A Closet Sissy Who Wonders

[Bearlove]

Im going to make a few psychological theories as to the sissy fetish as it's something I've had some interest in to.

I think part of becoming or dressing as a woman is a way to reduce the shame you feel for your homosexual desires.

You have these Desires and by doing this "doublethink" I.e. I want cock but I'm not gay at all - it mitigates The shame. The shame and humiliation is a big part of the turn on as well - like you're doing something wrong and naughty.

In terms of you being straight - you're not. You're bi. And that's totally fine. I know a big part of my sissy fantasy is that it's totally private and I have no interest in acting it out for real - it's the fantasy that gets me off.

So the sissy's girlfriend wearing a strap on really want's to be a man - she's fucking a guy so she wants to be a gay man ? Lesbians wearing or using a strap on and role playing really want to be straight man?

Surely gay or straight is something we know ourselves as and not something that some random thinks based on what I do in the bedroom with my husband or wife ?

 

[infectedmushroom]

No - the sissy's girlfriend might want to be a woman, or a man. She might want to imagine herself a gay man, or a straight man fucking a straight man, or a straight man fucking a gay man, or a gay woman fucking a gay man, and I could go on and on. The point here is that there are so many variables and subtleties when it comes to the deeply personal reasons people find certain activities stimulating, erotic, exciting, or even just intriguing. How ever one defines and understands oneself is the thing that matters most, I agree - however in terms of how society at large views sexuality, much like in many other cases, we tend to find definitions and narrow down our understanding as much as we possibly can for the basic purpose of simplicity, (among other things.)

So to answer the OP's question, no, of course it's not just penis OR vagina. You like what you like, and if shame or over-thinking starts interfering with your sexual life, it might diminish it. Traditional roles of masculinity and femininity will deem your fantasy "fringe" and as a "fetish," but who gives a fuck? Just enjoy yourself, and play safe.

 

[Bearlove]

No - the sissy's girlfriend might want to be a woman, or a man. She might want to imagine herself a gay man, or a straight man fucking a straight man, or a straight man fucking a gay man, or a gay woman fucking a gay man, and I could go on and on. The point here is that there are so many variables and subtleties when it comes to the deeply personal reasons people find certain activities stimulating, erotic, exciting, or even just intriguing. How ever one defines and understands oneself is the thing that matters most, I agree - however in terms of how society at large views sexuality, much like in many other cases, we tend to find definitions and narrow down our understanding as much as we possibly can for the basic purpose of simplicity, (among other things.)

So to answer the OP's question, no, of course it's not just penis OR vagina. You like what you like, and if shame or over-thinking starts interfering with your sexual life, it might diminish it. Traditional roles of masculinity and femininity will deem your fantasy "fringe" and as a "fetish," but who gives a fuck? Just enjoy yourself, and play safe.

Surely if you understand the subtleties of how varied people can be with their own personal sexual exploration etc then you really shouldn't be as quick to tell a guy they are not straight or even go as far as to assign a sexuality.

In terms of you being straight - you're not. You're bi.

You don't know this, you cant honestly believe that you fully understand this guys sexuality from one post.

I have to agree though - who gives a fuck :D Enjoy it and play safe.