this is james' sister again. thank you all for caring.
to the man who said that we should stop making excuses and just go and do something allready, im not mad at you for seeming so insensitive, i kind of agree with you in some way, its that its not that easy now given james' condition.
just like i told you that james' couldnt do the tests that they had allready done earlier and they had messed up apparently, like cat scans, because he was in too much pain and couldnt even lie down or sit still, and so the doctors wrote in the charts and files that he refused treatment even though he wanted to do it badly, it was just physically impossible. just like that, we cant just throw him in a car and drive far away without him probably having a heart attack because of the pain. for some reason cars cause his pain to escalate alot, especially when he is getting in and out of them. we would have to buy some illegal narcotics like oxycotin in order to lower his pain enough so he could even get there. and if we go to another hospital, they will do a drug screen just like al the other hospitals have, and they will see he has used strong drugs that he isnt prescribed too. and im not sure if that in itself will cause the doctor to refuse treatment or if they will somehow work around it. its really a matter of getting lucky and getting a doctor who is understanding. but since out of all of the 12-16 or so doctors he has seen so far, none have been understanding, and most have been hostile, even when james had clean urine samples and hadnt used until two nights ago when i gave him the oxycotin, the odds of us getting a doctor willing to help seem very small. and that would make that trip a waste and more than likely it will aggrivate his pain and make him extremely stressed and unpleasant, because after all he has gone through, he has little patience, respect, or trust in any doctor or medical establishment. he gets enraged with what little energy he has left and that stresses his heart even more.
also, we would like to hire an attorney but first of all we cant afford one right now with all the medical bills that have piled up and not to mention all the new bills that we will get in the future. we also only have the energy to concentrate on his health right now. having to deal with a lawsuit at this time would just be too much. but i dont know if james has told you but we have legal connections in the form of very good attorneys through our family and in fact thats the only reason he is not in jail right now. he should be locked up but instead he is on 2 concurrent probations that will make the charges dissapear once he completes the probations correctly. so we can get an atorney but if we are going to have to drive all over the place to find him an understanding doctor, or have to decide whether or not to give him illegal pain meds in order for him to been even capable of being ina car, and deal with all the othe crap that is going on with him on a minute to minute basis, we just dont have the energy, or mental capacity right now to worry about a lawsuit. maybe after he gets better god willing.
i promised myself i wouldnt write a really long post like i have been doing because i noticed that my posts are much longer than most others. so im sorry. i will stop here.
james told me to tell all his friends here that he appreciates there concern and wants to come back as soon as possible. he said "i wish i could use bluelight on my goddamn phone!" last night during one of his screaming sessions.
thank you all.
and to the poster above me, subdude, im sry some of this doeesnt make sense to you. it doesnt make sense to us either. we are at a loss of word every time he is refused treatment or called a junky.
and his injuries were always soccer related. he broke both his ankles, sevral toes, sprained his ankles on several occasions which can be even more painfull than a fracture apparently, he also broke his left forearm, his left wrist twice, his right wrist 1 or 2 times, I cant remember, also he has broken every single one of his fingers atleast twice, if not more. and I know thats a hard one to believe but it is 100% true. he played goalie for a period of time and i guess he has weak bones, maybe because he never drank milk as a kid. also, he usually refused to stop playing even with a broken finger or toe or something. he would just tape it up and deal with it. he also has broken his clavicle if thats how its spelled, got kicked with metal cleats right in the shoulder area and snapped it. also, during his high school soccer career it is much more intense, im not sure if you know much about high school soccer but its basically like football without all the pads. they were allowed to tackle each other using there legs and lower torso as long as they touched the ball. believe it or not. he also had broken a shin or two, im not sure exactly which one or how many as i was away at college during his high school years. i know he has a couple more fractures but thats all i can remember. its odd cuz he never broke his spine or back but thats where his worst pain is. and sometimes his legs. but, he has had constant back and leg pain for the past 6 years or so from playing intense soccer for so long, its just a part of his life. if you play hard long enough you will end up with constant soreness, which is how he described it, but he never took even tylenol for it because he said he coud just deal with it and the pain wasnt bad or debilitating enough for him to go to a doctor. of course whenever he did go to a doctor he would tell them about it and im sure it had been checked out, but nothing was ever diagnosed as being a problem. he hast had a fracture in over 3 years now since he quit soccer to use drugs. in fact i think thats why he started taking pills, because of the constant back and leg pain. and it eventually led to heroin. he probably has told you guys this already.
also, i dont know about anyone who has 8+ pain automatically getting surgery but he told them the pain was like 1000 and if you read my previous posts, you would have known that they had made a diagnoses and planned for surgery the following morning but in the midde of the night the surgeon looked at the cat scan and disagreed and that diagnoses was thrown out. and then after that he was in too much pain to do any more tests without painkillers, which they refused him, so it ended up in him having to leave because it was impossible for him to do the tests and yet the doctors wouldnt budge about the pain meds.