Are things ever fun again totally sober?

[Justasimpleguy]

You got a girl? Want me to be straight up? Fuck! Lmao. Getting sober has increased me libido 100 fold.. sucked at first because I get off in like 2 seconds. But fuck it. Lol. Sex releases endorphins.. shit. I'd get off in like 1 min.
But in that one minute I was the FUCKING man.

..... at least in my head I was.. ahaha

 

[F1n1shed]

The face when i'm sober now, i want a girl to keep me busy. Too nervous to approach cuties

 

[jammin83]

You can always have fun sober man. I'm not all the way there yet, but I'm on my way. I'm still tapering off my medication and will be for some time unfortunately. You really have to replace that with something else. You can't just sit around not doing anything with the time you would have spent drinking. After losing my mind for almost a year and being totally mad all I want is to feel normal and comfortable in my own skin. It's totally changed the way I perceived drugs. Now if I use it sets my withdrawal back and makes me feel like shit, every shitty piece of food I eat makes me sick, I have become really sensitive to pretty much everything I put into my body. I am still facing a long road until I am fully free but I will be free at some point. I am so over drugs it's not even funny. It's a matter of perspective. You can't have as much fun so long as you aren't allowing yourself to have fun. It's so nice to not be carrying that ball and chain around all the time, constantly satiating that need for a buzz.

Are you still taking the xanax? That could be part of your problem with feeling so depressed.

 

[jammin83]

You deserve to get treatment. A doctor can hook you up with the medicine that would most target your underlying disorder, which is the reason that you drink so much.

That 'medicine' and line of logic is what got me in the predicament I am in now that's taking me years to recover from. I was told I was taking the 'wrong' drugs and I needed the 'right' drugs for my 'condition'. That 'medicine' has made me feel worse than I have ever felt coming off of it and has made me suicidally depressed almost every day for a year not even mentioning the physical aspect of it. These fucking drugs that they call medicine have dug me into a much deeper hole than I could have ever got in with illegal drugs or alcohol or any substance under the sun. Sorry but that's total bull shit.

 

[nuttynutskin]

Being sober is as boring as you yourself make it. I am never bored. TBH I don't even understand it.

Were you ever an alcoholic? It's well known that going off the booze can cause anhedonia, sometimes for quite a while.

You got a girl? Want me to be straight up? Fuck! Lmao. Getting sober has increased me libido 100 fold.. sucked at first because I get off in like 2 seconds. But fuck it. Lol. Sex releases endorphins.. shit. I'd get off in like 1 min.
But in that one minute I was the FUCKING man.

..... at least in my head I was.. ahaha

Well being drunk never effected my libido, but no. I've pretty much given up on the idea of being in any sort of serious relationship. It would be nice to have someone to hook up and hang out with but that would likely involve alcohol. I'm too self conscious to be close to someone without some social lubricant especially at first.

You can always have fun sober man. I'm not all the way there yet, but I'm on my way. I'm still tapering off my medication and will be for some time unfortunately. You really have to replace that with something else. You can't just sit around not doing anything with the time you would have spent drinking.

I've been lifting weights and eating good but the depression and urges to drink are still there.

Are you still taking the xanax? That could be part of your problem with feeling so depressed.

Yeah, I'm physically dependent. It's the only thing that keeps me from throwing bricks at people tho.

These fucking drugs that they call medicine have dug me into a much deeper hole than I could have ever got in with illegal drugs or alcohol or any substance under the sun. Sorry but that's total bull shit.

That's pretty one-sided and unnecessarily harsh. Prozac helped me a great deal for the short time I took it, but unfortunately it gave me unwanted sexual side effects.

 

[Erikmen]

I have come to appreciate a sober mind-state more than an inebriated one, for the most part.

It's not like being high. You may never feel as fucked up again. But being sober is a major improvement. There's something about sobriety that makes you feel good in a way that drugs and alcohol never can. You won't be sabotaging yourself anymore. You'll be more in control. You'll be living in this world, not some far-off fantasy land that no one can empathize with. It's not "good" like being fucked up. But it's a massive improvement.

You deserve to get treatment. A doctor can hook you up with the medicine that would most target your underlying disorder, which is the reason that you drink so much. But also, it's extremely important that you go to therapy/AA, and that you understand that only you can make yourself better, meaning that you should implement exercise, socialization, and mental work into your daily routine. If you don't, you're not doing all you ca to help yourself.

I've been there, man. I've had my run-ins with alcohol. I was addicted to alcohol when I was a kid. I got off it cold turkey (which isn't advised). Now, I'm able to have a few drinks per week. But that probably isn't the same for you. I was horribly addicted to it, but not that much.

I'm sure you know this or you wouldn't be posting, but alcohol will ruin your life for good if you don't do something about it. It's all up to you. Treatment is out there.

I definitely agree with you about being sober as a major improvement.
There are many experiences I´ve gone through sober without experiencing the fear and the isolation so commonly felt when your are constantly looking for your next dose.
But with freedom comes responsibility and sometimes, just sometimes you tend over protect yourself in order to guarantee you will keep moving forward.

We are free at last but not yet used to let go. Some memories tend to stick for a while making you revive feelings of regret, like a reflex.
I believe everyone goes through different experiences, but in all scenarios I learned to appreciate the sobriety and the constant challenge makes me fell stronger and alive.
Something I´ve learnt here is that some of the difficulties may be as hard as we make it.
Congratulations for those succeeded and to the ones who are willing to try.

 

[nygiants1313]

I try and look at things this way.

Say you went to the beach 500x but evey single time high as a kite. Well, going to the beach sober probably won't be a 10-10 holy Fuk awesome experience because you ARENT high but hey atleast you still have the ability to go instead of being in jail, a psych ward or dead and what not.

I know it's extreme. But Just having the freedom to still do these activities is a nice feeling because it could be much much worse.

Idk im still working on getting sober so who knows.

 

[nuttynutskin]

I think the honest reality is that I'm not ready to give it up completely even despite some health scares. I just really need to not find myself falling into another multiple day bender. I'm probably playing with fire, but hell you gotta make life livable sometimes. Anyways, thanks for the responses.

 

[ramblin_rose]

I quit drinking heavily a few years ago and have been forced to stop opiates (occasional PST) but right now I'm so depressed that I have seriously thought of suicide a few times. I know that's not a solution and my husband would be devastated. My dogs are my happiness right now. I've read above-thread that it gets better but I'm still waiting. Don't know if it's pertinent or not but I'm also on a mood stabilizer b/c I'm bipolar. For most of the time I just wish I wasn't here.

 

[nuttynutskin]

Hang in there, it does get better, I've seen this for myself. I still haven't given up alcohol completely but I would like to think I have a better handle on it currently. I may be fooling myself but I guess time will tell.