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Random Acts of kindness.

Zopiclone bandit

Zopiclone bandit

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Life at times is hard, today I had a very bad run of things going wrong & I get a little pissed off.

Anyway, I was just walking away from the chemist where I get my Methadone from & in the bus stop was a bunch of Roses, it was a nice bunch from a shop in the UK called Marks & Spencer which is for posh people, I looked at their website & the most cheap is £25 ($34 US) & the bunch I picked up are going for £35 which in US money is $47.

I was walking down the street into town to get some food for tonight & decided I would give them to the first person who I made eye contact with, smiled at and they did the same back. I went past several people but they were looking at their phone, dealing with the dog etc so I didn't have the chance to do it.

I got into town & was walking to the shop for food & saw a Woman who looked like she was a bit sad & stressed out, you could just feel "the vibe" off her & see it on her, I stopped her & said "Excuse me, these are for you" & smiled, I passed them to her & she looked so shocked.
She took them off me, looked at me very confused, then she smiled a real grin, said "Thank you, thank you so much" then walked off slowly looking at the Roses in such shock.

Just before she went around the corner it just happened we both turned around at the same time, made eye contact, she smiled & waved as she vanished.

I have decided each day when it is possible I am going to do random acts of kindness to people at random just to raise a persons mood for a few mins, I know for a fact that woman will still be thinking about what happened & will tell her friends, husband, kids etc & it made her day in a small way.

Anyone else like doing random things of kind acts to total strangers?
 
I like to do that for people when I can. The most recent example was about the cats on my street. It's kind of unofficially known as "cat street" and there are always between 3 and 9 kitties milling about.

I often feed them at night. It's awesome, they all come running over to me like I am the lord of pussy. Anyhow, this older woman was admiring the cats and looked a little down.

I just asked her if she wanted to help me feed the cats. She had looked a bit sullen like I said, but she was beaming by the time the feeding frenzy was over and thanked me profusely.

Anyhow, it's nice to just connect with a random person, with nothing but the desire to spread a little joy. Such a small gesture, but it's often those little gestures that mean the most.

KEEP ALTRUISM ALIVE
 
BK38 said:
KEEP ALTRUISM ALIVE
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Had to Google what that word meant, I agree with you 100% in keeping it alive.


BK38 said:
it's nice to just connect with a random person, with nothing but the desire to spread a little joy. Such a small gesture, but it's often those little gestures that mean the most.
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AMEN to that, I agree with you 100%
 
I'm not the type of person to strike up a conversation, but if i feel like someone in public needs someone to talk to i will absolutely keep it going for sake of conversation.

A couple times there have been people who were frightened, the most emotional one for me was when a lady who was being followed by a guy clearly out of his mind, harassing her and yelling things to her. I could recognize how scared she was, and how out of his mind the guy was. I walked her to the medical center which thankfully was very close and told security about the guy stalking her.

Honestly i was sort of worried too since our backs were toward him. But as we walked i was telling her to just keep walking and don't look back. She was telling me in a quiet voice that he'd been following her for some time.
 
streaM Freak said:
That is one of our gifts i believe as a community of drug users. To be able to identify others who are going through a hard time. And be humble enough to meet them as a human to another human.

If we want things to improve here on our floating rock, everyone needs to be on board.
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One of the most deeply profound and honest comments I've seen on the whole of BL in ages.
It's very rare I'm moved on an emotional level by a post but this quote above has done just that.

I hope my thread gets some legs and carries on for quite a while.
 
streaM Freak said:
I'm not the type of person to strike up a conversation, but if i feel like someone in public needs someone to talk to i will absolutely keep it going for sake of conversation.

A couple times there have been people who were frightened, the most emotional one for me was when a lady who was being followed by a guy clearly out of his mind, harassing her and yelling things to her. I could recognize how scared she was, and how out of his mind the guy was. I walked her to the medical center which thankfully was very close and told security about the guy stalking her.

Honestly i was sort of worried too since our backs were toward him. But as we walked i was telling her to just keep walking and don't look back. She was telling me in a quiet voice that he'd been following her for some time.
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You from Europe like me or from the USA?
How old are you?
 
Thats is pure class, mate @Zopiclone bandit. And you other two.

Yeah, great attitude. I like to be sound to people when I can. Just engaging with someone and treating folk like a human being can totally change their day. Offering them a pipe even.

