Wow just fucking wow can not explain what I saw today and I was right in the front seat of the whole debacle.
Anyways I work with this girl who well lets just say she looks a bit like pillthrill lol. Except wayy shorter, and prob weighs about 90lbs max. Wears glasses, has short hair with a couple off colored highlights in it. Don't really know the girl just know everytime I see her at work I think "oh theres the PT lookalike" lol.
She also acts rather mature for a girl of her age (22) and is not your typical college bopping ditz. So I've had mostly respect for her in our brief exchanges at work... which today turned out to be a good thing for her at least.
Story begins -
I am ready to go on break at work. And this girl must verify my register everyday before I leave the building. Well today I notice she is on the phone while counting my till, and rather disgruntled about something. Its impossible to hear what shes talking about through the bulletproof glass, so I think nothing of it, sign off my sheet and leave for break.
I go grab a coffee from dunkin than walk outside into an alleyway where all smokers must smoke their cigs away from the building/customers. I had walked out with my manager who is a female, and we took a seat like usual and just began to bullshit about petty little things that had happened throughout the day.
I'm a very observant person (due to serving time) and I notice this girl who was just inside verifying my till. Well she doesn't even punch out walks right outside screaming about something on the phone. I think nothing of it and assume its some worthless fight with her bf which is what it turns out to be. No big deal right? Well today I was very very wrong.
About 20 seconds later I see a little black sports car doing about 45mph through our congested parking lot where cars are ALWAYS coming in and out constantly (but verrry slowly). Then this tiny little kid whos in the car, with a bluehat turned backwards, slams on the breaks with the tires screeching. But he doesn't park the car he stops it in the middle of the fucking road and gets out leaving the door open, leaving cars behind him literally stuck at which point they begin honking and peoples attention is flagged all across the lot.
Kid starts literally sprinting towards this girl screaming "you fucking kunt I will fucking kill you!!!" etc etc. But he is screaming just about as loud as the human voice is capable of going decibal wise. I mean LOUD. You could hear this kids voice miles away as he's running towards his gf screaming at her. Now what really catches my attention is her reaction. Youd think most couples the girl would start screaming back. Well no, apparently shes very scared and starts backing her way inside the building quickly. I this point I stand up and ask my manager "should we do something"?
She says "no, you don't know if he's got any weapons". I say "are you serious? look at the fucking kid he weighs about 60lbs soaking wet if he had a weapon it would be bigger than he is". She says "I don't know what to do honestly". Then I look back and this kid slams his GF into the brick wall behind her (hard enough where I heard her shreek a loud cry), restraining her arms against the wall and spits in her face not once but twice. I look out into the parking lot and just see people holding their faces, but not doing anything but watching. I remember about this in psychology the "bystander effect" and think noway in fucking hell will I be a part of that. And I could sense that was exactly what was happening. About 20 people outside all watching this girl get beat up, and every single one of them is frozen where they are watching it.
WHAT THE FUCK! Winds up hitting her hard in the face and that was it I take off running towards them as I see her trip onto the floor again and you can tell this is getting real serious real quick. I really was just expecting a show nothing violent like this at all. I wind up grabbing the kid from the back and turning him around fast so he's forced over my foot and stumbles towards the brick wall but uses the wall to leverage himself up. Now this kid is very tiny but at the same time he is like a rabid chiwahwah (sp) and I don't know if he's on anything but he was moving so fucking quick and so fired up with adrenaline that his tiny ass actually manages to get me on the ground. I was not really nervous at any point whatsoever untill this happened and the second I saw this kid get in an aggressive stance above me then I got nervous lol. As small as the fucking tool was its just not a good position for anyone to be in especially seeing what the dirtbag was already capable of. I get up immediately but this time I'm not in a defensive mode I'm in a total offensive mode, he fires off immediately and I take a good shot, and then take this as the final confirmation that I must really hurt this kid. I punch back at him learning what I was taught in the joint (always aim for 1 foot behind their head and follow through) the kids brain rattles and hes down just like that. But he is not down and out, I hear a moan and was not in control of myself at this point, jump down on top of him and start right handing him in the face. A vietnam vet I work with (who I never met before in my life) gets on my back, and is screaming at me "not in jersey son not in jersey you can't do that shit in NJ". I had no idea what he was talking about untill I realized in NJ self defense is only good up untill the point your aggressor is "restrained". And if you keep fighting them after they're restrained apparently you can get charged for it.
