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A Closet Sissy Who Wonders

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As a male/someone who also enjoys cross dressing and ass play, i was wondering what women and men thought about this. I do not think I am gay, as I do not have any desire to be with a man. however… i do love a good cock. So shemales are my fantasy. I love dressing as a woman, getting off is my outfits and playing around, but have no desire to be with a "man". I am only interested in cock. How do people feel about this? I would love a girl who is whiling to peg me but am unsure how to bring up the fact or the cross dressing. Any advice? I also enjoy taking pictures (I'm a bit of a voyer…), do people here enjoy looking at that? or is it all pussy OR penis.
 
My thought on cross-dressing and cock worship is this: whatever gets you through the night.
you are clearly not hurting anyone. If you have the balls to turn your fetish into a partnered reality all the more power to you.
 
Seems to me that you are probably gay underneath it all.

I have never fantasized about a dick my entire life. If I did, then I would assume that I was most likely gay.

I was talking to a gay dude on OkCupid a while ago who was advertising as a woman, but was really a man.

He seemed like a nice guy, but I did give him a serving about pretending to be a woman in the straight male searching for a female area. I steered him toward the "am I gay?" test.

Check it out, mate:

http://www.okcupid.com/tests/the-am-i-gay-test
 
OP said:
I do not think I am gay, as I do not have any desire to be with a man. however… i do love a good cock.

yea dude you're definitely gay and you're not gonna be able to doublethink your way out of it.
 
"am I gay?" test.

Check it out, mate:
/tests/the-am-i-gay-test

Q. Have you ever had your eyebrows plucked, waxed, or in some other way modified

Q. What about any other body hair? (Please note that back hair is an exception - anybody who has it should look into having it removed)

Bitch Please- Somebody who has never heard of The 'Bear' community should not be writing tests to see if your gay or not :D

OP - If that is what you enjoy, then enjoy it. Pegging, cross dressing etc is pretty common and there are several site etc dedicated to people who like that sort of thing, get yourself on some of the fetish/dating sites - be honest what your looking for and take it from there.

Good luck and have fun, ignore the haters <3
 
Curious169, it sounds as though you're bisexual. Just enjoy it, and have safer sex if you decide to have sex with anyone.
 
If you are a man and like ass play and dick then you are most likely a bisexual or homosexual. No straight man thinks about dick and is turned on by it.
 
Cross dressing isn't inherently gay. It's a fetish, could be about humiliation. People will scoff at it, laugh at it and make it their mission to define you and tell you that you are in denial and ashamed but no. Not at all. It's weird and it's out there it's nothing that I have to accept, because I know who I am and what I like. If you like dressing up and getting fucked it is gay. Men have cocks and sexual desire to be penetrated by a cock is gay. It's a harmless fetish and going around telling everyone and making a huge deal about it is just cruel and immature.

If someone is attracted to men, penis or even tranny's and their penis's it is homosexual but there is absolutely nothing wrong with that. People keep posting saying "I'm straight but I love getting fucked" that's just not a true statement at all and it's not healthy at all to be in denial about that. There is a stigma around it and people make you feel bad about it which is wrong because it is a hard thing to accept and people go through so much turmoil in those situations. I am comfortable with that fact that I am sexually attracted to men but having had sex with one guy and trying a bunch of weird shit and still not finding fulfillment or sexual satisfaction. Also never finding that with the woman I have been with and understanding that it is actually trust and emotional attachment that allows me to find sexual fulfillment I now understand what I am into, what I desire and how to attain that. I can appreciate both sexes and both have something different to offer me but I don't prefer one over the other.

