Being violent while drunk - what does it mean?

[ykm420]

Not all guys want the same thing from girls, man. That's like saying girls only want one thing from guys...

When a dude is drunk, at a party, trying to talk to a girl, it's generally for intercourse. Despite what you guys may think (which is fine, have your opinions) I'm going to be 'that guy' till I'm dead. Nothing will ever change me being there for my sister, making sure she's safe and having fun with friends. Not being bombarded by guys.
I know what these guys want, I can see it, and I'm not an idiot. I do the same thing, but to an extent.. If the girl is digging me, I'm going to lay the mack down, but that's the only way. If she's not, then I leave her be. The way it should be.

 

[TheDeceased]

^It annoys the shit out of me that some girls assume that I'm trying to hit on them when I'm just being friendly. A lot of men and women are capable of, inebriated or otherwise, being less than sexual objects in each other's eyes.

Update on me: I started back on my anti-anxiety meds yesterday. Today I have absolutely no desire, zero, to drink alcohol. What I was trying to achieve from alcohol was what I should have been trying to achieve from anti-anxiety drugs. I now suspect that I may have gotten violent because no matter how much I drank, I was still stressed out/angry/depressed, if not more so.

Now I feel like I'm floating on a cloud. I don't need any drugs or alcohol and all their nasty side effects. My eye was twitching for seven days straight. Seven fucking days. I tried to cure it by smoking and drinking. I figured I've been working too hard, I just need to chill out. But no matter how much I smoked or drank the eye just kept on twitching.

Now, eighty cents later (30mg of Oxazepam), I am perfectly fine and sober and capable of going about my normal day.

Today I actually thought to myself: What am I going to do today? rather than just waking up and getting smashed. I no longer need bottles and cans scattered over the house, puke, piss, dirty bongs, cigarette butts. I don't need to get into fights with people. I don't feel any anger towards anything, myself or otherwise. The muscles in my back are relaxed. I'm not grinding my teeth.

One tiny pill.

Eighty cents.

Hooray for benzos.

It sounds like you quite possibly have a self-hatred problem.

Some people who remain unnamed told me I was shit for a long long time and it stuck somewhere in my head. Sometimes when I'm not thinking straight I believe it. Other times I love myself as if I'm God, perhaps to balance things out. There is no happy middle ground where I can see myself as I am in the mirror. It is always either WAY up or WAY down.

 

[Kaycee89]

I actually have a similar problem. In day to day sober life, I'm level headed, calm and reasonable. I don't fight for no reason or for the hell of it. But when I'm drunk, everything seems to anger me. Like I can't control my reactions any more. It doesn't happen every time I'm drunk... But I do always have an attitude when I'm drunk. Whether it is aggressive or a depressed attitude. I've found myself in situations of blind rage whilst intoxicated for little or no reason at all and it is a serious problem. I've been disgusted in myself on several occasions for my own actions. And for the aftermath of those actions. Needless to say, this is not the way a 22 year old woman should carry herself. It isn't appropriate behaviour and there is no excuse for it. Don't get me wrong, I've never went as far as seriously hurting someone. But I've wanted to. It's not healthy to act like that and although alcohol has a large part in it, I only have myself to blame for my actions. I chose to drink until I reached that point. I chose to put myself in that situation. It took me a long time to realise that I had a problem with drunken violence but I'm now doing my best to do something about it. I now only drink at social occasions instead of going out every single weekend, just because I could. And when I do drink now, I make sure that I don't come close to that point where everything changes. The Jekyll and Hyde moment. I refuse to put myself into that position where I'm no longer in control. Sounds to me like you need to try to do them same. Whether you can do it alone or do it with help, it needs to be done. You can't continue with behaviour like that. You're not only a danger to yourself but to everyone around you too. I sincerely hope that you can make a change and stop yourself from doing something really stupid whilst drunk. Before it's too late to change.