doppelganga196
Bluelighter
About time! Post 19 & especially 20 ^ Says it all.
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Approaching wife about opiate abuse, how do I do it?
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Condumbpope
Bluelighter
I'm sure if I coddled her and showed no anger towards her lying to me she'd be fine, right? Wrong. Go preach your bullshit somewhere else.
Cry more, and close this thread mod before more of these fools get butthurt
Cry more, and close this thread mod before more of these fools get butthurt
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ChemicalFeelings
Bluelighter
I feel for your situation but do you think taking her off all those meds with no chance to taper was a good idea WD is serious.
As for everyone else Original poster did not ask to be judged but he asked for suggestions. Though is choice was severe it is his choice and his marriage I'm sure he knows his wife better than any of you judgemental assholes.
As for everyone else Original poster did not ask to be judged but he asked for suggestions. Though is choice was severe it is his choice and his marriage I'm sure he knows his wife better than any of you judgemental assholes.
Condumbpope
Bluelighter
The only danger in tramadol w/d i'd say is emotional turbulence/suicide and the seizure risk. I watch her, removed sharpy, pointy, and things that go boom from the house and left her on Valium so she doesn't seize.... She is also going to see her doctor ASAP and informing her.
We've been through the taper, sober, relapse routine more than I care to say.
ChemicalFeelings
Bluelighter
Okay well so you've done this then, so good luck. I hope all works out. If you more support or want to vent. You have us, me, Bluelight.
doppelganga196
Bluelighter
You really are a stand up guy pope, & not a hippocrite at all.
You dont get seizures from tramadol withdrawal. That would be from benzo withdrawal. Also isn't it ironic that your against drugs, yet your a member of this website. Clearly your wife has opiate rage, you should have a sit down with a third party such as a therapist and work this out before it gets worse. I would be more mad at the fact that she's been hiding this and lieing to you, rather then doing drugs. A therapist might be able to go over the issues and dig deeper, find out why she feels the need to be medicated.
Comrade Stalin
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It was terribly kind of you to destroy her opiates without asking and terribly classy to shit on them and have your wife look at your shit.
You know that destroying a partners property is a form of abuse? Yep you're an abuser. I'm glad she isn't with you anymore.
Also I wouldn't go and rob on her to any doctors or anything because if someone did such a terrible thing to me I'd make them pay really pay.
You have to understand that your wife is not actually your possession and she can choose to do what she likes and if you don't like that then leave, but to throw hissy fits break her stuff and send her packing is immature and cowardly. You might think you have the upper hand and that she won't leave someone as good as you but I suggest to you that your wrong and your ego is steering you wrong and that by the sounds of it your wife was glad to leave and I don't think she's coming back, do you?
You know that destroying a partners property is a form of abuse? Yep you're an abuser. I'm glad she isn't with you anymore.
Also I wouldn't go and rob on her to any doctors or anything because if someone did such a terrible thing to me I'd make them pay really pay.
You have to understand that your wife is not actually your possession and she can choose to do what she likes and if you don't like that then leave, but to throw hissy fits break her stuff and send her packing is immature and cowardly. You might think you have the upper hand and that she won't leave someone as good as you but I suggest to you that your wrong and your ego is steering you wrong and that by the sounds of it your wife was glad to leave and I don't think she's coming back, do you?
verso
Bluelighter
^ I think that she'll be coming back, with a lawyer, with divorce papers, to take half of what's his, to pawn half of what's his, to buy more opiates, to replace the ones that he shit on.
... and the beat goes on!
... and the beat goes on!
pofacedhoe
Bluelight Crew
basically its childish- the whole situation is childish, forcing a withdrawl on someone simply makes them associate you with the pain, that kind of associated learning doesn't undo quickly and really was a fools move.
as your an ex alcoholic i think its funny how you lack any tolerance for her falling down like you did...
as your an ex alcoholic i think its funny how you lack any tolerance for her falling down like you did...
Edvard Munch
Bluelighter
You're in a relationship in which a disease in present, no more different then cancer or diabetes. If it's not treated, the patient simply deteriorates and death may be possible.
You're "furiousness" may be justified in her lying to you but its certainly not the best response to this situation. Stay angry at her lying, not the addiction. Also realize that her lying was merely a response to your threats and anger and the cycle needs to be broken where you don't flip out so she can engage in conversation calmly. She uses drugs to feel normal and doesn't want to tell you, perhaps because she'd like to deny that part of her as much as possible and because of your anger towards what she perceives as her addiction. She is less then able to open up about it not out of resentment towards you but because of fear of how you would react (and with just cause as you've threatened to divorce her). This needs to be treated as any other medical condition would.
If you divorce her you are the dumbest mother-fucker to have happened to post on BL. She needs therapy.
You're "furiousness" may be justified in her lying to you but its certainly not the best response to this situation. Stay angry at her lying, not the addiction. Also realize that her lying was merely a response to your threats and anger and the cycle needs to be broken where you don't flip out so she can engage in conversation calmly. She uses drugs to feel normal and doesn't want to tell you, perhaps because she'd like to deny that part of her as much as possible and because of your anger towards what she perceives as her addiction. She is less then able to open up about it not out of resentment towards you but because of fear of how you would react (and with just cause as you've threatened to divorce her). This needs to be treated as any other medical condition would.
If you divorce her you are the dumbest mother-fucker to have happened to post on BL. She needs therapy.
Condumbpope
Bluelighter
She's been put on something stronger than valium.
