acceptance of a sexless life?

[Cateturry3turrycan]

Yea when I see a thread like this, I think to myself, you have every opportunity to still have a woman.

I notice the whole post you talk about getting fucked but not much do I hear about desiring a woman as a partner, to cherish good times and bad, someone to go through life with. Women absolutely hate to be looked at as sex objects and that’s all you see them as.

-GC

This is exactly what I was going to say. I counted atleast 7 different times he goes back to being worried he will no longer be able to pay for sex with rpostitutes. First off, I can tell you from first hand experience I've paid for sex. And I've been with someone I loved. You have NO idea just how much better being emotionally connected with someone makes sex.

I honestly feel kind of bad for you, you say you dont want sympathy, then what do you want? What possible advice could someone soundly give you when, as Chem said, you just view women as sex objects there to get you off.

Women are complicated, and they arent going to settle for some dead beat who just feels sorry for himself and constantly just wants to fuck. If thats honestly how you view women at 39, having never had sex with an intimate partner, I suggest you learn how to satisfy yourself cause you are correct about one thing.

You will absolutely wind up alone, at 70, having never been intimate with anyone. Intimacy is one thing you cannot describe to someone. It can be the most amazing feeling, wrapped around the worst feeling. But its part of our human experience. I just hope you learn to view women as more than just pieces of meat.

When I feel down about my situation, and Ivefound myself in quite a fucked up situation,I just look at my girlfriend, and because of how long I've been with her, and how attracted I still am to her, I know things will be okay.

IF you go thru life never experiencing this, its no bodys fault but your own.

 

[CoastTwoCoast]

What I don't like is the biggest worry is he won't be able to have sex with "attractive women" anymore. The emphasis is always on a woman's looks. Every one ages, that's life. Men can get old and look like a bag of shit, but still think they deserve someone in their 20s who looks like Heidi Klum. Unless you're wealthy or a rock star, it ain't happening. Really, I feel sorry for women because of how shallow most men can be.

 

[Cateturry3turrycan]

What I don't like is the biggest worry is he won't be able to have sex with "attractive women" anymore. The emphasis is always on a woman's looks. Every one ages, that's life. Men can get old and look like a bag of shit, but still think they deserve someone in their 20s who looks like Heidi Klum. Unless you're wealthy or a rock star, it ain't happening. Really, I feel sorry for women because of how shallow most men can be.

Hey now, I only look like half a bag of shit :D

 

[Zopiclone bandit]

I've always felt I don't look that great & sadly in this day & age a lot of people seem to judge you by looks, with all these shows we have over here like Love Island & this Instagram culture so many people care how they look so much. Me personally I go for a persons outlook on life, manners & humour before they way they look. You cannot do much about your face really but attitude & manners can be worked on if people follow my logic there.

To me I'd pick a woman that is average looking & has a great attitude, quick to have fun & quick to laugh over a woman that had amazing looks but she was rude to old people & had an attitude that sucked.

 

[CoastTwoCoast]

Hey now, I only look like half a bag of shit :D

HAHA!

I've always felt I don't look that great & sadly in this day & age a lot of people seem to judge you by looks, with all these shows we have over here like Lone Island & this Instagram culture so many people care how they look so much. Me personally I go for a persons outlook on life, manners & humour before they way they look. You cannot do much about your face really but attitude & manners can be worked on if people follow my logic there.

To me I'd pick a woman that is average looking & has a great attitude, quick to have fun & quick to laugh over a woman that had amazing looks but she was rude to old people & had an attitude that sucked.

Social media is awful and probably the downfall of humanity. Stay far away from it. I quit years ago and felt a lot better.

 

[ions]

Read ‘The Game’ by Neil Strauss. It will teach you how to pick up women and be comfortable with and around them.

 

[atara]

Zb complains about his looks every two hours I don't know if you can reassure him. Zb if you think your looks are your only problem in the relationship department you need only look at the reception you get here and none of us can see you. Like you have this attitude a lot of adolescent and post-adolescent men have that the conventional social system of politeness is bad so you shouldn't participate. But the world depends on that system and you have to participate. It's like saying the air smells bad so you'll stop breathing. It doesn't work very well. (I'm speaking from experience.)

OP made his bed and now he has to lay in it. I don't understand the point of giving advice looking through a pinhole at such a fucked-up situation. From what I'm reading in the OP he's been on welfare since he was 22, appears to be taking some kind of disability medication, can't hold a job. That's a much harder problem than just being uncool.