People saw a bunch of shit I posted online. I have trauma issues from being sexually assaulted and molested as a child. Also rejection from my mom and my sister as a child has given me a complex and made it hard to trust woman and connect with them. Socially I have such a hard time connecting with people as well. Attaining comfort socially requires a lot of trust. Being comfortable enough to be myself and enjoy myself and not be completely walled off by exteeme anxiety and self image issues.the same goes for intimate relationships, constantly failing and perceiving rejection before anything has happened and when I have had sex with people, the same trust issues play out and I can't let go or enjoy myself and self image issues and the irrational perception that I am disgusting plays itself out with every attempt at sex or having a relationship. Being frustrated and lonely I found comfort in opioids as they kill the sex drive and lower testosterone while simultaneously allowing me to be ok with being completely alone all my life. Using stimulants and having a giant boost in sexual desire I took to exhibitionism on the internet looking to experience feeling desirable even if it was in yeh worst eay possible because in real life I feel disgusting and unworthy of love. It did make me feel desired and like I was worthy of someone elses sexual desire. People need intimacy and closeness and I have only attained that once. I am a broken human being and I struggle in ways no one could ever let themselves understand. I have had sex with a guy but that was over 2 years ago. I still didn't feel sexual satisfaction and I tried so many weird things. It's emotional attachment and trust that are required for sexual fulfillment.

I trusted people and told them the truth about absolutely everything. It looks bad and people are going to bully me for a long time about it but it isn't what it looks like. I am absolutely attracted to men. I've tried sucking dick and don't like it I do enjoy anal though. I am able to go there and am compketely comfortable with it but I am also attracted to woman and have psychological issues to sort out so that I can make friends and form relationships. Stuff I posted online has circulated to everyone I know and I have told everyone the truth about it but they seem intent on telling everyone and spreading it to even the NA meeting I go to and I get comments about it there. I've already been humiliated and these people I trusted are just humiliating me further.
 
Cross dressing isn't inherently gay. It's a fetish, could be about humiliation. People will scoff at it, laugh at it and make it their mission to define you and tell you that you are in denial and ashamed but no. Not at all. It's weird and it's out there it's nothing that I have to accept, because I know who I am and what I like. If you like dressing up and getting fucked it is gay. Men have cocks and sexual desire to be penetrated by a cock is gay. It's a harmless fetish and going around telling everyone and making a huge deal about it is just cruel and immature.

If someone is attracted to men, penis or even tranny's and their penis's it is homosexual but there is absolutely nothing wrong with that. People keep posting saying "I'm straight but I love getting fucked" that's just not a true statement at all and it's not healthy at all to be in denial about that. There is a stigma around it and people make you feel bad about it which is wrong because it is a hard thing to accept and people go through so much turmoil in those situations. I am comfortable with that fact that I am sexually attracted to men but having had sex with one guy and trying a bunch of weird shit and still not finding fulfillment or sexual satisfaction. Also never finding that with the woman I have been with and understanding that it is actually trust and emotional attachment that allows me to find sexual fulfillment I now understand what I am into, what I desire and how to attain that. I can appreciate both sexes and both have something different to offer me but I don't prefer one over the other.

People saw a bunch of shit I posted online. I have trauma issues from being sexually assaulted and molested as a child. Also rejection from my mom and my sister as a child has given me a complex and made it hard to trust woman and connect with them. Socially I have such a hard time connecting with people as well. Attaining comfort socially requires a lot of trust. Being comfortable enough to be myself and enjoy myself and not be completely walled off by exteeme anxiety and self image issues.the same goes for intimate relationships, constantly failing and perceiving rejection before anything has happened and when I have had sex with people, the same trust issues play out and I can't let go or enjoy myself and self image issues and the irrational perception that I am disgusting plays itself out with every attempt at sex or having a relationship. Being frustrated and lonely I found comfort in opioids as they kill the sex drive and lower testosterone while simultaneously allowing me to be ok with being completely alone all my life. Using stimulants and having a giant boost in sexual desire I took to exhibitionism on the internet looking to experience feeling desirable even if it was in yeh worst eay possible because in real life I feel disgusting and unworthy of love. It did make me feel desired and like I was worthy of someone elses sexual desire. People need intimacy and closeness and I have only attained that once. I am a broken human being and I struggle in ways no one could ever let themselves understand. I have had sex with a guy but that was over 2 years ago. I still didn't feel sexual satisfaction and I tried so many weird things. It's emotional attachment and trust that are required for sexual fulfillment.

I trusted people and told them the truth about absolutely everything. It looks bad and people are going to bully me for a long time about it but it isn't what it looks like. I am absolutely attracted to men. I've tried sucking dick and don't like it I do enjoy anal though. I am able to go there and am compketely comfortable with it but I am also attracted to woman and have psychological issues to sort out so that I can make friends and form relationships. Stuff I posted online has circulated to everyone I know and I have told everyone the truth about it but they seem intent on telling everyone and spreading it to even the NA meeting I go to and I get comments about it there. I've already been humiliated and these people I trusted are just humiliating me further.
May I ask what this "bunch of shit" you posted online was? I can only imagine...

