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Bluelight Singles - from begining to end! don't we love the merge feature!

Be honest, be aware, speak from the heart, smile, listen, laugh, feel comfortable in the silence, hold hands, share dreams, go on walks, drink champange together, spend time apart, throw in a little suprise now and then, weekly bunches of flowers, kisse and blurrters on the tummy, forgo blame, enjoy the moment, look at the trees, look at the sky, mean what you say, say what you mean, don't feign affection, be true to yourself, do put up with other people's shite, don't shite on others, leave a love note, give a massage, brush their hair, kiss their neck, lay in the sun together.
Play on the planet together
 
yeah miss apple...have faith :) it will happen when u least expect it...cliched i know but thats what has happened 2 me last week!!! i never wanted a bf...and i think i may have one now :-/
 
If you're fed up of people saying "its going to happen to you, I know it", then clap your hands, clap them straight on the fucking windpipe of the sanctimonious git who's poisoning the air with that useless phrase which seems to be more pity than anything else, so FUCK OFF!!!
Apples, will you marry me?
In the meantime, I'll email you the codeine extraction info while ya think it over. ;)
-plaz out-
 
Well, I've been spending my time lurking in this thread, so I guess I should pipe up now...
To all those "Oh, you'll find that person soon..." people.
Uh, NO! Most people never find "that person", they settle for the closest approximation, then fool themselves into thinking that they have the rest of the qualities that make them perfect.
Anyway,
I've had a "person whom I share moments most intimate" (read: fuckbuddy) now for about 3 or so months and one thing that I've noticed is that they've made me a shitload more picky in what I want in a person. Because my mind is no longer clouded by the procreative urge, the more rational and logical parts of my brain take over.
The bad thing about this is I've become completely and totally apathetic about finding "the one" because "the one" is mearly a figment of my imagination and I'll be fucked if I spend my free time chasing shadows. Every female (or male) that I have come across in the past few months have all in one way or another just not "done it" for me.
So, is it better to be lonely and sexually satisfied, or with someone you feel you've just settled for?
 
all u single females should stop posting in this thread and start posting in the 'Post ur rack' thread. Guaranteeed to get you some attention! Just ask beatgirl! Bluelight males are beating down her door :D
 
OK enough of the people coming in here and dispensing condescending advice, any more and I'll delete the posts. We realise you're trying to be helpful and all but it's coming across as insulting. Remember this is a Singles thread, the last thing we want to hear about is your happy coupleness, how you found coupleness and how it'll happen to us one day soon.
If you'd like to talk about your coupleness go either to Bluelight Couples Part V or if your partner isn't on Bluelight go to here. Just keep it out of this thread.
Originally posted by Fetish Jester:
So, is it better to be lonely and sexually satisfied, or with someone you feel you've just settled for?
I think I'd rather be lonely and sexually satisfied, or even lonely and sexually frustrated rather than settle. If you settle you just end up emotionally unsatisfied. It's still possible to be lonely even though you're surrounded by people.
[ 29 November 2002: Message edited by: PsychoKitten ]
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There's no doubt that being in a fuckbuddy situation can make you less eager to find anyone and actually works against you finding someone to settle down with. You become comfortable with the situation (and what guy wouldn't) and it's easy to get too comfortable.
I don't think we should just settle for anything or the next best thing, if he/she isn't everything we expect in a partner you're better off staying single. That said, having someone to share moments of physical intimacy with makes that wait a lot easier. So does posting in this thread! :-p
 
But i am patient - all good things come to those who wait. I hope...
I said this before, but when i said that, i was refering to all things generally, not just finding "the one"(sic).
Personally i believe that the is no such thing as the "one" because there is no such thing as perfection. "Perfection" is an idea, a theory - something to look at with the unrealistic desire of obtaining it. I believe that if you seek perfection, then you will only be disappointed.
That said, if you can find somehting that is damned near close, then why not go for it? To answer FJ's question; i could never be sexually satisfied by someone with whom i did not feel a stong connection, i can't get off that way(this is why fuck buddies and one night stands just don't work for me.)
I would rather be with some one who meets *most* of my criteria, rather than someone with whom i have sex.
I'm funny that way... yet every now an again i decide that maybe i can do the fuckbuddy thing. It hasn't worked yet, but you never know...
[ 29 November 2002: Message edited by: *Cosmic Mist* ]
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Bluelight Singles - Installment XIX - "I don't give two shits about your love life!"

Yeah I figured the old one was long done at about 137 posts its over time it was closed, so I'll leave that to the mods and powers that be.
Its dying slowly here if you want to poke it and watch it choke.
The drill? Much the same as always.
Enter stage right.
Bitch, moan, whine, say something constructive, or something idiotic well disguised as something constructive.
Exit stage left, hopefully with some impressionable greenlighter attached to you.
Or not. ;)
Either way, serial singletons (like me) this is our home, like it or lump it (many do both), well actually its more like our lounge room, so draw up an easy chair, or a beanbag, open a beer, take a cigarette, and shoot the breeze about the essence of being single.
:D
-plaz out-
[edit] updated link and corrected roman numeral :p - Kitty
[ 06 December 2002: Message edited by: PsychoKitten ]
 
still here
still have a non existant love life
hmm that would probably be because im single.. :\
ahh fuck it im off to melbourne tomorrow finally
stay tuned...
 
OK, i have had a thought. This thought spawned from the question FJ asked in the previous thread about being sexually satisfied and alone, or being together with someone who you've merely settled for.
My question is sort of the other side of that coin: Is it better to miss out on a relationship with someone who doesn't quite fit your idea of what is perfect because you're waiting for someone better, or should you go for that not-quite-so-perfect relationship and allow for the possiblility that it could grow into something beautiful?
As the proverb goes: A bird in the hand is worth two in the bush...
 
I don't think there's anything wrong with going with the "not-quite-perfect" relationship as long as you don't go into it with expectations of changing the other person into that "perfect" person you are after.
And also, most important, is that you don't get into something out of desperation, don't just say yes to the best thing that comes along because you can't stand being single anymore. That's bullshit, at the end of the day, only you know what your standards are and what you expect from a partner and you shouldn't compromise on that because you're lonely/horny.
That said, I wouldn't myself. Good advice I read somewhere; there are enough mediocre things in life, don't let your love be one of them.
 
^^
Having actually been in a situation where I have gotten with someone who didn't "fit the bill" as it were, I would definately put all my money on waiting until I find the person who has what I'm looking for.
I'm not naive enough to think that there is the "perfect" person for me, but I know there are people out there whom I could spend a great portion of my life with, my last ex being a good example of that.
 
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