Ask an Escort- by XtcgrlATL

[Mariposa]

I have a question that I saw asked on a providers' board (we'll leave out the name!) that a friend (former sex worker) used.

Have any of your clients ever told you "I love you" during sex?

 

[Mariposa]

Yes, please let me know the results. I'd imagine that some have been sexually abused as a child also - since that's what the science tells us. I don't remember it differentiating between your garden variety streetwalker versus a group or individual that's "high class". Sex for money is sex for money regardless the amount you're paid. The pathology is still the same.

Look forward to your findings!

Be nice - xtcatlgrl is here to share her experience, she's doing so in a helpful and intelligent way, and the rules against personal attacks still stand.

That goes for everyone.

 

[xtcgrlatl]

How many men do you see on average per day/week..do you work everyday?

It's completely up to me, usually. The first and last week of every month tend to be a little slow these days. I can generally see at least two guys a day even when it's slow and even when I have a day where I dont see anyone (usually a wednesday) I'll often get like a bunch of calls asking about the next day and see maybe 2 that called the day before and 2 that call that day, so it all evens out pretty well The middle of the month I can usually see 4-5 guys every day if I feel inclined. 5 is about the max I can physically handle. Though I have gone up to 6. If I want to feel productive I like to see at least 2 a day.

How often do you get tested?

One time back in like november. I should make myself go more often, the one time was court ordered. But to be honest I'm not inclined to hear bad news so until I show some actual symptoms of something I try not to think about it.

How long do you plan on doing this for? If given the opportunity (a "real" job offer) would you stop?

I don't have a set plan on how long I'll do it. If someone called me and offered me a desk job I'd almost certainly decline, after having the luxury of setting my own hours and playing by my own rules I'm not sure I could ever go back to calling someone boss. Soooo, right now my plan is that sometime over the course of the next year I'm going to get into massage therapy school, get licensed, build a massage practice, probably do them side by side for a while and then eventually just do massages only. I'm completely comfortable with touching strangers now, I see a massage therapist bi-weekly myself, so it seems a logical jump to make. I've got some other possibilities in mind for legit careers but nothing I want to talk about. Right now massage therapy seems like my way to go.

If/when u have kids will you tell them about this?

Probably not. Probably wont tell them about all the drugs I've done and parties I've gone to either At least not unless i have a good reason to.

Do you have any other "protection" besides your roomate/look-out girl?

As far as risk of assault goes? I've got a big fat 9 milly thats never far away.

But how hard would it be to get out of it?

I have no idea. I can see how it'd be easy to trap yourself in this gig by getting used to it and doing it past your prime without acquiring other skills along the way. On the other hand, I have a lot of free time and finally have figured out a career that might appeal to me that I can pick up while doing this and start doing part time.


(With the added advantage of being able to legitimately offer "massage" in my escort ad. A lot of girls build a trap for themselves by saying they do "massages" for a certain amount. If they get busted then in most states offering massage without a license is a felony so the police will tell the girl she's shot herself in the foot and she better just confess to the misdemeanor of prostitution or she risks a more serious charge. Easy meat.)

 

[dtugg]

^^^Deos building a massage parlor actually mean building a brothel?

I don't mean to be spiteful about this but is a massage all that would you do (and/or your employees)? No happy endings? How often do happy endings happen in the bis?

 

[xtcgrlatl]

I have a quick question, Ms. Prostitute. Do you consider the sex you give mechanical or cold at all?

Nah, it's more like a somewhat on the fly but mostly practiced dance routine where my partner may or may not step on my toes and make things a little harder but I soldier on like any good performer

I'm guessing you don't, since you said "sex and 'love'" as if love was a vague, undefineable by-product of sex.

I actually put love in quotes because I think that what sometimes passes for love in one or both partners perception often is not.

You can't boggle down the ritual of sex to a commodity. even though it is, and will continue to be.

I guess what you have to keep in mind is that sometimes people just want to get laid. They dont want to make love, they don't want to go out on a date, they just want to be getting laid by someone they find physically attractive.

Some people can't imagine the thought of "casual sex" some people don't want anything else.

I'm just here for the money.

 

[xtcgrlatl]

I have a question that I saw asked on a providers' board (we'll leave out the name!) that a friend (former sex worker) used.