It sounds like this was a significant moment in your life, perhaps more so than something happening to you decades ago, which you can more than likely not remember properly or overemphasise in your mind?

So perhaps it is this posting "shit" online that is currently causing you the most issues? And, perhaps, you being drug affected causes you to be more likely to post this shit online, which may be a risk factor in causing you further psychological (and/or physical) harm?

So, perhaps, either reduce the amount that you post shit online or reduce your intoxicating drug/medication intake - or, better yet, try to reduce your intake of intoxicating substances whilst simultaneously reducing the amount of shit you post on the internet?

As a male/someone who also enjoys cross dressing and ass play, i was wondering what women and men thought about this. I do not think I am gay, as I do not have any desire to be with a man. however… i do love a good cock. So shemales are my fantasy. I love dressing as a woman, getting off is my outfits and playing around, but have no desire to be with a "man". I am only interested in cock. How do people feel about this? I would love a girl who is whiling to peg me but am unsure how to bring up the fact or the cross dressing. Any advice? I also enjoy taking pictures (I'm a bit of a voyer…), do people here enjoy looking at that? or is it all pussy OR penis.
OK. So you're bi or gay.

What kind of advice do you want?

On what clothes to cross-dress in?

So a woman pegs you then you go looking for a cock? If you love a cock, why is it that you want a woman to peg you?

If shemales are your fantasy, then it would be safe to assume that you are attracted to shemales, right? Why not have a shemale peg you?
 
As a male/someone who also enjoys cross dressing and ass play, i was wondering what women and men thought about this. I do not think I am gay, as I do not have any desire to be with a man. however… i do love a good cock. So shemales are my fantasy. I love dressing as a woman, getting off is my outfits and playing around, but have no desire to be with a "man". I am only interested in cock. How do people feel about this? I would love a girl who is whiling to peg me but am unsure how to bring up the fact or the cross dressing. Any advice? I also enjoy taking pictures (I'm a bit of a voyer…), do people here enjoy looking at that? or is it all pussy OR penis.


If you call yourself a closet sissy and you like cock then you are probably gay. Its all good dude. Nothing gay about a little assplay though I mean if your talking dildo's and shit that might be a bit of a red flag...but still not a sign your gay.
 
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Being pegged by a woman as your dressed as a woman is not gay. Classing yourself as a sissy is not gay it is simply a reflection on how you feel or how you want people to treat you. Ass play with toys is not gay.

People are so quick to simply label everything that involves ass play as 'gay' when that is not the case - straight men can enjoy being feminine and having their ass used by a strap on (as the op says).
 
You are a probably somebody who is mildly transgendered.
Transgender people come in all shapes and sizes and intensity.
It's quite usual for crossdressers to desire cock when they are dressed.
It's something that goes with the persona. I would say don't sweat it.
I could say much more, but seeing as you apparently no longer on this forum, I'm stopping here.
 
You are a probably somebody who is mildly transgendered.
Transgender people come in all shapes and sizes and intensity.
It's quite usual for crossdressers to desire cock when they are dressed.
It's something that goes with the persona. I would say don't sweat it.
I could say much more, but seeing as you apparently no longer on this forum, I'm stopping here.

One can't be mildly transgendered, you either are or you aren't. I know, because I literally fell in love with someone who was. She didn't like me back, which still has me really upset, but I know a lot about this. If someone is transgendered, they are the opposite sex. They are not simply a feminine male or masculine female, that can come in shades of grey. Being transgendered is literally being the opposite sex despite one's body. However, it does sound as though it's possible that OP is, because of saying "I am a male/somebody", appears to be doubting maleness. I can't say though, OP may just have a fetish of dressing in woman's clothing and is bisexual. That's okay too, and it's also pretty common. If OP is unsure whether or not he/she is transgendered and is around very accepting/understanding types of people, expressing his/her concerns may be a good decision. In this case, OP could encourage others to use female pronouns when referring to OP in ordinary conversations, and OP could see if OP is more comfortable this way. If OP is not comfortable with that or is uncomfortable with the mere thought of being called she, OP likely simply has a fetish. If OP would rather be called she, OP may be transgendered.

