Haven't read the whole thread but I read through the initial post and agreed with pretty much everything except this
The two statements I bolded are in direct conflict. While it's true that people come in a variety of configurations within an ethnicity it's not an infinite set and can easily still fall outside the set of what someone finds physically attractive. For example I am not attracted to black women. That doesn't mean I think all black women are the same but none the less all black women I have thus encountered have in common the fact that they lack the features of the European women I am attracted to. For example, there are no fair skinned blue eyed blonde black women with long silky straight hair and European facial features and that is the type of woman I tend to find physically attractive.
So how is that fundamentally different from what you're saying? I can't really control what I find physically attractive and even if I could to some degree I don't see why I should be under any obligation to do so. What's wrong with finding women from your own race to be most attractive? I think it's natural actually and it's something the majority of the world's people seem to share.
Granted you didn't actually say there was anything wrong with it, you said it was "racist" and I am assuming you think there is something wrong because that word tends to have very negative connotations but maybe you should be clear on what exactly you mean by "racist".
Yes, that's a big gripe for me as well. The idea of bigotry has been weaponized by the left. They confuse
preference with
hatred (transphobia, bigotry, racism, etc).
The word transphobia gets tossed around way too lightly and arbitrarily.
I have no problem with trans people, I support them on almost everything, I give them their due respect... but I would never date one for any reason even if I found them objectively attractive.
I don't even need to explain why not, because it doesn't fucking matter. I like the color green, nobody asks me WHY I like green and not purple. Because it doesn't even matter and ultimately none of their business.
If I were to sum up my criticism of trans people it would be that they expect their life choices and expectations, which go against established normality, to be immune from criticism. Sorry, life doesn't work that way.
Things or people that go against established norms are subject to harsh opinions. That's math, not hatred.
I might as well call anyone who judges me for being an alcoholic a hateful bigot. I was born this way (?). You don't want to date me or hang out because I drink alcohol? Is that hateful? No.
I've had many male gay friends in my life. I've been hit on from them many times. I've never been called homophobic for saying no, sorry, I'm straight.
As I've said before, I think the trans movement could learn a thing or two from LGB people and their successful movement in the 80s/90s. Seek legal equality, not social equality. Find your own space socially. I think gay people pulled that off gracefully.
Ultimately, I think the trans movement has some growing pains to deal with, both figuratively and literally.