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Bluelight Singles - from begining to end! don't we love the merge feature!

Kitty you have sisters?? :D Damm there taken.. :P
Well I have just jumped on the rollercoast, and she has found the hotdog in the bottom of the popcorn... but nuffin *official* YET!..
I find it so weird that there is this chick I met the other week, is like so *obsessed* and she freaking goregous too.. I know its like.. WTF is your problem dC?, go for the kill.. But yeah, its never happened like that before to me.. And its kind of freeking me out atm. I think she is totally awesome but, yeah its too hmmm overwhelming... or is it am I afraid of commitment?...
 
Does anyone hate having their relos and neighbours try to set them up??
My neighbour whos a security guard seems to no half the city. anyway so he tries to set me up with this guy he goes "hes into bikkies and going out" turns out the only thing i had in common with the guy was only the bikkies. I hated the sorts of places he'd go to and he'd never set foot in the ones i go to unless one of his cousins were paying or something.. and another guy was unemployed. um im not that desperate thank you very much.
My relos are worse. So I told them I was a lesbian so they'd stop trying to set me up with a guy who sounded like a retard. and they havent asked if ive got a bf yet since.
 
Yeah, having people trying to set you up is a pain in the butt!!
Some people in relationships just cannot understand that you may be happy single, and don't need or want to be set up!Also, on another note, and I don’t know if this has been done before,
How long has everyone been single?
Me?
Since June 2000.
 
I had someone try to set me up with one of this work colleagues the other day (geez do you think people are trying to tell me something??!!). On the phone he was like 'Oh he's a great catch, nice guy, really focussed on work, not into those rave things but really ambitious'. Strange description to start with.
So we get to the pub, the guy turns out to be about 5'2", fat and built like a rugby player (ie no neck) and not very attractive. Throughout the night we discovered he had no conversation skills and when he did try to enter the conversation, he'd steer it into this random tangent that made no sense but was normally about himself.
When the friend rang to see how it went and I said the guy wasn't my type, he was genuinely shocked that I wasn't interested! :o His words were 'But he has a really good job and is really focussed on his work'!
WTF???!!!
I told him that as long as I'm attracted to a guy and we get on, I couldn't give a rats arse what he does to earn a living. He totally couldn't understand my logic. He thought that his job and career prospects were the only selling point worth considering. :\ I had no idea there were people around who thought like that! I was quite offended actually.
Oh and as for the book mum sent me - I could only laugh. :) She's a sucker for self help books and I guess she was just trying to help me out. I haven't even read the first page. I'm too scared.
 
after a brief(3 months) absence from the single world I"M BACK!!!.
Rather silly story why i was dumped basicly we had too many friends that were the same people and lived too close to each other and she worked about 50m from my front door.
So I was dumped for being in her face too much.
So now I have to start fishing again and see if I can real in one as good as the last one.
I now have realised that I'm a monogomous type though can't do one nighters or anyting like that.
I just have to make up to my friends that I whined to for the past week about(NOBODY LOVES ME yada yada) feel so weak in charachter for doing that.
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:) cheer up guys....u wont be single for ever... :) *walks to thread exit door* ...here i bought you guys these...throws box of tissues into middle of room...throws packet of microwave popcorn to madmonkey...
*exits to couples thread*
NOTE: couldnt post under *starfalls69* till get new password...i forgot current one :) ...sorry for that guys...sorry mods
 
Still going strong people!
Hey is being with someone you really shouldn't have cheating on yourself?
Just a thought I had... (It's 0415)
Hmm I don't see RobertRollie anywhere, I'm sure he'll be in soon with those deck chairs.
Hope he doesn't take too long or I'm gonna have to drink all this scotch by myself...
*unscrews bottle*
 
*stumbles into thread dragging 2 deck chairs and a beach umbrella*
Farking hell schizo you could have helped me move this stuff yknow :P I'm still here, but as usual I'm not quite sure what my situation is...I've been marking time for months and not found anyone to play with while cross the days off the calendar. Oh well only one thing for it i guess...
yo schizo pass me that mirror.
 
Ummm
I suppose if you dont hear from your so called "gf" for nearly a month, then its off? I think so... Ive done all the so called post-relationship sulking, so Im good to go :)
But she has some stuff of mine I need back, but Ive got her jacket, so it just gets better now doesnt it? :)
 
