Pleonastic
Bluelighter
^^^^^
What exactly does that have to do with anything?
What exactly does that have to do with anything?
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Pleonastic
Bluelighter
I'll try and say this as nicely as possible...
This is the sort of crap that we don't want in this thread. Any more of it will mean the thread will be ended. I'll leave these last few posts here as an example for the time being, then they'll be deleted as they add nothing of value to the thread whatsoever...
This is the sort of crap that we don't want in this thread. Any more of it will mean the thread will be ended. I'll leave these last few posts here as an example for the time being, then they'll be deleted as they add nothing of value to the thread whatsoever...
Catch-22
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*gives Pleonastic a 35.5/40*
/me puts the rest of the beer back in the refrigerator
*proposes to miss apple*
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pE@K-a-TrOnIc: Well said! I decided to create a ficticious girlfriend in order to discourage my admirer. I'll know if she is gonna leave me alone in a couple more days.
Dante: Very good points! I was somewhat nonchalant when I was younger, but it really does work better when you try to tell someone how much they matter to you. (Well, unless you are indifferent to them--keep that to yourself.) It is not desperation to express yourself, it is just making the issue known. Nothing to lose in those situations unless you know with considerable certainty that it will be a negative response.
blue kitten: I am happy that you are happy.
That is what's important. It does sound like you have a good thing going....but you didn't mention any future plans with your boyfriend. How would things go if he got transferred to a new job ten hours away? Would you move with him? Would you leave everyone/everything you have to keep the relationship going? Lots of relationships seem to be going well until they face the first obstacle. Again, that might not even apply to you or your expectations of a relationship.
hoptis: I think you make some great comments about the incompatibilities caused by drug use. I had girlfriends who got drunk/high daily (well, college is college), but then they expressed severe concern about my infrequent use of psychedelics. I dated a girl who had been in rehab twice. (Didn't know at start of the relationship, found out little by little....) She had a lot of drama, and what might be a minor issue in some circumstances would be a big deal with her.
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/me puts the rest of the beer back in the refrigerator
*proposes to miss apple*
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pE@K-a-TrOnIc: Well said! I decided to create a ficticious girlfriend in order to discourage my admirer. I'll know if she is gonna leave me alone in a couple more days.
Dante: Very good points! I was somewhat nonchalant when I was younger, but it really does work better when you try to tell someone how much they matter to you. (Well, unless you are indifferent to them--keep that to yourself.) It is not desperation to express yourself, it is just making the issue known. Nothing to lose in those situations unless you know with considerable certainty that it will be a negative response.
blue kitten: I am happy that you are happy.
That is what's important. It does sound like you have a good thing going....but you didn't mention any future plans with your boyfriend. How would things go if he got transferred to a new job ten hours away? Would you move with him? Would you leave everyone/everything you have to keep the relationship going? Lots of relationships seem to be going well until they face the first obstacle. Again, that might not even apply to you or your expectations of a relationship.hoptis: I think you make some great comments about the incompatibilities caused by drug use. I had girlfriends who got drunk/high daily (well, college is college), but then they expressed severe concern about my infrequent use of psychedelics. I dated a girl who had been in rehab twice. (Didn't know at start of the relationship, found out little by little....) She had a lot of drama, and what might be a minor issue in some circumstances would be a big deal with her.
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Pleonastic
Bluelighter
^^^^^
OK people... that is what we're aiming for here... if everyone put half that effort into their posts in this thread it'd be so much better...
It's pretty sad though that in order to get my point across I have to put virtual little gold stars on everyone's good posts as an example to everyone that still just doesn't seem to get the friggen idea...
[ 02 July 2002: Message edited by: Pleonastic ]
OK people... that is what we're aiming for here... if everyone put half that effort into their posts in this thread it'd be so much better...
It's pretty sad though that in order to get my point across I have to put virtual little gold stars on everyone's good posts as an example to everyone that still just doesn't seem to get the friggen idea...
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RobertRollie
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Dante: *from the pull your finger out dept* After watching you and *names deleted to protect the guilty* being so cosy last night and then talking to her later, i can tell you fro a certainty that allyou have to do to close the deal is find your balls and kiss her.