OP didn't say anything about this, but I will. If you are considering whether or not you are transgender, but unsure, don't do anything permanent like taking hormones/surgery/any sort of altering of your body. Also, don't tell those that might react badly unless you are sure.

If OP knows he simply has a fetish, then I apologize for even bringing up the possibility of OP being transgender. There is nothing wrong with simply having a fetish of dressing in women's clothing. A lot of men have this fetish, they say like 10% or something in that range.
 
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Personally I find this intriguing and makes me curious.....I think that each to their own we all have our specific quirks and I say embace it and find someone who wants to get down and dirty with you on the same level!! ID TRY IT FOR SURE!!
 
One can't be mildly transgendered, you either are or you aren't. I know, because I literally fell in love with someone who was. She didn't like me back, which still has me really upset, but I know a lot about this. If someone is transgendered, they are the opposite sex. They are not simply a feminine male or masculine female, that can come in shades of grey. Being transgendered is literally being the opposite sex despite one's body. However, it does sound as though it's possible that OP is, because of saying "I am a male/somebody", appears to be doubting maleness. I can't say though, OP may just have a fetish of dressing in woman's clothing and is bisexual. That's okay too, and it's also pretty common. If OP is unsure whether or not he/she is transgendered and is around very accepting/understanding types of people, expressing his/her concerns may be a good decision. In this case, OP could encourage others to use female pronouns when referring to OP in ordinary conversations, and OP could see if OP is more comfortable this way. If OP is not comfortable with that or is uncomfortable with the mere thought of being called she, OP likely simply has a fetish. If OP would rather be called she, OP may be transgendered.

OP didn't say anything about this, but I will. If you are considering whether or not you are transgender, but unsure, don't do anything permanent like taking hormones/surgery/any sort of altering of your body. Also, don't tell those that might react badly unless you are sure.

If OP knows he simply has a fetish, then I apologize for even bringing up the possibility of OP being transgender. There is nothing wrong with simply having a fetish of dressing in women's clothing. A lot of men have this fetish, they say like 10% or something in that range.

Actually it's not like this. People come in many shades of gray and so do transgenders. I'm using transgender as an alternative to "G.I.D" or gender identity dysphoria. At the extreme end is your friend who felt like a woman in a man's body and could not tolerate it. There is also a distinction between primary GID and late onset GID. Primary GID is where a person (usually before puberty) makes the parents aware of the dysphoria, whereas late onset GID usually refers to persons who after reaching maturity try to balance their dysphoric feelings with their lifestyles, with some going on to a complete transition. My impression is that OP is in the second group and is currently exploring crossdressing. There is however nothing to say that he will not experience more profound feelings as his life goes on.
I would add though that "Transition is not for cissies" as it is a harrowing, life-changing experience that may be rewarding but can also lead to social isolation and great unhappiness.
 
Wanting cock but not wanting a man. Is this like wanting vag and boobs, but not wanting the full female package, as to avoid dumb conversations and other annoyances?
But yeah, not that there's anything wrong with it, but you're probably gay.


- Hopeless Soul
 
Wanting cock but not wanting a man. Is this like wanting vag and boobs, but not wanting the full female package, as to avoid dumb conversations and other annoyances?
But yeah, not that there's anything wrong with it, but you're probably gay.


- Hopeless Soul

Sexist alert in aisle three :D

I don't think it is though - the op want's cock (strap on/toy), it's purely a physical thing about being used, fucked, dominated and made to feel like a woman as he is the 'passive' partner. They don't want a guy as they are not sexually attracted to them.
 
Im going to make a few psychological theories as to the sissy fetish as it's something I've had some interest in to.

I think part of becoming or dressing as a woman is a way to reduce the shame you feel for your homosexual desires.

You have these Desires and by doing this "doublethink" I.e. I want cock but I'm not gay at all - it mitigates The shame. The shame and humiliation is a big part of the turn on as well - like you're doing something wrong and naughty.

In terms of you being straight - you're not. You're bi. And that's totally fine. I know a big part of my sissy fantasy is that it's totally private and I have no interest in acting it out for real - it's the fantasy that gets me off.
 
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