And before you fucking judge me fuck you faggots
I have degrees in chem and botany, and I just sold a patent to GE... What did you do today? Score some pills ? Stick them in your ass?
Grats
So many judgemental posts, fucking bluelight. Everyones a doctor.
We have a vacation planned to the islands this week me and her, two weeks, chillin just smokin ganj and having brews for 6 days... as soon as we get back we go to a clinic that treats things like this. I think it's time we both have some therapy. I know I have mental issues, she probably does.. I'm just trying to do what's right and everyone here is flaming me
Do you know what projection is? You are projecting your own insecurities on me.... Stop, and go fuck yourselves.
And before you fucking judge me fuck you faggots
I have degrees in chem and botany, and I just sold a patent to GE... What did you do today? Score some pills ? Stick them in your ass?
Grats
So many judgemental posts, fucking bluelight. Everyones a doctor.
We have a vacation planned to the islands this week me and her, two weeks, chillin just smokin ganj and having brews for 6 days... as soon as we get back we go to a clinic that treats things like this. I think it's time we both have some therapy. I know I have mental issues, she probably does.. I'm just trying to do what's right and everyone here is flaming me
Do you know what projection is? You are projecting your own insecurities on me.... Stop, and go fuck yourselves.
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Condumbpope
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tricomb
Bluelight Crew
How old are you OP? 18?
this thread oozes immaturity, hypocrisy, irony, and anger.
Yeah, I'd be upset to findout my wife lied to me about her addiction but hey, I'm an addict, at least I have that compassion/understanding, I don't know how you managed to beat alcoholism, did she take all your booze and piss on it and show you? Did that effectively end your addiction? If so then put me in my place but you sir, are a fool. You come here and ask for advice about the situation, and you shit all over here just like you did on your wife's meds.
Whether you like it or not, it is her right to be an addict if that's what she chooses, you don't own her and you can't stop her. You offer literally no incentive for her to quit. To be frank, from your posting in this thread alone, if I were your wife, I'd be taking all that shit too, after all, why the hell should she quit? Give her a reason to quit, contrary to your belief, shit is not a good enough reason for her to make a major lifestyle change and beat this disease.
this thread oozes immaturity, hypocrisy, irony, and anger.
Yeah, I'd be upset to findout my wife lied to me about her addiction but hey, I'm an addict, at least I have that compassion/understanding, I don't know how you managed to beat alcoholism, did she take all your booze and piss on it and show you? Did that effectively end your addiction? If so then put me in my place but you sir, are a fool. You come here and ask for advice about the situation, and you shit all over here just like you did on your wife's meds.
Whether you like it or not, it is her right to be an addict if that's what she chooses, you don't own her and you can't stop her. You offer literally no incentive for her to quit. To be frank, from your posting in this thread alone, if I were your wife, I'd be taking all that shit too, after all, why the hell should she quit? Give her a reason to quit, contrary to your belief, shit is not a good enough reason for her to make a major lifestyle change and beat this disease.
Condumbpope
Bluelighter
Dude the fact that your post even has moderator attached to it is laughable. Oh god here comes the 2012 Plato.. This dude has a REAL job.
How about you go shit up another thread that has curse words and offends minorities and suppresses free speech
How about you go shit up another thread that has curse words and offends minorities and suppresses free speech
tricomb
Bluelight Crew
real nice edits.
All you got away from my post was "Moderator"?
I don't even mod this forum, my post to you was man to man, not moderator to bluelighter.
Seriously though, food for thought... how were you able to get over your own addiction? I am pretty sure that human waste was not involved, but we should make sure.
What incentives have you offered for her to get clean and stay in a relationship with you?
All you got away from my post was "Moderator"?
I don't even mod this forum, my post to you was man to man, not moderator to bluelighter.
Seriously though, food for thought... how were you able to get over your own addiction? I am pretty sure that human waste was not involved, but we should make sure.
What incentives have you offered for her to get clean and stay in a relationship with you?
Condumbpope
Bluelighter
How about you kid? Does anyone ever get over their addiction? NO.
It's a matter of self control every day. What's your point?
Condumbpope
Bluelighter
So everyone thinks I am an irresponsible asshole for taking a lethal amount of tramadol out of her hands and finding her help and treatment good to know
At least there are white knight mods around like this faggot, want my wifes email so you two can talk about feelings?
At least there are white knight mods around like this faggot, want my wifes email so you two can talk about feelings?
tricomb
Bluelight Crew
Your wife may have a lot to gain from Bluelight. I'm not here to start shit or to feed the trolls, since you don't want to discuss how you got over your own addiction and just want to try and start shit, I guarantee you will not get what you're looking for. I was just giving you my opinion and I guess I need to make it clear again that this advice was man to man and not moderator to member.
Instead of trying to make yourself look good as if you "saved" her (In addiction, we call this Justifying or Rationalizing), think about what you did wrong and how you can improve your support for the person you've chosen to be with for the rest of your life.
Like I said, just food for thought
Instead of trying to make yourself look good as if you "saved" her (In addiction, we call this Justifying or Rationalizing), think about what you did wrong and how you can improve your support for the person you've chosen to be with for the rest of your life.
Like I said, just food for thought
Condumbpope
Bluelighter
Food for thought, you don't know me, the details of our plan to address her and my addictions, and our course of action.
You are jumping to conclusions simply because i have not spelled it out in black and white for you..... who happens to be a complete stranger.
You are jumping to conclusions simply because i have not spelled it out in black and white for you..... who happens to be a complete stranger.
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