People are saying, look, you only look at women for sex. That's not an unfair criticism. But what I've read from Boku's posts he's only looking at life through a lens of getting some kind of visceral pleasure be it getting high or gambling or fucking. It's a natural extension from that attitude to relationships only being about sex.

Isn't there anything you want to actually do in life other than find stuff to get high on? Because if we can't answer that question I don't know how you're going to hold down a relationship. I don't know what your situation is, but this is always true: you have to believe in something.

 

[Zopiclone bandit]

Zb complains about his looks every two hours I don't know if you can reassure him. Zb if you think your looks are your only problem in the relationship department

My friend I've used potent opiates for decades, the whole of my life people give me weird looks in the street as if I've just landed from Mars. Can I be blamed for pondering these things?

 

[Quickfixgrrl]

My friend I've used potent opiates for decades, the whole of my life people give me weird looks in the street as if I've just landed from Mars. Can I be blamed for pondering these things?

I know and love a lot of people who are heroin addicts. It fucking breaks my heart as the drug (not assuming you've used heroin, but opiates nonetheless) definitely takes a devastating toll on self esteem and the way people view drug users. It actually infuriates me. All of the people in my life who are addicted to opiates are beautiful, hurt, wracked with self loathing... yet entirely human and fully aware of how this fucked up society view them.

 

[Zopiclone bandit]

I know and love a lot of people who are heroin addicts. It fucking breaks my heart as the drug (not assuming you've used heroin, but opiates nonetheless)

I'm quite honest about it, heroin is my downfall. I hate the stuff yet it's also the answer to all my problems.

All of the people in my life who are addicted to opiates are beautiful, hurt, wracked with self loathing... yet entirely human and fully aware of how this fucked up society view them.

One of the most honest things I've read online in some time.
The "best" addicts are people I've found that were looking for something to cushion the blows of life & got caught up into something that is way more potent than they ever could imagine. I guess in a way the drug causes you to hate yourself in many ways which I cannot quite put my finger on & the deeper you sink into that hole the harder it is to ever get back out.

 

[Quickfixgrrl]

I'm quite honest about it, heroin is my downfall. I hate the stuff yet it's also the answer to all my problems.



One of the most honest things I've read online in some time.
The "best" addicts are people I've found that were looking for something to cushion the blows of life & got caught up into something that is way more potent than they ever could imagine. I guess in a way the drug causes you to hate yourself in many ways which I cannot quite put my finger on & the deeper you sink into that hole the harder it is to ever get back out.

I can't fathom this deplorable view towards addicts. Anyone who is chasing that numbness, that superficial level of feeling happy, is fucking hurting deeply. Yet we are viewed as scum. Don't get me started on my opinions of society "norms"... lol.. unless you've got a large amount of liquor for us and 24 hours free to rage

 

[atara]

If you think anyone criticizing your behavior means you "are viewed as scum", that's your first problem.

My friend I've used potent opiates for decades

So have many people on this forum, yet they don't all have your incessant combativeness.

 

[GENGAR]

Agree with poster above

 

[GENGAR]

As for acceptance of a sexless life that’s completely your choice and up to you

 

[CoastTwoCoast]

="Asclepius, post: 14652299, member: 163912"]
@ CTC post. What, you mean like you? I wouldn't be so quick to throw colloquial/stereotypical, shit at someone before I got my own issues, cleared, eh? Cowards defence is obvious. Everyones got their issues but hiding behind BS is weak.

Wow @Asclepius Did you have too much to drink again? You're in attack mode like before. You PM'd me in the past and asked for forgiveness. I had forgiven you before when you came at me like that, but I won't tolerate your abuse anymore. I don't deserve it. I'm done dealing with you. Get your drinking or drug problem sorted because at least I don't go around being mean to people. You will be ignored from now on. Go fuck yourself.

@Asclepius I sincerely apologize from the bottom of my heart for going off on you like that. What you said to me is not who you are, it was the spirit of whatever we're under the influence of at that time.

You have such a beautiful heart and you are a wonderful person. You really helped me when I was going through a toxic relationship last year. You are a great addition to this board. I'm sorry.

We all have problems here. We are not battling people, but we are battling spirits. You think it's a coincidence alcohol is called a "spirit". The name is right there in plain sight. Alcohol and drugs have a spirit attached to them.

Ephesians 6:12
“For we wrestle not against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this world, against spiritual wickedness in high places.”

Others who are getting negative thoughts in here feeling like scum and worthless for being an addict, that's a lie!

