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Bluelight Singles - from begining to end! don't we love the merge feature!

reasons that i am single...hmm
  • i have zero self-esteem
  • i'm just kinda *average* attractiveness, if not worse, thus in order to get a girl, i actually need confidence to approach them
  • i'm weird (this i don't see as a bad thing though...at least i'll attract other weird people :))
  • i'm pretty independant, and don't want to be anchored down
  • i'm *VERY* picky
  • i don't have any spare time atm

yer, i guess that's about all...i guess i can't really complain - a lot of those things are my own fault, so if something comes along, then it does. ah well :(
 
The reason I am single is very simple to understand,

- The one I want doesn't want me.

*shrugs* It happens and we've all been there.

So for the meantime I'm drinking corona's with stars and surviving an onslaught of cigarettes coming from SDB's general direction.
 
U know, all these things arent really REASONS why you're single. They're more like EXCUSES.

I know some pretty flawed people who are in relationships. It's not like u have to be a paragon of mental and physical health to be in one.

Maybe you've gotta stop obsessing over it so much.
 
love the punchee to get to the punch =D. there are many reasons why i'm single, and they change throught the years. some are rational, others less so. i know what they are, and for now, i'm single.

meh, i was gonna get all deep and meaningfull, but i can't be fucked.

ultimately we all have a path to tread, and it's up to us to discover it, and follow it. from what i've read so far in here, most ppl are just plain confused. and that's why all the searcing. trying to find what is right for you. instead of letting past 'failures' numb you, and jade you against relationships, how about seeing each one as an experience, and draw the positives out of it. even the most negative of relationships can provide a positive lesson, if only in what not to do.

something doesn't work out? learn from it, and move on with no bitterness or anger. it was a lesson that needed to be learned. if it wasn't needed, then you wouldn't have gone through it. life is infinite in it's variety, and far too short to spend obsessing over past failures and dissapointments.

now, give me a pen and paper, and some gear. i'll be in that corner jotting down observations about random shit.
 
hmm, i think i'm single because each time i'm out the few girls that i may actually be able to have a relationship with (ie: the ones who actually find me attractive), i never meet or talk to - not that i have any idea who they are when i'm out.

what i mean is, i believe almost every time you are in a crowd, like a bar, club or party, there's always someone that may be the one - the hard part is getting out there and meeting everyone ntil you meet that one.

i've realised recently that most of the relationships i've had the girl has initiated - and girls have the same hangups as guys when it comes to initiating things, so that's not going to happen all that often.

so...i'm single because i don't risk asking...

hux.
 
I think I've realised I'm enjoying being single too much. I don't want to be in a relationship!

I've met a boy who is my age, who's very cute, and who likes me a lot. He's lovely and gentle and into the same things I am. But I'm so reluctant to change any of my plans to see him! I'll see him if we both end up at the same club or something, but like tonight, we're both going to different events because we're sticking with our friends rather than taking the step of going somewhere with each other.

To be fair, it's still very very early stages. I only really met him 3 weeks ago. And I really want to take it slowly. But I ended up snogging another boy the other night. Should I feel guilty? I haven't agreed to be faithful to the other boy yet. And the snog wasn't anything more than 2 people who've had a crush on each other for a long time finally getting around to having a bit of fun (he's 10 years younger than me so anything more than a bit of fun is out of the question! lol!)

At what point do you take the leap and make another person more of a part of your life? At what point do you agree to remain faithful to them? When do you decide you're no longer single and therefore stop your single ways?

It's all too confusing. But I'm extra happy I have options and that I'm finally getting some! ;) =D
 
Why am I single, seriously?

I am a really picky person when it comes to relationships. When I'm approached by anyone, I give them about three seconds to prove that they're interesting enough to talk to then blow them off if they fail. I'm thinking because I'm so dismissive of everyone I've probably missed out on many people who I wouldn't mind being with.

But the crux of it is I only want to go out with someone if it's going to lead somewhere. I can't be arsed spending all this time playing stupid games just to end up single again in a few weeks. I'm just calmly waiting for someone who I'd actually like enough to warrant the effort. Not someone who will shit me to tears.

Oh, and don't get me wrong, if you're not on my wavelength, I'm a complete pain in the arse to be around relationshipwise.

So that's why it's just me here... with the occasional bouts of hot sex. ;)
 
why am i single?

cos ive been hurt oo much in the past espeacilaly by the last guy i dated...he totally made me feel and basially said that he wanted a future with me and all my walls came crashing down and i gave my all and then he crushed my heart :(

i had double walls up now and i dont think they will be coming down for quite some time which really sux because when im in a relationship i always give my all cos i dont see the point of not basically *shrugs*

ive been treateed like shit and stomped on and im never appreciated

im not getting into a relationship unless i find someone that can appreciate me, love me for all and who i am, all my faults and all and can give me the effort and time basically cos i AM worth it :)

i also have a child to think about and men tend to be scared that i want them to be his new dad or something *sigh*

he has a father....the only condition i place on a partner is that he has to realise that he will always be second to my son and that he respects me being a full time mother and that he can be his mate ..thats all

apart from that im single cos i like it that way aswell, i can make my own plans, go wherever i want when i want, i dont have to worry about anyone but myself and my kid
 
Oh buggery, what a weekend. I'm finally pulling my head around and having trouble finding just who I am anymore. I do know I had a chemically-inspired moment of clarity somewhere in the middle of the last few days that's put a new spin on my perspective of things.