Have any of your clients ever told you "I love you" during sex?

Not quite that bad but I had one who asked if I would be at all interested in a relationship with him. It was my first time ever seeing him and I had "known him" all of half an hour of non talking sex. He was about 60 years old.

I couldn't even bring myself to respond.

I also had one guy, a regular, who seemed to seriously suggest that we should get married and I can be a housewife that puts out and when he dies in about 20 years, give or take a bit, he'll leave me a rich woman.

Little to creepy for me, he was no longer a regular after that.

 

[xtcgrlatl]

I have a question that I saw asked on a providers' board (we'll leave out the name!) that a friend (former sex worker) used.

Have any of your clients ever told you "I love you" during sex?

Not quite that bad but I had one who asked if I would be at all interested in a relationship with him. It was my first time ever seeing him and I had "known him" all of half an hour of non talking sex. He was about 60 years old.

I couldn't even bring myself to respond.

I also had one guy, a regular, who seemed to seriously suggest that we should get married and I can be a housewife that puts out and when he dies in about 20 years, give or take a bit, he'll leave me a rich woman.

Little to creepy for me, he was no longer a regular after that.

 

[xtcgrlatl]

^^^Deos building a massage parlor actually mean building a brothel?

Beats me. I have no knowledge of such those kinds of places. I am strictly independent and always will be

I don't mean to be spiteful about this but is a massage all that would you do (and/or your employees)?

Like I said, I'd just be independent. I'd certainly never have employees that do "happy endings" were I to start a like massage business. That could get me in serious trouble. It'd be massage only.

Me personally, I'll feel it out as I go along.

My massage therapist is completely independent, works out of her home, does well for herself and I've never asked her for a happy ending and I'm pretty sure she doesnt offer them. In fact I think she said the vast majority of her clients are female

No happy endings? How often do happy endings happen in the bis?

In the massage business? I dont know. I wont offer them as part of my "massage therapy" stuff. The goal is to build a client base that's only looking for a legitimate massage and will advertise for you by word of mouth.

I might integrate some part of massage into my escorting but it's a one way street with that.

 

[dtugg]

OK, thanks for the response.

I have a lot of respect for for doing this thread. If I was a female and needed the money I might do the same thing that you are.

 

[xtcgrlatl]

Look forward to your findings!

Thus far the on topic responses:

"My dad supports whatever I do. His only concern is that I'm safe and happy. I have always had a great and honest relationship with my Dad. Yes we too come from a "broken home" But that has nothing to do with why I escort I do this A to pay bills and have a life other then mer existences B I like it."

and

"I think perhaps in some cases the daddy issue may be true, but like all things, it certainly doesn't fit everyone.

I'm in my mid-thirties and have only recently decided to do this. I did it for a few reasons:

1. I'm a Graduate student and I also work a full-time job. I need extra money but I don't necessarily have time to work an extra 20 hours a week. Doing this, I can see two guys a week, and make much more.

2. Sex and men. I like it and I like them.. a lot.

My relationship with my dad is wonderful. My parents were married for almost 30 years before my mom died. My dad was always there for me and he still is. What I do has absolutely nothing to do with him. "

Along with one other woman who says

"I really don't think the Daddy issue has anything to do with it..."

 

[satricion]

Thanks for your response. It isn't just me that links the correlation between aberrant sexual behavior and daddy issues (remember Psych 101?). In fact I would have been surprised if you had said you had a 'normal' relationship with him.

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Yes, please let me know the results. I'd imagine that some have been sexually abused as a child also - since that's what the science tells us. I don't remember it differentiating between your garden variety streetwalker versus a group or individual that's "high class". Sex for money is sex for money regardless the amount you're paid. The pathology is still the same.

Look forward to your findings!

Um, 'aberrant' sexual behaviour? 'Pathology'? Your posts just show how often science (especially psychology and psychiatry) often enshrine normative judgements in scientific language. Maybe you need to look through a few past DSM's to see what behaviour we now consider completely normal used to be a disorder?

I'm not seeing any aberrant behaviour or pathology here. I'm seeing a person who is rationally taking advantage of the resources she has available in order to make a bunch of money and live the lifestyle she wants. And to claim that she would only do this 'aberrant thing' (read: 'thing that does not conform to my normative principles regarding the meaning of sex and the body') because of some pathology is patronising and offensive.

