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Yeah polymath, well said.
Why not go to a yoga club, or maybe hunting club if wild nature is your thing...
Yeah polymath, well said.
My problem is that I was left to do do nothing. Literally,Go from hardworking dental technician to being on disability schizoeffective disorder which I coud write a book on how that disorder effects relations with other human beings. So no social life is the path I've taken. I have no choice. I don't have any sober buddies I can just hang out with. Well, 2 but their always busy with their families. Once I left AA the mothership disowned me. Right now I have nobody!! Soon I move out west to be with my daughter and that's great and I'll have purpose. But it occurred to me to me today that that's a mighty task I'm putting on her. Be my daughter, buddy, high school friend, all this shit I'm gonna expect her to be. I'm fortunate I realized it today so I can correcty it. But I personally feel spending time by yourself is good. People who need other people around all the time are weak. I know who I am all thru spending time with myself. Problem is I don't like what I see. I hate myself so I'm really in trouble, eh? I guess it will balance out. Dam, that's quite a bit of writing. I think socializing is healthy for healthy people. I am not healthy. But I sure don't fault people getting together. I was always the first one at the pub and usually last to go but there was a period in my life where I savor wd companionship and romantic relationship. Maybe I'll enjoy them again, maybe not but things are who they are. I got me and my kitty cat and we hold it down. Too much socializing, bad thing. She wants to get together for margaritas and talk about greys anatomy or some shit every dam night. I think softball functions and golf outings with my AA folk when I went helpful. That was before shit went south medically now I can't golf or run or play ball. Def got a bad hand but other people do to. My thing is survive this brutal phase of my life. I swear every dude in AA would say first 5-10 yrs are hard and I used to think to myself how horribly depressing that is but its true. I testify. Been sober awhile but it has been chaos source I did. Oh well. Ride the wave in y'all and thanks for reading my ramblings
Polymath, you are correct!
Since I've quit drinking my social life is the most active and healthiest it's ever been.
Soon I move out west to be with my daughter and that's great and I'll have purpose.
But I personally feel spending time by yourself is good. People who need other people around all the time are weak.
I am pleased you have a great social life without drinking. But many people's lives become grey and boring when they loose social life as they stop drinking. It should not be so. Hence, please, could you provide like a concise week diary of your social life (exclude online life though). Please, gift us an example of your week's social sober life and anyone could mimic and bring light and variety in the lives.
I stopped drinking last saturday, after another 4-day binge. It's been like this for months; I binge a couple days, sometimes an entire week, and then I'm sober for a few days. I hope I can pull through this time. I just turned 21 and I'm going to college next year. I need to be sober.
...A few months ago I painted the entire house myself...it took a month working on it 8 hours a day. Part of my staying healthy is to be active, and work is not enough...
Xadem, good job sobering up. It's so important at your age. Like has been said, by my early 30's I couldn't hold a fork. Still didn't sober up till late 30's. So booze took my teens, 20's, and 30's. Now I have no colon bc an infection ate 8 holes in it. Now I have s permanant shit bag cause of booze. So stay sober and good luck in school.