I stand up and my shirts ripped, all my clothing is fucked up, have NO IDEA what in the world just fucking happened.
Now get this. This kid gets up again, but rather than attack me, he attacks a total random stranger in the crowd (the stranger might have made an offensive comment to the kid I honestly don't remember) out of nowhere and then me and the vet grab the dumb fuck and just throw him off, everyones screaming at the kid and at this point the kid runs off, gets in his car, COMES BACK driving towards the crowd (I'm thinking this kids gonna try running all us over) slows down his car, rolls his window down and screams something along the lines of "I'll see you again at my funeral you fucking bitch", but he's talking to his GF. Apparently now he wants to go leave and kill himself.
Cops wind up rolling up and my calm peaceful 15min break had now turned into a 45min witness testimony to the police. Was veryyy worried with having a record and all that I might be held on some type of charges for swinging off on the kid. Cops ask one question about whether I defended myself, some witnesses in the croud vouched for what I did, and thats literally all they cared about most of their report was filed with the girl.
Now our place of business is getting a restraining order of some type filed against the kid. I talked to the girl a couple hours later she didn't even go home was crying for about an hour then actually went back to work after all this which suprised the fuck out of me. Or maybe that cops told her to stay at work for her own safetly I honestly don't know. I had saw her back in the cash room when I was leaving for the day and I didn't really know what to say to her but she broke the silence fairly quickly but crying hysterically. Felt so fucking bad for the girl but just did NOT know what to say. All that could come to my head was "has that ever happened before?". She winds up telling me she got fired from her last job cause this kid came into her work and beat one of her associate male friends up. I just shake my head "no" in silence. Apparently this guy thinks any guy friend that this girl has is someone she also must be fucking. But I hadn't seen her flirt with ANYONE in anyway nor even engage in any type of verbal innuendo if anything she seems very reserved and intraverted. So I realized her bf is merely a psychopath.
Thing that is weird now is when we were leaving I really didn't know how to end off with her. I wanted to help (I've done crisis intervention shit for school before), know I can help in someway, but I also know how things like this work. She will communicate to him in someway that only way she will take him back is if HE gets "help" (but not herself who is the real one that needs help for dating this POS in the first place) he'll do something stupid and promise he's been counseled out of his issues... they'll get back together, and then he'll beat her again.
So I didn't exchange any info or offer any services to her that I know around the area. In a certain respect I don't really care what she does. Maybe its cold. And I know a lot about psychology and relationships, but this is not that. This is a girl that is dating a certain type of guy because she is obviously VERRYY insecure about her own self worth, and that is not something that can be fixed by a few counseling sessions. That is something that likely started when her daddy stopped hugging her 15 years ago or whatever. Who knows? I think its horrible, very sad what could happen to her in the future. But on another hand I got enough of my own problems. I love helping people better their lives, I love bettering my own life, I can even be a very motivating person to speak with at times. But certain situations really just are what they are. And 2 punches to this girls face is not going to fix a lifetime full of self esteem issues thats just the sad truth. She'll prob just assume he loves her that much more.
Anyway thats my rant. If I can derive anything important from this experience it would be that when you seem someone getting hurt, physically, realize how common the bystander effect really is and how the diffusion of moral responsibility works in public settings. If one person sees another person not doing anything, that increases the liklihood that much more that they won't do anything. This is how women sometimes get raped in bars packed with people, or get brutally murdered for 45 mins on a public street while everyone watches and waits for someone else to do something.. but noone fucking does shit (true story forgot victims name).
Life is fucked up. Nothing much more to really say here.
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