I still have a hard time believing that a girl would tell a guy he was "too nice". It doesn't make sense. (But then women often don't.) 8(
People in general don't make sense but yeah, the "too nice" thing is a bit of a headscratcher at times
Thought more about this last night actually and recalled an incident that maybe goes some way to explaining what I meant? Or, more to the point, what she (generic 'she' as it applies to several) seem to have meant. The person in this case would be my ex-fiancé. We were together for ~5y altogether but the "too nice" thing cropped up a number of times along the way. She could (or would) never put into words what exactly the problem was but one particular incident speaks volumes to me...
Incident in question involved me getting into a jealous rage over an ongoing "thing" she had with some fukkin meathead. Purely down to his particular biological make-up apparently. She didn't like him. Had no interest in spending time with him (aside from fukking anyway) and made it abundantly clear to me that this was happening purely because I was "too nice" and he was hung like a donkey so she wanted his cock for curiosity value. I could even have (
extremely grudgingly) accepted that, I guess. Which I think was the problem. In my mind this was a purely physical thing - and a very specific one at that. She didn't find him especially attractive but he had a 12"+cock that was "as thick as a coke can" (yes, she was very detailed in her descriptions
). I could actually see that. Novelty. You don't see one of those very often so I can totally understand the curiosity. If she'd done it then left it I could've forgiven and forgotten... well... sort of... probably.
But that isn't all it was. Took me a while to realise that she was - in her own, frankly kinda twisted, way - crying out for help in a sense. She wanted me to stand up for myself and not accept, forgive or forget. Basically, to fight for her. Which did eventually happen when she'd been at it for a couple weeks despite the shitstorm it caused (and it did no matter how passive I'm making myself out to be). But I was kinda passive. I didn't blame her I blamed him. She was beloved to me so she got a free pass. He was a moron. A moron with a big dick. A 6'8" moron with a big dick. A muscular, 6'8"moron with a big dick. It's not that I'm a complete pussy but fuck... did she want me a dead man?!?
Apparently so. I eventually (after a couple weeks) kicked his door down and called him out in rather dramatic stylee. Got the absolute living shit kicked out of me as a result. But man was I popular for a while there. Nearly brought us back on track. Nearly. We lasted another year or so but I'm just not an aggressive fella. I take things like that personally. I blame me (and "him") but never her. I just presume I'm not good enough if she feels the need to look elsewhere. But I did get a glimpse into her psychology that night. She just wanted to be fought over. Make her feel extra special. Cos sometimes it's really not enough to say it or demonstrate it in other ways. Women can be brutal and they tend to go in for bloodsports
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(ime, imo, ymmv, etc, etc)
Bleh. Rambling again.
As far as the OP goes, I'm also gonna agree with Raas that the attitude towards women displayed is one that frankly deserves being dumped at regular intervals. Then again, it doesn't work out so great for those of us nearer the other extreme. People - and specifically the sex that interests you - are complex beasts who make little to no sense to us sane folk
And I dunno, if you're being called "too nice" then I suspect you might need to act a bit more confident/enthusiastic around girlies. But then I've never met you so it's hard to speculate what you're like IRL. I very much doubt you could actually become a twat, though.