Why am I single? Fuckin, any number of reasons.

Because I put down a three instead of a six when entering my phone number in a girls phone eight months ago.
Because I turned left instead of right.
Because I was too busy enjoying being single.
Because she wasn't attractive enough.
Because some people are too used to playing head games to see what's on offer
Because I have no-frills sex

Random thought bubbles from the weekend

"Okay, we're sitting on this bean bag. I'm coming down and you're looking kind of good right now... you're eight years older than me and we're both regulars at the same club. I know I shouldn't shit in my own pool and you're definitely not worth it, plus I had sex yesterday I really don't need this. Ahh... fucking decisions..."

"What are you staring at? I swear you're a man. I'm not stupid you know, I've been through this before... and what sort of pick-up line is "take off my pants", like seriously? Only a guy would be that tacky... hmm... you've fucken got a nice body though... maybe I should take you to the toilets and find out... nah... shemale action is definitely not on for this weekend."

"I know what you're up to. Don't try and force yourself into our group. A group of guys that go out together doesn't need an attractive female, I know [male friend in group] likes you but we all wanna root ya, it's not going to work and you're only going to come between us. Go hang out with the girls, hanging out with us is only going to lead to tears. Even if you get into bed with all three of us at once... and I can tell you're the type that wouldn't be beyond that. Bet you have no idea I went home with your best friend after the recovery on Friday... hehe... I hope I don't have to see you again after she tells you."

=D

Haha... Postcards from the front line.
 
Reasons I'm single, good and bad, rational and not so...

  • I like being single a lot of the time.
  • I like having lots of promiscuous sex with all sorts of guys, and being the sort of person I am, I don't feel comfortable doing that while in a relationship...
  • I find sexual intimacy to come quite a lot easier than emotional intimacy..
  • I don't like myself when I'm being all clingy and joined at the hip with someone...(which is how I tend to get in a relationship)..
  • No-one wants me. Except for desparate fuckers who do like being clingy and all joined at the hip... :(

Umm, there may be more but they'll do for now...

--Raz--
 
Hoptis: Because I have no-frills sex
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LOL at Hoptis... mate, we gotta have a drink sometime! :D

These days I just tell women up front "Look, I'm not into anal or doing it upside down while covered in jam donuts and chocolate sauce" yadda yadda yadda and they're usually on me quick as a wink. Must be refreshing to know some boys aren't gonna make a beeline for your butt 2 seconds into the foreplay?? ;)
 
OK I didnt quite read the thread before the last time I posted. oops :o

why am I single?

because I haven't met someone I feel that connection with.

that's the one and only reason.

I'm still waiting, still looking, but having fun in the mean time ;)

Must be refreshing to know some boys aren't gonna make a beeline for your butt 2 seconds into the foreplay??
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so normal sex isn't classed as boring? I get so stressed that the boy is wanting some gymnast woman in the sack or something when all I want is just a normal plain old shag!! LOL!!
 
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miss apple said:
so normal sex isn't classed as boring? I get so stressed that the boy is wanting some gymnast woman in the sack or something when all I want is just a normal plain old shag!! LOL!!
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I personally look for a girl who has a nice straight back when she sits

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Why is a room full of married people empty?
There isn't a single person in it.
 
*glues her butt to the floor and stays put...with the beer and smokes...im set...snuggles superdiscobreaker*

well its nice to feel at home...yeah growing old alone sucks big time...thats my number one fear and phobia...is there a medium? right now im struggling with the feelings of being alone so much it is chronically depressing me day to day. its not that i want a relationship or anythig...coz i dont right now...hell i have no clues as to what i want...but its more the company side of having someone i miss. i cry myself to sleep a lot coz i miss having someone specail in my life :\

just some one to hold and fall asleep next to. someone to put my arms around...or just to feel needed...its a feeling i long for and something i crave...just to have company and know thers someone there to hold you...to hug u when u cry...laugh when u do...

my mind is that messed up right now i cant have anything...so for now i will sit here and enjoy my beer and smokes and sort myself out...

being single sucks...sighs...but oh well...*drinks a beer and sits with her teddy bear*
 
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Being in the lovey dovey mood that I was in on Sunday ... I gave the whole "being single" a lot of thought ...

I have 2 problems :)

1. As much as I do want a b/f ... the more I think about it, I dunno if I could commit ... I love clubbing too much .. and like the random pashes etc ... maybe if I met the right person things would change ... but I'm enjoying myself for now :D

AND

2. I have no worries approaching a random guy and making a move .. no sweat! But as soon as I like someone (ie. start liking someone I've known for a while) I don't have the guts to make a move. I try reading their behaviour and shite ... but never work up the courage to say anything. And I know I'm gonna snooze and lose ... ARGH!

That's it for now ;)
 
why am i single?

i presume it's cos i havent met the right person, isnt that how these things work 8) i couldnt be fucked getting out there to meet people either, never been into that kinda scene.

in the past few months, something seems to be missing when im with the opposite sex. we'd get along fine but there's nothing that indicates or convinces me to take things further... im almost apathetic about it. it doesnt even bother me if a date gets postponed or cancelled.

occasionally when i have the chance to get physically intimate, it's pretty much just the heat of the moment or plain lust. it still feels wrong and sex never eventuates, which i should be thankful for i suppose, since im not a fan of one-night stands.

that doesnt stop me from looking or lusting after women though.

either my body or my brain's confused 8(

this post probably doesnt even make sense 8)
 
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