Just Do It
Just Do It
dicey
Bluelighter
*wave* yes yes still here and i have hit the 6 month singledom mark, its quite liberating, i've stopped a couple of months ago with the running amock and flirting my arse off.. that was getting extremely boring.. but now unfortunately i'm hit with another dillemma! argh!
what do you do when your 21 and a gorgeous guy of 19 ha a crush on you and you work with him and he used to go out with another girl from work that you get along well with and another girl has a horrendous crush on him that heroworships you?
i'm going nuts.. someone help me
to top it all off ( no offence meant to anyone out there ) there's a new guy at work , and he's indian, and he's as dim as a bat and he won't leave me alone!!!!!
*runs* help meeeeeee
what do you do when your 21 and a gorgeous guy of 19 ha a crush on you and you work with him and he used to go out with another girl from work that you get along well with and another girl has a horrendous crush on him that heroworships you?
i'm going nuts.. someone help me
to top it all off ( no offence meant to anyone out there ) there's a new guy at work , and he's indian, and he's as dim as a bat and he won't leave me alone!!!!!
*runs* help meeeeeee
bluegirl
Bluelighter
hey catch-22 (and please, it's bk )..... my boyfriend happens to be half-way around the world right now (in london/france for a month - bloody bastard, didn't take me ). as for your question, yes - we have discussed future plans that involve "us"..... i love it coz our plans involve us being together but not in a way that has us mapping out our entire futures together. by that i don't mean i don't want that to happen - we just take things as they come. at the moment we are planning some overseas travel together when he returns from london (he's visiting his sister with his parents).
and this is what i find confusing about some people - they seem to only want to get into a relationship if they know that it will be long-term - how can you know that? i think that you would definitely be limiting yourself if you didn't give someone a chance coz it might not be long-term. i almost didn't go out with a guy when i was 18 coz i didn't think it would last and we were together for 8 months or so. i don't mean believing that you wouldn't be compatible, but putting that kind of pressure on a relationship that is just starting out probably isn't the best thing (IMFHO).
bk
)..... my boyfriend happens to be half-way around the world right now (in london/france for a month - bloody bastard, didn't take me ). as for your question, yes - we have discussed future plans that involve "us"..... i love it coz our plans involve us being together but not in a way that has us mapping out our entire futures together. by that i don't mean i don't want that to happen - we just take things as they come. at the moment we are planning some overseas travel together when he returns from london (he's visiting his sister with his parents).and this is what i find confusing about some people - they seem to only want to get into a relationship if they know that it will be long-term - how can you know that? i think that you would definitely be limiting yourself if you didn't give someone a chance coz it might not be long-term. i almost didn't go out with a guy when i was 18 coz i didn't think it would last and we were together for 8 months or so. i don't mean believing that you wouldn't be compatible, but putting that kind of pressure on a relationship that is just starting out probably isn't the best thing (IMFHO).
bk
Well im still here. Nothings changed. Same old shit happened with the guy i had my hopes on...
aka nothing eventuated after our night out.
I guess i have myself partly to blame for that situation... what does one do when you completely trust a person and sleep with them (i know i know dont lecture me on that), thinking something good is happening and stuff, then to find out they don't call you etc etc. I mean, he did call me but i missed it, i called him he missed it, and a few sms's after. Then i asked him to come out for drinks the weekend after and he messaged me on the night saying he couldnt come. So i left the ball in his court aying to call me if he still wants to do something. And he didnt.
Story of my FUCKING life. Im so sick of guys using me and then not fucking calling me. I know i really should just say no (which i DID a million times the night we went out) not to go back to their house but we had been drinking and had a half a pill so i was very trusting. argh.
The fact that hes close to my family i honestly thought he would be different, but no.
A question for the guys, be honest here.
When u go out with a girl for the first time, and do u try to plan to get the girl back to your house?
aka nothing eventuated after our night out.
I guess i have myself partly to blame for that situation... what does one do when you completely trust a person and sleep with them (i know i know dont lecture me on that), thinking something good is happening and stuff, then to find out they don't call you etc etc. I mean, he did call me but i missed it, i called him he missed it, and a few sms's after. Then i asked him to come out for drinks the weekend after and he messaged me on the night saying he couldnt come. So i left the ball in his court aying to call me if he still wants to do something. And he didnt.
Story of my FUCKING life. Im so sick of guys using me and then not fucking calling me. I know i really should just say no (which i DID a million times the night we went out) not to go back to their house but we had been drinking and had a half a pill so i was very trusting. argh.
The fact that hes close to my family i honestly thought he would be different, but no.
A question for the guys, be honest here.