First, it is nice that this time I didn't have to wade through pages of posts like:
/me passes the popcorn to Pleo
*sits in the bleachers with miss apple*
/me waves to so-and-so
*hugs so-and-so*
That crap is just a waste of my fucking time, so knock it off already!
Okay, second thing....poor miss apple! :o
"Dante - not when your mother sends you books entitled 'The Marriage Plan - How to meet and marry your soulmate in a year or less'
Which she did. 2 weeks ago."
That sounds even shittier than that date you had. :( Jeez....
Okay, third, here is an example from my life!
This 34 year old woman has been chasing me. She is fairly attractive, intelligent, well-educated, an attorney-at-law, etc. But she is a complete bitch and no one can stand her. She is argumentative, overbearing and meanspirited. She is divorced and all of her friends are even worse than her. I don't really care for her as a person, but I do enjoy debating with her sometimes for a little intellectual diversion. I think I am one of the few guys not "intimidated" by her.
So she has asked me out three times now. I think she just wants some sex and companionship (nothing longterm), but I also gauge her to be one of those super-dominant women who enjoy being submissive sexually. I never really talk about my private life with her, but I think she (correctly) guesses me for a dominant personality who is also dominant sexually. So anyway, I think that's her angle, but I don't even have time/energy for a casual relationship right now.
I can imagine so many complications if I was involved with her. I miss sex. But I don't really like her company, and having to debate her 100% of the time and then also be the dominant partner would just wear me out. It would flame out in a matter of weeks, anyway. So I am passing this opportunity....even though I really miss sex and would be attracted to her physically.
So that's my life right now....I am not doing any better than the rest of you. :\
 
catch-22 do you really think she wants to go out with you due to the whole dominant/submissive thing? I think the whole reason is just purely because...like you said...she's found a man who isn't intimidated by her.
Sure, you might be right on the sexual thing, but I doubt that would be her main motivation.
 
Okay, she just emailed me to say that she is free for the next ten days (!!!) and hopes that we can meet for "lunch or something." So I just had to come by to share that....I will decline her offer, and just repeat that I am busy and am not socializing right now. That's the way I will phrase it.
I also realized my last post might not make sense unless I repeat that I am 28 years old and not looking for a relationship. (Planning to finish my education and move away soon.) So since she is 34 and we are about the same level of attractiveness, it is a reasonable and appropriate "match" on the surface. It is not like Mrs. Robinson or anything.... ;)
miss apple, I wasn't really meaning a full on BDSM thing and I would only do that with a girl that I really liked/cared about/trusted, anyway. I was just imagining how she would always be challenging me, and would always be wanting to argue and debate. And she would probably want really intense sex, which would mean me to doing all the work. I agree that she likes how I am not intimidated by her personality, and that is what's primarily piquing her interest in me.
Ideally I'd like my girlfriend to be my equal. Socially, intellectually, etc. I think you can have great discussions without always having a debate with a winner/loser. Usually I just want a nice conversation--an exchange of ideas, viewpoints and information.
Here's what I want from a girlfriend: When one of us is more prepared to take the lead on some aspect of life (non-sexual), then it is nice when that person can be comfortable stepping forward to be in charge of that situation. I want an equal, after all. In the bedroom I'd prefer equality about 65% of the time, myself to be in charge about 30% of the time, and her to be in charge about 5% of the time. Just being honest about what I want. ;)
Anyway, hope this thread goes well....and I continue to be single. :o
 
Why cant you just shag her Catch-22 ? lets take the focus away from a relationship with this woman and move straight into *the grey area* of no strings attached sex .
Go out with her ,have a good time and be sure to state your business! Your not looking for anything remotely resembling a relationship and pretty much only have time for "the occasional shag" . Not in those words but with that as the underlying message.
One of 2 things will happen ...she will either be cool with it or she will not be cool with it .What do you have to lose ?
What if you hook up with her and then things go sour and she turns out to be the superbitch you suspected ,show her you are willing to just walk away ...and walk away with the ball in her court .Once again one of 2 things will happen .She will stop being a bitch and call you or she continues being one and she can do that all by herself .
Think of the sex man ! you did say you miss it ;)
 
Originally posted by pE@K-a-TrOnIc:
Why cant you just shag her Catch-22 ? lets take the focus away from a relationship with this woman and move straight into *the grey area* of no strings attached sex .
See theres the problem. Theres no such thing as no strings attatched sex! One person is inevitably going to get hurt... :(
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Originally posted by Taliana:

See theres the problem. Theres no such thing as no strings attatched sex! One person is inevitably going to get hurt... :(
Very true one person may get hurt but thats usually the person who strays from the basis of your encounters by wanting more than it really is! Something i've done many times before :( .Thats why you define things before anything happens to avoid these misconceptions and I wish more people would do it .It will not last forever! and its not for everyone .As long as both parties know what they want from eachother is does not have to be a bad thing that should be avoided.
This is not to be confused with fuck buddies either ,I for one don't think 2 friends should be having a sexual relationship if they do value their friendship ....Because things usually do go sour with fuck buddies and then look at what you have lost!
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peaka- yeh, but even when the boundaries are laid out right from the beginning, one of thje two is gonbna start feeling more for that person. of course ppl can talk about there being sucha thing as nmo strings attatched sex, but honestly how many ppl do u know have actually done it without one falling for the person?
i know i certainly havent (unless its been a one nighter)
just my personal experience thats all.
 
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