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Where can people make friends? I'm lonely.

lynx2051

lynx2051

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I am 19 (male) and I dropped out of college a few months ago, and now my friends are all off to uni so I'll be alone where I live. I've been to the gym a few times but most people like to keeping to themselves there. Does anyone know what type of clubs I could enjoy, I don't really have that many hobbies but I was looking online for these social groups, what are they like? Or if anyone has any other ideas, thanks.
 
I recommend taking up an extreme sport as long as you don't mind getting a bit hurt and meeting people that might be younger than you.

Besides making friends (usually people that are into weed at least) you'll also get some good exercise.

I used to skateboard and it was a lot of fun but I gave it up after about 4 years and now I started unicycling. Unicycling is a lot of fun if you don't mind drawing a lot of attention to yourself, as long as you live in a larger city you'll get to meet other unicyclists as well.
 
There are many places to meet new people and socialize.. clubs, events, the mall, the beach, coffee shops, or online even. I met my current femme on this site. Sometimes people find someone in random unexpected ways. Just hit up some parties or something.
 
best place to make new friends is at work. I find that's how I have made most of my friends since leaving school. Other people seem to make the majority of their friends at work. The kind of job you have probably makes a difference in this case, but if you work with a lot of people, there's no way you won't find friends, especially if you are open and friendly.
 
I've just recently lost my job but the people there were too old, like early thirties.
 
I have met friends in all kinds of strange ways. Try and get amongst people as much as possible, in as many ways as you can think of. One of the best ways for me has been through travelling. If you've dropped out of uni, do you still have commitments where you are, or would this be the perfect opportunity for you to go backpacking for awhile? When you're travelling solo people understand you're on your own, so it can feel a lot more comfortable going out clubbing or doing other activities alone.

I've found meeting people through working also good, especially bar work. If you're into music and clubbing this is a great way of meeting like minded people, especially if you work in a club with your favourite type of music.
 
you can try craigslist to, there's a section for platonic friends. I know a lot of people who found a lot of cool people there..
 
Dude don't let age or anything come in the way of becoming friends with someone.

People are people, a good way to make friends is by going out of your way to try to make friends. Spark conversations with lots of random people, wherever you are! and just act really friendly. Some people won't respond positively, but just forget about them! A lot of people are lonely too and you'd be surprised how many other people love making friends!

The problem is when you make too many friends and you'll have to prioritize them, always hard. So hey, that's a bonus of not having friends, you don't really have anyone to disappoint, except yourself, haha.
 
nuttynutskin said:
I'll be you friend for 100 bucks a month. =D
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That sounds so tempting! ;p

@OP - what kind of things are in your area?
I do find school and work the best way to make friends. and mutual friends.
Any clubs in the area you can go to alone?
I like the idea of craigslist and platonic friends
Anyway you can go visit your friends at uni / college?
Maybe get a job where there are people your age?
 
Number Love said:
Dude don't let age or anything come in the way of becoming friends with someone.
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Not sure how i missed that, that's good advice tho. You might miss out on meeting some cool people if you limit yourself to only being around people your own age. And besides that, some old people have cool stories and good advice. =D
 
Grrr. I hate it when people say "it is so easy to make friends, just hit up parties and bars, and stuff".

It is easy if you already have friends and are often at outings meeting new people. If you are a loner, you dont really know of any parties happening as you need friends to invite you in the first place.
If you go to a bar alone, striking up conversations with randoms is significantly more difficult as others are usually in groups and you are by yourself. And people always give you "wtf you alone?" look.

Maybe I live in a cold city, but I go out to clubs often, and still have trouble finding friends. And occasional one night fuck here or there or an afterparty, but hard to make friends. And almost impossible to make good friends. The ones you would spill your guts to when life gets hard.
 
It's not really that hard. I occasionally go to a bar by myself and I usually find some cool people to talk to or run into someone I already know. For me the hardest part is actually going out by myself in the first place. Once I go I usually have fun tho. One of the last times I went to the bar alone I ended getting 3 free drinks from different people and I'm a guy lol.
 
Beings said:
Grrr. I hate it when people say "it is so easy to make friends, just hit up parties and bars, and stuff".

It is easy if you already have friends and are often at outings meeting new people. If you are a loner, you dont really know of any parties happening as you need friends to invite you in the first place.
If you go to a bar alone, striking up conversations with randoms is significantly more difficult as others are usually in groups and you are by yourself. And people always give you "wtf you alone?" look.

Maybe I live in a cold city, but I go out to clubs often, and still have trouble finding friends. And occasional one night fuck here or there or an afterparty, but hard to make friends. And almost impossible to make good friends. The ones you would spill your guts to when life gets hard.
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so true, also it comes of gay talking to another male at a bar or a club.. As most are trying to get laid, and not looking for a friend.

Do you facebook, found ur old friends or even classmate and start contacting them, start hanging out with them again. Ask them out for a drink. Start chatting with them a little bit, tell them ur bored and if there down to grab a drink.
 
That's OK. I don't want to be your friend either.
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LOL, I am only being realistic. I mean do you ever see a 19 year old clubbing with someone in there early to mid thirties?
 
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