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just been dumped

I wouldn't put up with that BS either looks like the girl was wise to dump you if you EXPECT her to put up with your comedown when she does not understand drugs. Why the hell should she? Maybe instead of winging you need to take a good look at yourself n sort some things out so it doesn't happen again.

I find that OFFENSIVE saying that women are heartless. NO!!! We're not doormats, we've brains n won't put up with BS!!!!

Evey
 
Ya, I do feel for you man but Evey above is right... why should the girl be expected to put up with you being in a bad mood on a comedown if she doesn't take drugs?..maybe once it would be ok but not on the reg..

Regarding haircuts - a lot of abuse was thrown around our schools over new haircuts and trainers / runners and the like...I always complimented myself tho I make sure of that to this day %)
 
Mental Kenny said:
It just seems weird, seriously when I grew up I remember being complimented most of the times and making positive remarks myself when somebody cut their hair, maybe it's just you lot being assholes to each other more. I mean the only times I've had stones thrown at me was in the UK by local schoolboys, same thing with chips and other stuff. There's a lot more youth violence as well in UK schools I believe.
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For the most part I was/am complimented, with something as simple as 'nice haircut'. One time though, my mum cut my hair and it was terrible...bowl haircut. Got called a monk all day. I think it's just affectionate ragging or banter in Knock's and Julie's case. People didn't actually think their haircuts sucked, it was just something new about them that was an easy target.
 
that's what I mean, it was only twice in a two week period, I told her I would stop and she didn't give me the chance. It's not like she gave me chance after chance, after two instances she ended it.

but whatever man, it is what it is.
 
Yeah I was going out with a girl she heard me talking on the phone about gear to one my mates had a massive fight, we stayed together for a little longer but the relationship was kinda fuckd after that plus I wanted to be with an ex of mine at the same time...so she found out about heroin and me texting my ex around the same time it kinda fucked it all up within a couple weeks...but I was lucky cause 4 weeks later the chick was pregnant!!..

Anyway not realy like ur story but u cud be lucky man she could turn up preggers in no time then ul count ur lucky stars :)
 
hexagram said:
that's what I mean, it was only twice in a two week period, I told her I would stop and she didn't give me the chance. It's not like she gave me chance after chance, after two instances she ended it. but whatever man, it is what it is.
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Probably it's not only the one thing, most likely she felt that it wasn't working out for several reasons and decided to call it a day. I know, it hurts (lots), but believe me, better sooner than later %)
 
Eveleivibe said:
I find that OFFENSIVE saying that women are heartless. NO!!! We're not doormats, we've brains n won't put up with BS!!!!

Evey
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Actually a lot of women are heartless and a lot of other women do put up with a lot of BS...some women like to be treated badly that's a fact. I don't know what % falls into each category but there are definitely women who fall into both.. and then there are confident women who wouldn't put up with an ounce of BS and there are women who are not heartless but very caring. All women are different, generalisations don't help anybody but to say they don't exist is not true
 
Well said Rock...
I've been heartless and caring...I think it's possible for one woman to be both at different times.
I've never enjoyed being abused and think someone's got to be pretty self hating to get off on that...
 
Ziggy stardust said:
Well said Rock...
I've been heartless and caring...I think it's possible for one woman to be both at different times.
I've never enjoyed being abused and think someone's got to be pretty self hating to get off on that...
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Very true... What I meant by abused I didn't mean physically but some women seem to put up with more emotional abuse than they should do
 
i'm pretty shocked at the haircut bits. whenever anyone i knew got a fresh classic cut they usually got complimented. nothing attracts others to you more than when you look and smell fresh. i could see how others could be threatened by it though, or if the haircut your getting is completely different to what the norm is.

to the OP: maybe you should give her a ring back and explain to her what happened? tell her that when you take drugs the next day you feel awful etc. if you like her a lot maybe you shouldn't throw in the towel too early. there's really no such thing as a last chance with girls. at times with me and my ex's it used to be a dumping contest. i dump her one week, she dumps me the next. you can always get her back if you know how to work her right.
 
haha no one of SLR seemed to think so, they all seem to think that as soon as a girl says they don't want you anymore, that's it.

because people never have sex or get back together after break ups, ever of course. Come to think of it, both my last serious relationships I still slept with them once or twice after we broke up.

In fairness though this time I'm probably not going to bother pursuing anything more than friendship now. Maybe she'll like me again, well she said she still likes me, but I'm not even going to think about it. I'm already feeling over it.
 
Serious question.

I know of no relationship that has worked which has re-ignited after a breakup.

Anyone know of anyone that has? Broken up, got back together, and not broken up again (or at least, not in the process of)?
 
An old friend from college ditched her boyfriend around age 20 because "it wasn't going anywhere", then they got back together around age 28 and got married and had a baby. They seem pretty settled, but I guess that's an unusual case as there was a big time apart.
 
RLP said:
Serious question.

I know of no relationship that has worked which has re-ignited after a breakup.

Anyone know of anyone that has? Broken up, got back together, and not broken up again (or at least, not in the process of)?
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I first started seeing my wife when I was 18. We broke up after a few months and went our separate ways (university, traveling, work etc) and never had any contact for over 5 years (in the days before facebook and the like). Bumped into her again when I was 23 and we immediately got back together. That was 10 years ago and we're now married and have our first kid on the way.

I guess it depends why you broke up in the first place. We never fell out, life just took us in different directions.
 
"it's not going anywhere" at 20.


You are together. You have arrived. :D Get off the train!

I guess they got eight years of shagging other people out of it so not a loss.
 
going to text her tonight trying to re-establish this friendship.

could be seen as too soon but she's going home for Christmas in a month and I'd like to meet up with her a few times before she goes.
 
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RLP said:
Serious question.

I know of no relationship that has worked which has re-ignited after a breakup.

Anyone know of anyone that has? Broken up, got back together, and not broken up again (or at least, not in the process of)?
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Not only has none of my relationships ignited after they were over, they all directly resulted in my ex-partner not being even a friend of mine. Most of the time this is desirable, but once especially might have been nice.

I only know of one relationship that reignited and it did so after a gap of twenty years. Not only that, it resulted in a mate of mine, who was in a 19 year loving relationship with teenage child to bring up, relocating to Toronto out of nowhere. He's back in Lonoon now but the relationship is still together.

Weird true postscript. The woman he left, to go back to his old flame, won the lottery shortly after with her new boyfriend. And several others in a syndicate. But they won the jackpot and got £100k each.
 
hm, spoke to her and she seems more bothered about it than me. Weird. Is it possible that even though she broke up with me, she could find it harder to get over?
 
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