to fall head over heels for women, when i had this notion of soul mate I became a bumbling fool... "ah can i get that for u?" For me, I only get anywhere with women when I see them as a possible fuck and nothing more... every meeting from there on is a bonus until something happens... girls are only interested in confidence, and thats my way of showing it... to become completely detached from my heart :(
(I am ashamed with what i just wrote but it seems true at this time.)
Basically i dont know what the fuck im trying to say.
Backo
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I don't believe in soul mates but I believe humans have a great capacity to make themselves believe in anything (or anyone).
I agree 100% with Cosmic Mist, but then I also think that's only because our generation has been taught values which are primarily selfish. We generally put our own needs, wants and desires first (not that I'm saying there's anything wrong with that). People in our grandparents generation were more of the opinion that they just had to make the best of what they had. Because we are putting ourselves first these days we're less likely to put up with a second-rate relationship for too long.
I don't know which line of thinking is better. We may be better off because we won't settle for anything less then complete satisfaction, but then again we could end up old and alone because we were always expecting someone better to turn up.
 
Posted by Backo:
Hahaha yeah your soul mate is out there... problem is they are fucking someone else who is their soul mate...
Heh heh, i though about that, and it actually rings true in a lot of circumstances i am witnessing with my friends at the moment. It's quite amusing/frustrating to watch it all from the sidelines, but i'm kinda glad that i am here, and not involved in it all - it's getting messy...
Yeah - soulmates don't exist in the traditional hollywood style that most people seem to think of them as. I reckon a soul mate is simply someone with whom you have a great rapport, with whom there is a huge mutual attraction, who accepts you for who and what you are. This is liable to change over time however, especially when your needs change and they may not wish to flow in the same direction as you... It's the same as having friends really. I've got one friend who i have known for 8 1/2 years, but i don't keep in contact with anyone else from that era because we're all different people now.
Does that make sense?
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Yeah I agree with you Cosmic... people change, there is no denying that, so as much as i believe people can be soul mates, i think that people change and hence soul mates change...
when considering if soul mates exist i think it all comes down to how you define soul mates...i dont agree that there can be one person you are to be with for your entire life...i just havent seen that happen in my lifetime...but as Queen Beat says we're a generation of selfishness...and most of us have seen divorce/separation so its hard to believe in soul mates until death do us part etc...
but then i wonder how the hell you're supposed to have kids without entering the institution of marriage and ruining their and your lives?! and i want kids...i just dont want them all having separate fathers who was once my soul mate!
i guess you could say i am *trying* to have faith that someone will come along that for the moment can be my soul mate, but right now i dont want to think about it! coz i always end up being attracted to one guy's body and another's soul...so then i question my whole thinking of soul mates
*confused*
 
Hollywood soulmates and perfect romance is a croc of shit. Cosmic Mist is right - people do grow apart in relationships, however if both parties value a relationship enough to make a concerted effort to grow together (lots of open, honest communication and truckloads of trust), then the 'love' (more like a very strong friendship with occasional sex) can last a lifetime.
And Dante, quite a few different animals pair for life: wandering albatross, marmosets, puffins, european starlings (ok, so they're mostly birds). Interestingly enough, some animals that pair for life or at least a season will cheat on their chosen partner (ie: pair with a great nest-builder and food-bringer, but when he's away feeding mate with the male with the prettier plumage), so humans aren't alone there either. ANyway, enough with the zoology lesson.
 
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