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Alone in San Francisco

opiatekrzy said:
I am absolutely shocked about the weather here I figured going to California it would be hotter cuz it's close to Mexico. My job interview got rescheduled for tomorrow at 11:30. I also have to go to access point to get help for housing I got to fit time for that and I need to go to social services for a housing interview soon.
I don't really have any hobbies unfortunately. I spent the last seven years in a toxic relationship that revolved around getting high. I feel so guilty for doing meth again, I started doing it last week after having five months clean. I definitely don't miss being an anti social wreck glued to my phone with horrible anxiety. I came to California to start a new life not keep doing what I was doing in New York. I really hope things get better for me
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Sorry to hear about all that, but it does seems like you are working at getting some of the practical things together which is good ( as for the weather, yeah, the ocean keeps us pretty temperate. LA is where it's warmer)
I guess hobbies isn't the best word, but I just mean things that interest you, things you can do to relax you, occupy you, let you maybe connect with people and enjoy your new life, things besides meth which you say you aren't enjoying. But I'm sure it's hard for you. Really tough to move to a new and different place
 
opiatekrzy said:
I am absolutely shocked about the weather here I figured going to California it would be hotter cuz it's close to Mexico. My job interview got rescheduled for tomorrow at 11:30. I also have to go to access point to get help for housing I got to fit time for that and I need to go to social services for a housing interview soon.
I don't really have any hobbies unfortunately. I spent the last seven years in a toxic relationship that revolved around getting high. I feel so guilty for doing meth again, I started doing it last week after having five months clean. I definitely don't miss being an anti social wreck glued to my phone with horrible anxiety. I came to California to start a new life not keep doing what I was doing in New York. I really hope things get better for me
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It’s so cold in San Francisco! I was surprised at how cold it was in July while I was there a few years ago. Mark Twain supposedly said, “The coldest winter I ever spent was a summer in San Francisco.”

I love the city though, it’s actually my favorite city to visit. I hope things improve and your job opportunity works out.
 
Id recommend somehow getting a bus pass (maybe some type of social service has one? You might be surprised how willing someone is to help just by asking), go on adventures to find some food spots (chippermonk just gave you a great idea you should probably check it out). If you are serious about the jobs you're interviewing for, go exploring. All day. Will keep you from getting distracted from other things

When the interviewer naturally asks "how are you", saying "I just came back from a dope ass sour dough spot - NY didn't have it like this (which is true) - you heard of it?" would sound way cooler than I was laying in bed all day.

But then again I sometimes have atypical conversations so maybe that's just not your type of response 😅
 
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@opiatekrzy I'd also say go hang out in some pretty area of the city, a park or down along the Bay near the Ferry Building or the beach. Someplace green and peaceful, get some exercise. This is a beautiful time if year. If all you are doing is locking yourself up in a hotel room, then you could just as well be in Buffalo. Try Golden Gate Park, it's an easy bus ride.
You took the initiative to move out all the way across the country by yourself, that's pretty impressive and difficult, I think. Now you just need to settle in and get to know it and adjust and enjoy it. Even if you decide that it isn't for you and you want to move back East or wherever,, you will have had a nice adventure/ vacation before you do.
Maybe I can over to the City sometime and buy you a burrito and you can bounce your experience off me ( though I'm getting ready to leave town next week til the end of May, might have to be after then)
 
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Reading the thread...first of congratulations on you decision to make a change in your life. Not many people are willing to take life by the horns and do what you did. Kuddos 2 U . Give yourself some time to explore all of your options before throwing in the towel and regretting your decision to make a new beginning for yourself.
There is nothing as refreshing as a fresh start.
How did you travel to get to SF from NY? train, bus, car? I recall in the. 70s hitchhiking was an acceptable mode of transportation, times have changed.
1979, I met girl who later became my wife. We eloped and drove from Ga. to NY to meet her parents. Then drove from NY to Salt Lake City, Utah to stay with her brother, didn't last long before we drove back to Ga. had a couple of kids, moved back to NY where we still reside.

I'm sharing this because we took a chance on life, like you by deciding to move cross country. It's your life and you have proved it so. If regret is what you want, there is that, or you can tap into the same spirit that prompted your move in the first place. The greatest education one can have is experience, the world is yours.
 
i live there.

you don’t move to SF without a high paying job unless you want to be homeless

it’s also one of the least homeless friendly cities i can think of despite the fact that there are a lot here.

people are like wolves here. nobody gives a single fuck about anybody no matter what economic bracket you are in. truly one of the coldest populations of ppl hiding behind their fake progressive performative BS.

meth isn’t going to help anything either. you won’t be capable of landing a job or an interview tweaked out and you have to pass a drug test for lots of jobs.
 
Yeah I'm curious what type of jobs. If they are retail like whole foods then it might be hard to stay afloat. Curious about the other motivations.

Hard to stay positive in a big move but, don't stop trying @opiatekrzy unless you really hate it after you put your best effort in the interviews!

And if all signs are pointing to you not enjoying it, well the cool thing about the USA is you can move freely state to state and a lot of jobs are similar all over the country since we all speak English
 
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a room with roommates is gonna be 1200 a month in the worst areas imaginable.

