• 🇳🇿 🇲🇲 🇯🇵 🇨🇳 🇦🇺 🇦🇶 🇮🇳
    Australian & Asian
    Drug Discussion


    Welcome Guest!
    Posting Rules Bluelight Rules
  • AADD Moderators: Tronica

Bluelight Singles - from begining to end! don't we love the merge feature!

Originally posted by hoptis:
I don't think there's anything wrong with going with the "not-quite-perfect" relationship as long as you don't go into it with expectations of changing the other person into that "perfect" person you are after.
That's EXACTLY right. Because there is no such thing as the perfect relationship.
A relationship is something you have to work at, and something you have to build. You expect to replace his/her parents as next kin overnight? You have some head work to do then.
I've been in a relationship for (at present) nearly 7 years. That's more than 1/3 the lifetime of many of the posters here.
And let me tell you... if you can't work at it, then you don't deserve them.
A relationship is the ultimate in equal opportunity. If you don't care enough about someone to meet them halfway (use reality here) then why should they?
I see so many people through these series of threads with expectations so high that it's no wonder they're bloody single... I wouldn't go out with people with hangups or a bad case of self-love like that either.
 
*yawns*
Im sick of the back stabbing I heard at ec. Im not saying who said wot about who.
Makes me wonder wot the same people are saying behind my back as well. call me paranoid but it wouldnt surprise me.
I had a great time at ec still though some people left a pretty bad impression.
[ 03 December 2002: Message edited by: sydkiwi ]
 
Originally posted by *Cosmic Mist*:
Is it better to miss out on a relationship with someone who doesn't quite fit your idea of what is perfect because you're waiting for someone better, or should you go for that not-quite-so-perfect relationship and allow for the possiblility that it could grow into something beautiful?
this is a tough one...generally i've always been of the opinion that i'd only have a relationship with someone if it *clicked* (though my last r/s had none of that...and i still hung around for a year :P), but i'm slowly changing my mind. unfortunately, this is only because of the fact that so few people are interested in me, i'm slowly coming to realise the "beggars can't be choosers" proverb!
so in general, i think it really depends on how few and far between *interests* are...if you find it easy to pick up, sure you're better off waiting, but if you're like me, maybe you should just take what you're given to some extent :)
ugly!brad(1)
 
Joanna, u rawk, end of story. Who gives a fuck what any1 says. If i said u rule, u rule and fuck what any1 else thinks.
BTW. thx for looking after me at EC again.
When are u coming back to Melbourne?
I'm glad i had a chance in the morning to say goodbye and give ya a hugz before u left!
 
parcos: was my pleasure. glad you were ok in the end u had me really worried. plz dont use my real name hun and its not joanna :)
Im going to try and head down for my bday which is in march probably be for two tribes or something.
but i need to find somewhere to live at the mo things arent working out where i am currently living :(
now heres an excuse to get away from westieville.
now where in sydney will i find the cute guys!!!
 
A question I have is whether or not the people who are making the decisions about people being 'not-so-perfect' are making those decisions based on first(or second)-impressions?
Coz there is a HUGE difference between that and someone you actually know. Infact you could be missing out on knowing a great person just because something they did when you met them wasnt up to your standard....
I know a few people who when they first meet a guy will immediately size up his 'date-ability', not tall enough, has a funny voice, told a joke that wasnt funny...
There is a difference between being with someone whos not right for you and someone whos not perfect..
stace.
 
Here's a spin out for you people!
Unexpetedly I'm single again. :(
Why? Well to tell you the truth I really don't know? I came home from work today to find all of my SO's stuff out of the house, then he comes home and tells me that he doesn't love me, and that this is better for both of us, after he was away for a week and a half doing one of those Pheonix self help courses. (maybe some people here will know what that is)
How do I feel? Like my life has been stolen from me! Brainwashing is a powerful tool people, just remember that!
What am I going to do? Hopefully get the fuck out of Melbourne for a few days and have a real good think about what's going to happen next, maybe sit on the beach and reflect on a few things, maybe I'll figure something out, maybe this will be what makes me quit my job???
Thankyou to everyone who I've spoken to so far, your support and help has been a great help, and without you guys I probably would have jumped over a bridge by now.
My mobile will be on if anyone wants to call me so yeah don't be shy, I guess I need people to talk to even though I'm going away for a bit.
To everyone here who's single have a drink for me please!!
 
Top