When u go out with a girl for the first time, and do u try to plan to get the girl back to your house?
RobertRollie
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Taliana: The motive often depends on the mood. Sometimes I'm just horny and I feel like playing, sometimes im bored/lonely and I just want some company. Altho...I think people are more likely to want straight sex from people they dont know so well and company from people theyre friends with.....
That much said, I am frequently bored and lonely, wanna go on a date sometime? no sex involved
That much said, I am frequently bored and lonely, wanna go on a date sometime?
no sex involved Taliana: When u go out with a girl for the first time, and do u try to plan to get the girl back to your house?
Fuck no!
No need to rush things, especially if she gives you that warm fuzzy feeling (which i miss). There's some girls out there that you just connect with on a night, but sex ain't always the first thing one a bloke's mind. I prefer to get to know a lady first, usually it turns me on more.
Dont worry Tal, that guy will come along one day and sweep you off your feet. :D
Fuck no!
No need to rush things, especially if she gives you that warm fuzzy feeling (which i miss). There's some girls out there that you just connect with on a night, but sex ain't always the first thing one a bloke's mind. I prefer to get to know a lady first, usually it turns me on more.
Dont worry Tal, that guy will come along one day and sweep you off your feet. :D
Shoelace
Bluelighter
Word up moocho.
Im feelin every word man.
Im feelin every word man.
jimbu
Bluelighter
Taliana : nah thats just wrong 
.. maybe im old fashioned
ahh well... last exam for me tomorrow... wait... today. finallyyyyyyyyyy! procrastination is the key to making exam periods take FOREVER! arghhhhhhh!
big party time instore, and a week at the snow with my best mates
*fingers crossed* maybe i can pick-up and get myself out of this thread. lol wishful thinking.
any tips on how a 'shy' guy can boost his confidence in order to make the first move? (eg. grow some balls)
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.. maybe im old fashioned ahh well... last exam for me tomorrow... wait... today. finallyyyyyyyyyy! procrastination is the key to making exam periods take FOREVER! arghhhhhhh!
big party time instore, and a week at the snow with my best mates
*fingers crossed* maybe i can pick-up and get myself out of this thread. lol wishful thinking.
any tips on how a 'shy' guy can boost his confidence in order to make the first move? (eg. grow some balls
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Shoelace
Bluelighter
Well,I'm not sure this works but..
Im a shy guy myself so what I do is work up a fuck load of confidence,then make "The Move" or whatever.
After that,if she/he digs ya,you only have to be yourself after that.
Sounds so simple yet,I'm still single.
WHY ME?
*Grabs a bottle of henessey and heads for the Drug discussion room*
*Slams door*
Im a shy guy myself so what I do is work up a fuck load of confidence,then make "The Move" or whatever.
After that,if she/he digs ya,you only have to be yourself after that.
Sounds so simple yet,I'm still single.
WHY ME?
*Grabs a bottle of henessey and heads for the Drug discussion room*
*Slams door*
funkE waynE
Bluelighter
^^^^^ Now that is very true wazza.Guys want a challenge. He probably will call ,but wont want to go out on a date again but rather a "quiet night at home"...Write it off as a one nighter and forget about it sunshine it will just do your head in .
trancechyck
Bluelighter
my 2c. - i got called back once, cos he wanted more .. but thats another story
TC
TC
Wazza well i guess the same thing applies to guys then right? Wrong. (see now thats just being sexist)
i may as well just say you can never trust a guy who sleeps with a girl on the first date. but i just dont trust guys full stop now.
anyway. moving along.
i may as well just say you can never trust a guy who sleeps with a girl on the first date. but i just dont trust guys full stop now.
anyway. moving along.
Tarsarlan
Bluelighter
Here's where I'd love to say "That's a bit unfair Taliana, you can't say you don't trust all guys just 'cos of a few lousy experiences", but it happens all too often, so I can't say that and believe it too...
Too many people, not just guys, don't deserve any trust...
There are instances of people getting together rather quickly and trust being preserved though... If anyone is interested email me and I'll tell you about one of them...
Unfortunately there's far too many instances of abused trust screwing things up for other people, and I can tell you a few more stories on that topic... :/
Too many people, not just guys, don't deserve any trust...
There are instances of people getting together rather quickly and trust being preserved though... If anyone is interested email me and I'll tell you about one of them...
Unfortunately there's far too many instances of abused trust screwing things up for other people, and I can tell you a few more stories on that topic... :/