You are worthy. You are redeemed. You are accepted. You are approved. You are free. You are valuable. You are a child of the most High God! You are alive because you have a purpose. God is not looking down on you with condemnation or disgust. That is the devil trying to take you out of this world by attacking you with negativity. I love you all, stay strong. We all have the strength to fight this, but it is not in our own strength. Give it over to God.

❤

 

[nuttynutskin]

lol

 

[CoastTwoCoast]

The only thing that's funny is you stalking me in different threads now.

 

[Snowy_Hell]

Older men aged over 45 who are unemployed, on the disability support pension, taking medication for emotional or mental problems, living in room in a rooming house or a tenant in a department of housing flat, how you feel about never getting a female partner for the rest of your life?
How do you come to accept and cope with the reality you will never have sex with a attractive woman again for free in the rest of your life?
The only possibility of having sex again involves winning $70-$100 on the pokies or at the TAB and paying a cheap Chinese prostutie for a quickie.
I ask this question because that is the future I face, I've been on Centrelink payments since age 22 and now aged 39 I am starting to think one day I won't be able to afford bookings with cheap prostuties as I can now.
I have never got sex from an attractive woman for free in my entire life.
I've never had a girlfriend or even a one night stand.
I am not looking for sympathy but I am hoping for advice from single men living off a low income with no savings on how being a older man living a sex less lifestyle is possible and how it feels to be past caring about not being able to get a attractive woman for acts of intimacy?
At my local gaming venue pub I know many older men aged over 60 well in to their 70s or older who have come to accept living the asexual lifestyle. They would rather gamble or drink the odd pot of beer.
How does a man in his forties or fifties learn to live with the fact he will never have sex for free with an attractive woman in his lifetime?
In a perfect world I would continue paying prostuties who I find attractive for sexual services but eventually I will be unable to afford them because I have no job and everyone tells me living off Centrelink payments is bloody tough with no savings or family support to fall back on.
Apparently you can't smoke drink or drug when on Centrelink because if you blow your small amount of income on Vice purchases you will be forced to go without.
I figure if drugs are not affordable for a Centrelink recipient how on earth could brothel bookings be possible.I was told real men don't pay a hooker for sex, real men jerk off. I was also told at Catholic school being a man refusing to pay a prostutie for sex even if you can't get sex free is the righteous decision. It's always better to be a loner who jerks off over porn by himself than a desperate paying a hooker for sex.

Do you reckon I would have my dignity if I stopped paying prostuties for sex?

Apparently according to women's rights activists like Melbourne University academic Shelia Jefferies who leads a coalition of women against the trafficking of sex workers in the Asian Pacific region all men who pay prostuties are guilty of abuse' against women. Shelia also campaigns against the decriminalisation of sex work on the grounds a legal commercial sex industry regulated by government laws is actually the state sponsored abuse of women because any woman getting paid for sex work by a man is being abused and all prostuties actually are victims exploitated for a man's sexual gratification.

Shealia reckons Men do not have the right to sex and for the well-being of women caught up in the murky waters of forced sex slavery it's better govenments adopt the Nordic model of making it a criminal offence for a man to pay a woman for sex.

Back to my original question how do men like me deal with my situation? Do I tell myself I am better than paying for it??

I actually live very cheap aside from seeing hookers and I don't mind hanging out at the TAB to socialise or cooking rice and veggies at home for a cheap meal but when the day comes I can't afford to see a prostutie at least once a fortnight it's going to be awefully depressing.

Hitting the gym, getting a car and then scavenging for young girls down on their luck might seem as an option.

 

[BeachBum4u]

Damn dude, I truly hope to get to know the difference between fucking and making love. It sounds like you've never experienced the later. Words will never be able to describe the feeling of orgasming in my wife, looking at her right in the eyes while I'm saying I Love You! Absofuckingloutly Amazing!

Put yourself out there, expect nothing, be real, fuck being anyone but you. Fuck "The Game", I hate shit like that, people see through that crap and ones who don't aren't worth the time.

 

[Shady's Fox]

@G_Chem

Logically speaking, they are just holes. Womens in this world receive way way too fuckin much useless attention. They have easy lives, for that little thing down there, it's the truth. 99% of womens and ye 99% they get into relationships because they don't know how to organize a future for themselves, girls under 18 become hookers, you see them on the road, they ran from poverty like the devil rans from holy water, you know, the 6 spins the dice back, you know what am sayin, ha.

So it's what it's, it's reality, you cannot ran from it. The funny thing would be that I guess that you are already above 18, maybe 23-24 there, and if you find this new, it's.. something. + thinkin is bad, pfft, fuck thinkin, ha.