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just been dumped

don't mean to keep going on about it but does anyone have any tips for how to keep my mind off it? Just want to not think about it.
 
First thing is make sure you do not phone or text your ex as you will only prolong your pain and you don't need that.
Can you get in touch with a friend and spend some time with them,go out for a drink and a few games of pool or whatever you enjoy doing.
Just basically try to keep yourself occupied so you don't have time to dwell on your break up.
 
hexagram said:
don't mean to keep going on about it but does anyone have any tips for how to keep my mind off it? Just want to not think about it.
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Nothing other than to steer well clear. Don't get drawn into any kinda bullshit. Other than that, don't drink too much, stick to the happy drugs and do anything and everything you can to enjoy yourself.

Best advice I can give but given my relationship history...

RLP said:
I'm sorry Shambles but WTF.

It doesn't matter if she wants you to fucking fight for her, if she's salivating over meathead who she doesn't find attractive just because he has a meatcock and tells this you to your face then she deserves to be set on fucking fire.

What good would she be to you anyway with a gaping chasm for a vagina?

Fuck that. You got out. Thank god. What a waste of life being with her would be.
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I'm not gonna take that personally as I gave scant details and obviously heavily biased to my perspective. You are wrong though. You just are. However, I totally see where you're coming from. In hindsight, yes, she was my fiancé but we would not a good marriage make. I "tamed her" to a great degree but man was she wild. Roma gal. Full-blood gypsy. As you can possibly imagine, she took no shit and gave plenty. I like to think I rose above that for the most part. But I didn't. I rolled over. Which is why we ain't together any more.

But please, judge away but don't presume your judgements have any bearing on reality cos ya just don't know.

And for the record, her pussy was so tight it'd snap yer cock off if she didn't want you in there. She fukked like an angel... and acted like a whore. Who hasn't though? I certainly ain't innocent enough to go casting aspersions. I've cheated. I've lied. Not to quite that extent and I did get a grip on myself (fnarr) and (hopefully) am long past such shenanigans. But the old saying is true: Walk a mile...

She was a wonderful woman. I fukkin proposed to her... actually, no, it was the other way round. But I did accept. And would've happily gone through with it. Love is blind, Squirely one. If you really think a few spare cocks get in the way you've never been in love... Or you've always had more self-respect than me. Perhaps both ;)

Either way. I have a number of exes but only one ex-fiance. I may be a mug but I'm not a bellend. There were good reasons for our relationship. I can hardly go explain the whole thing here and now can I? Of course y'all're getting a deeply biased (although admittedly factual :\) version of things.

Go fuck a stoat, Squirrel Boy :p;)<3
 
Mental Kenny said:
girls you pull on nights out sometimes her lady parts smell like the club's restroom, her breath tastes like an ashtray and booze and she could even be incompentent and boring in the sack.
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Just get down to tummy level and if it smells like a trawler you stop right there, after that she should only be allowed to suck ya knob and serve as a receiver of the battering ram ;).
 
I find it really fucking difficult to pull girls when I've just come out of a relationship. Idk, I think when I'm still torn up about it I come across a certain way that girls don't like. I dunno. A month or two after I can pull pretty easily, but those first few weeks when I really need just a cheap, confidence boosting one night stand I can't get shit.

Also I always seem to get attention when I'm taken and aren't looking. It's weird, when I know I have someone girls quite often come up to me without me even instigating anything, sometimes girls who I considered out of my league too. Yet when I'm recently single, the club were I once felt so familiar becomes this terrifying place, full of laughing cackling drunk harlot women who only want to destroy me, girls who I would've previously thought were a bit average at best suddenly become these unattainable angels of perfection.
 
Take time away from women to makes plans about what you want to do. Find new hobbies, go some new places, whatever.

Women come and go and aren't the be and end all. Is a cheap, quick shag gonna help you out long run? Probably not. It's OK to hurt after a breakup, but use it as a platform to build something better.
 
missmeyet? said:
Or...maybe you when drugs are interfering with your personal relationships then it is time to re-evaluate things...
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Well, maybe, it's not been indicated that ill-conceived comedown-related communications are a regular occurrence or somehow problematic, for all we know it was a one off, and if it's a one-off it's hardly crystal clear that drugs are the "problem".