Anyway I don't want to derail this very interesting thread but normative bias is normative bias regardless of whether you think you have 'science' backing you up.

 

[chopped_chimp]

But to be honest I'm not inclined to hear bad news so until I show some actual symptoms of something I try not to think about it.

I wonder if your clients think this way too?

Just not thinking about it is not a sensible approach to the sexual health of you or your clients. Many STD's show no signs for months, even years. In the interest of harm reduction and the spread of disease, please get tested more frequently.

Thanks for being so open and honest.

 

[GoddessLSD-XTC]

Good question Mariposa, during my slut daze I had several say they loved me or were starting to. Most of the time I could see it comming and told them NOT to 'cause I wasn't lookin' 4 love.

I'm also open to an Anna Nicole situation like xtcgrl had offers 4 but the guy would hafta be very rich/famous.

U'all hafta realize that xtcgrl is like a psychiatrist for alot of these guys.

I liked xtcgrl's answer that these guys are NOT dating material.

Every time I took $$$ 4 sex (about 4 times) it was weird . . . karma.

(One time I got $50 knocked off a plumbing bill 4 a BJ. . . the guy had only 4-inches, lol and wanted to see me again 4 $50 but I wasn't interested.)

 

[xtcgrlatl]

U'all hafta realize that xtcgrl is like a psychiatrist for alot of these guys.

Not really, honestly. I meet bankers, lawers, business execs, car dealership owners seem pretty common, real estate guys, i have a reg who's a college professor. My clients are pretty upstanding types.

Like i was saying, someone doesnt have to be crazy or horribly fucked up to come see me. They just have to have some disposable income and some freetime that they'd like to spend with a nice hot willing girl.

It's easy to see why a guy would want the later.

They're paying me for it because they don't have time to go carousing for bar sluts. They've got responsibilities like kids, wifey, running their business, all kinds of normal life stuff, these are usually pretty successful guys with lots of disposable income and not a lot of free time to dispose of it.

I liked xtcgrl's answer that these guys are NOT dating material.

Not for a 20 something raver chick. Myself and my clients have a big generation gap and are at very different points in our life. It usually has nothing to do with flaws that they have. I'm sure if I was a 35 year old woman with "financial stability' "kids" and "a house" on my list of to do's in the near future some of my clients could be a good catch for that.

 

[uacvax]

being a masseuse is the sport that you're a professional athlete in?

 

[xtcgrlatl]

Amateur actually, re-read the thread you're referencing before you try and call me out. But I don't want to talk about that game Hence why I didn't mention it.

**Also, that thread was closed in december, I didn't start seeing my massage therapist till mid Jauary, and I didnt even consider that "I could do this" as a possible career option till at least a couple months later.**

 

[shannonsensimilla]

I've found myself actually envying women because they can do what you do. I mean, I'm sure I could do it, too, but it seems like its wayyyy more acceptable for girls unless youre in like San Fransisco and I'm not gay.

There's a novel called Going Down by Jennifer Belle about a call girl who needs help paying for NYU and then the story just takes off. It's really good. If you're a reader, I would recommend it...not just because of what you do, but because of the story itself.

 

[xtcgrlatl]

There's a novel called Going Down by Jennifer Belle about a call girl who needs help paying for NYU and then the story just takes off. It's really good. If you're a reader, I would recommend it...not just because of what you do, but because of the story itself.

I'm a pretty avid reader actually so I'll probably give that a peak and see how it catches me. I'm always buying used books off amazon so I'll put it in my wishlist and keep it in mind next time I buy reading material.

 

[threesfoursfives]

back with another question.
Obviously there is a certain amount of fascination with sexual part of your job.

Are there special services you reserve for your regulars or is everything on the menu for a price?
Do you list in your add what you will and wont do?

 

[FrostyMcFailure]

hate 2 be a dick here but your words arent exactly special bc u've sold yourself. I sold myself at 17fo a ride to a spot & loot & im not extra cool 4 it. I wuld have totally did wutt ii did & chilled wit the gal anywayy but gettin billz made it that much cooler. SO as an "escort"(some use the term sugaa baby) what makes you unique?

& why wuld you encouraging people to follow your path if u cant answer that.