^I agree with that in most cases...but, I've been with my girlfriend for six years...we met before she even tried it...a few months later she started doing it with me on the east coast and we did it for just shy of 4 years...
She ODd and almost died, I went to rehab for 4 months, she moved back here to Nebraska and tapered with Suboxone and kicked the habit..
After I left rehab, I came out to Nebraska to get back together with her, and she hasn't touched heroin in over 2 years since the day after she OD'd in July 2011...
I went home last winter and was shooting dope for a few months, so I picked up a habit again, and we're both on Suboxone now, because she started taking it for no real reason too...
The rehab I was at tried to do every sneaky manipulative thing under the sun to keep us separated...When I said I was leaving, they called an ambulance on me for absolutely no reason and tried to have me committed...They secretly sent letters to pre trial services saying that I needed to be court ordered to stay in rehab for a year "in light of my recent psych episode",
the one they fabricated to try to keep me there a few weeks earlier! The only thing keeping me in rehab, was that I was trying to get a pending charge dropped....and the rehab was supposed to be giving the court positive "progress reports". Instead, they were doing the exact opposite and trying to fuck me over behind my back!
Anyway, I'm going off topic, but if you've been with someone a long time and you really love them, it's a lot more complicated than just "ending it"...Should you just automatically get a divorce if you started doing dope with your husband/wife because "drug addict relationships never work"?
Most professionals in the substance abuse field and people in recovery in 12 step programs would say the same thing Scagnattie's saying, and before I was with the girl I'm with now I would have said the same thing, but it's not completely black and white..
I do agree that, it's virtually impossible to stay clean if you're living with, or regularly seeing someone who's still using...You at least have to part ways for a few months to kick the habit and stabilize...but whether or not you should end the relationship is a decision only you can make!
*and now Scagnattie's probably pissed at me...whatever!