Well done, lads. I believe what you put out there comes back to you. Do good stuff n thr universe smiles on you. Do bad stuff...
 
BadBoy377 said:
Thats is pure class, mate @Zopiclone bandit. And you other two.

Yeah, great attitude. I like to be sound to people when I can. Just engaging with someone and treating folk like a human being can totally change their day. Offering them a pipe even.

Well done, lads. I believe what you put out there comes back to you. Do good stuff n thr universe smiles on you. Do bad stuff...
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There's this TV show Criminal Minds, I like it a lot and one of my favorite parts are the quotes they use. They have a quote for every episode.

The most recent one was something to the effect of, nature works slowly but always reveals the wrongdoings.

Edit - ChatGPT found it for me: "The universe doesn’t like secrets; it conspires to reveal the truth to lead you to it".
 
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Gotta say I don't tend to help random people often (but have done) but will be 100% there for anyone I've connected with, without any sense of obligation nor seeking reciprocity (including a certain number of you fuckers on here).

I'm probably suffering from some kind of compassion fatigue tbh, due to the nature of my work and my needy fucked up friends and family :ROFLMAO: Much to my surprise I've recently discovered that I have a finite amount of energy.

Cool thread tho :cool: and am proud of you Zopi, ya soppy cunt
 
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I would like to recount an incident that happened to me a few days ago.

I was traveling by bus from A to B. The driver was Asian (which is still unusual in the European country where I come from). I paid for the trip with my senior citizen card. After a few stops, a young passenger got on the bus and wanted to pay with a €20 bill. The fare was €1.50. The driver didn't have any change, so he signaled that everything was okay and the passenger should take a seat (without paying).

When I saw this, I (I was sitting directly behind the driver) handed the driver €3, thinking that he shouldn't have to pay out of his own pocket. He was surprised but grateful.

After a while, the young passenger (who was sitting in the back and watching everything) came up to me and told me to ask the driver for the money back (which I had given to the driver). I immediately signaled to him that everything was okay, and he sat back down. However, he was clearly unhappy with my paying for his ride.

I must say that the Asian man (the driver) only spoke English, which is not necessarily the common language in our country.

After that, the driver tried again to give me back the €3 during the trip. I vehemently refused.

When we arrived in B, I got out and the driver tried once again to give me the money back, which I firmly but politely refused.

I must also say that the driver drove very carefully, with commitment, skill, and attentiveness, and we arrived on time. This is not necessarily the case with local drivers.

I don't want to speculate about who acted correctly or incorrectly here—me, the driver, or the passenger who wanted to pay with a large bill...

I would like to say that whenever you see an opportunity to help things function normally (again), you should do so. Regardless of the current situation or possible concerns or prejudices. You owe it to yourself (and the situation you have understood).
 
ageingpartyfiend said:
I'm probably suffering from some kind of compassion fatigue tbh, due to the nature of my work and my needy fucked up friends and family :ROFLMAO: Much to my surprise I've recently discovered that I have a finite amount of energy.
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What kind of work do you do?
 
I held the door open for a woman the other day coming out of the dispensary & she seemed genuinely shocked that anybody would do that.

I was perplexed & just told her "yeah I grew up in the South (USA) & it's just normal manners to hold the door open for some one behind you".
I always hold the door open for people, it ain't even a hard thing to do. Especially if it's a woman.

Pretty small act, but it amazed me that people get shocked at things that were just normal manners to me through out life. lol

I'm pretty nice to people unless they give me a good reason not to be. "Treat others how you would want to be treated" is something they taught us in elementary school.

I'm a pretty anxiety-ridden & pain-ridden person tho too, so when I'm out in public, I try to just get whatever I'm doing done as fast as possible & don't really engage much with others. But I'm always cordial & respectful. And I try to smile as much as I can. When I'm not smiling, I probably don't look too friendly/approachable, but after 3+ decades of depression, anxiety & pain issues, you kinda just end up with resting bitch face at some point.
 
DeathIndustrial88 said:
When I'm not smiling, I probably don't look too friendly/approachable, but after 3+ decades of depression, anxiety & pain issues, you kinda just end up with resting bitch face at some point.
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Gotta admit. Man or woman. There's nothing more sexy than a resting bitch face. FAFO. Do I or don't I? Life is a box of chocolates and there's nothing wrong with giving not to receive.



 
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