Drugs are not the only factor, they are one amongst several, another factor is the lady's reaction to the situation.
 
knock said:
Well, maybe, it's not been indicated that ill-conceived comedown-related communications are a regular occurrence or somehow problematic, for all we know it was a one off, and if it's a one-off it's hardly crystal clear that drugs are the "problem".

Drugs are not the only factor, they are one amongst several, another factor is the lady's reaction to the situation.
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You are absolutely right..(too many drugs for me today too!). By no means was it my intention to sound condescending though upon re-reading the post it did come across that way somewhat. My apologies...8)
 
Here is but one tiny little example of the disconnect between the sexes.

Rewind back to your childhood, and the traumatic experience of a haircut -- either done by your mother, possibly with the aid of a pudding basin, or being dragged to the barber's shop. And the stick you invariably got from your mates for days afterward was like reliving those agonising minutes in the chair. Just for having a haircut. As a boy, one of the things you learn is that the kindest thing that you can do to someone who has had a haircut, is ignore it and say nothing -- but sometimes, this is not an option, and you must join in with picking on an even weaker boy in order to avoid becoming the target yourself. Even although it hurts you to do it because as a victim of teasing yourself, you are 100% aware of how he must be feeling. But this is outweighed by the sheer relief of knowing that this time at least, you aren't on the receiving end of it.

By the time your body's chemical works have come fully online, this has got so ingrained into you that you just don't know any other way to behave. And when your missus has been to the hairdresser, you -- knowing no better, for this is what you learned at the most teachable stage of your life -- feel you can safely ignore it, as there is no-one else to pick on you for some perceived weakness. This does not match what she learned, at the other end of the playground, where a haircut was generally perceived as a positive thing.

If we kept blue-eyed and brown-eyed children apart from birth onwards (maybe even before, subject to the development of reliable in utero eye colour testing), eventually differences would begin to become apparent and eventually increase in severity. And the differences would undoubtedly be believed to originate from some biological fact associated with eye pigmentation rather than the diametrically-opposed childhood socialisation received by both groups.
 
^You were mocked when getting haircuts as a kid? Quite the contrary for me, when somebody got a new haircut, the next day in school if we made any comments it was usually compliments, always had friends and school mates say positive things when cutting or restyling my hair. Don't recall any instances when kids in my class or social group were picked on for having cut their hair.

I guess this is more of an issue with the particular social group you grew up in rather than a gender issue, I mean women usually comment negatively on each other's appearance a lot more than males do, a lot more

Girls in school and at offices I've worked in were usually very vocal in making negative remarks about each other's choice of clothing, hairstyles or make-up.
 
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Haircuts were never exactly lauded at my school either, and I don't think Julie and I went to the same school. Maybe it's a UK thing, perhaps a UK working class thing. Our chimney sweep forefathers didn't have much chance to pride themselves on their coiffure (see it's you Romance continental types that gaze in the mirror all day).
 
It just seems weird, seriously when I grew up I remember being complimented most of the times and making positive remarks myself when somebody cut their hair, maybe it's just you lot being assholes to each other more. I mean the only times I've had stones thrown at me was in the UK by local schoolboys, same thing with chips and other stuff. There's a lot more youth violence as well in UK schools I believe.
 
haha nah I defeintly remember people getting the piss taken out of them when they got a new haircut. I dyed my hair black once (in a school that was 90% 'chavs') and when I first walked onto the playground was literally like I had leprosy or something. Everybody, i'm not even exaggarting much here, just stopped what they were doing and started at me.

So glad to be out of school, had some fun times but most of it was shit.
 
RLP said:
Take time away from women to makes plans about what you want to do. Find new hobbies, go some new places, whatever.

Women come and go and aren't the be and end all. Is a cheap, quick shag gonna help you out long run? Probably not. It's OK to hurt after a breakup, but use it as a platform to build something better.
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Truthsquirrel.
 
Ismene said:
If she doesn't do drugs, cut her loose. The last thing you need on a sunny saturday afternoon when you're settling down with a refreshing glass of oral DMT and moclobemide is a lady saying she wants to go out somewhere.
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You should walk around with one of those signs that hang over your sholders saying PHARMAHUASCA is massive rainbow letters on it. =D
 
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