1700 for my decent situation. so plan accordingly to that when you get a job
 
Dr. John Thackery said:
people are like wolves here. nobody gives a single fuck about anybody no matter what economic bracket you are in. truly one of the coldest populations of ppl hiding behind their fake progressive performative BS.
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I gotta REALLY disagree with you here on this, and I speak as someone who has lived here a long time. I routinely have friendly nice conversations with random strangers in public settings and exchange random acts of kindness. Nor do I don't think progressive values are just performative. I think you are projecting your own negativity here ( no offense). If that's what you expect to see then that's what you will find.
But yeah, agreed, it can be a hard place to move to, especially alone and without a good job option. VERY expensive housing. And any place can be difficult when you feel alone. I moved here long ago when it was cheaper, with no job or money but together with 2 close friends, and we provided each other with mutual support which we really needed. It would have been much harder for me alone. I, too, was surprised but how different it was for me ( weather for one) with my small town Midwestern background. But I also was quickly taken by the exciting novelty I was seeing, and I never left.
And yes, meth is not going to help, @opiatekrzy . But you said you quit for 4 months before this? If you want to make this work, do you think you can quit again? You don't want to be homeless and on drugs here, or anywhere else for that matter. And I'd encourage you to think about what healthy interests and passions motivate you. Why did you move and what did you want to find? Regardless of whether you stay here or return home or go somewhere else, I would suggest to you that this is what you need to think about and try to make happen.
 
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I agree it was a mistake doing meth. Yes I had five months clean and I have a good hold of myself where i can stop. I'm just filled with anxiety and an overwhelming sense of doom being in a foreign city all by myself.
I'm trying to get approved for a single room occupancy, my appointment for that is in the end of May and as of now I'm on the waiting list for the shelter and in the meantime I been staying at a hostel which is $35 a night. I know if I stay focused I can definitely get approved by the county for a single room. I knew exactly what I was getting myself into before I moved here, that was my plan was to go to a shelter and wait for funding for an apartment/room through social services. I know it's not the best plan but I'm not as fortunate as some people . I went to my job interview as whole food and there going to call me Thursday so hopefully I get the job.
 
Yeah, anxiety sucks for sure. I hate it! But you have a plan here and you are going about it. I would just suggest applying to other jobs as well. Don't put all your eggs in one basket
 
Dr. John Thackery said:
to be completely honest; i’ve never lived in san francisco i live in silicon valley proper and it’s mainly ultra insular racial groups that want nothing to do with anybody outside of their race.

sure everybody acts nice and fake at work of course but that isn’t real life.

just look up “ranking of countries most likely to answer that they would not want to have a neighbor of a different race” and see who the top affirmative responders to that question are. compare against the demographics of the penninsula and what i’m saying will make perfect sense.

personally i like it though.

i’m the only white american person for dozens of square miles where i live and i like privacy and have found that more aquantences as an adult usually equals more problems (at least among americans). so im happy to be surrounded by zero americans and ppl that at best think im invisible.

my wife is black and i dont even have to guess what they think of her despite them being guests in her country m
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Yeah, I've never lived or hardly even spent any time at all in the South Bay. Definitely different from up in SF.
 
opiatekrzy said:
I agree it was a mistake doing meth. Yes I had five months clean and I have a good hold of myself where i can stop. I'm just filled with anxiety and an overwhelming sense of doom being in a foreign city all by myself.
I'm trying to get approved for a single room occupancy, my appointment for that is in the end of May and as of now I'm on the waiting list for the shelter and in the meantime I been staying at a hostel which is $35 a night. I know if I stay focused I can definitely get approved by the county for a single room. I knew exactly what I was getting myself into before I moved here, that was my plan was to go to a shelter and wait for funding for an apartment/room through social services. I know it's not the best plan but I'm not as fortunate as some people . I went to my job interview as whole food and there going to call me Thursday so hopefully I get the job.
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Did you atleast get some sleep before the interview? Fellow tweaker here ik how hard it is to fall asleep on crystal with a low tolerance but like ima be honest if you stayed up all night tweaking for 2+ days before the interview you are fucked, like wait until you get an answer but if they dont hire you then get the fuck out of california before you get stuck there, ive never been there but from what i heard in Montreal from some homeless people that lived in California it's an absolute living hell (For reference they prefered being in a city where -14 celcius is normal in winter than California).
 
opiatekrzy said:
I have no idea what your talking about if your trying to be funny or sarcastic
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no i’m dead serious.

there a famous drug move called trainspotting. asit the most famous opioid using movie of all time. the kind of movie i’m surprised a 25 year opioid and smack users would not be aware of or remember the job interview scene im talking about

in oneof the most famous scene spud has a job interview but also a bag of speed.

being an addict he can’t help himself and does a little before to get hims sharp; but he overdoes it and gets twacked it was funny so if it happened to you in real life that would be life imitates art
 
Dr. John Thackery said:
were you in meth at the interview like in trainspotting when he does speed before his job interview?
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Clearly there is always one asshole in life wherever you go. For someone who just became a bluelighter you seem to have all the answers don't you? You really need to sit your ass down and keep your dry sense of humor to yourself
 
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