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just been dumped

hexagram

hexagram

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seemingly out of nowhere. Fuck it man.

Last time I saw her I had a go at her about pointless shit because I was on a brutal comedown and hadn't slept for days. It took me a few days to realize that I don't actually give a shit about anything I thought I did at the time, but before I could even show her that she fucking dumps me. Waited all summer and turned down better looking girls than her for this shit. Fuck it all. Gonna get majorly drunk and eat some etiz now.

and I know this htread is probably pointless and will get trolled to shit but i'm already drunk and I don't care.
 
d/w i'll still be careful with the etiz but this seriously isn't fair man
 
Don't worry, thar be plenty more ladies in the sea for you. Probably more attractive ones too, given what you've said. Chin up fella.
 
just sucks. She doesn't do drugs and doesn't understand that when your coming down from MDMA and Meph you can get emotional about shit that you later realize you don't care about.

being judged on your actions when your on a brutal comedown and haven't slept properly for days fucking sucks and is totally unfair. Not even being given a chance to show that I don't actually care about anything I said is even worse.

I get that I acted like a twat, but I was starved of serotonin, drunk, on etiz and hadn't slept properly in days. In short, I wasn't my fucking self. I realized after an acid trip on Sunday that I didn't actually give a shit about anything I thought I did but I wasn't even given the chance to show that, after waiting all summer for someone and turning down other girls for them. Fuck that man, that's not fair.

Was going to lay off the Mephedrone and etiz which was sending me funny as well.
 
Make sure you are careful mate, i'd avoid the drink if poss, esp miixed with etiz could easily end up waking up with a lot of calls and texts that you have no memory of. Breakups hurt when you care, which is sounds like you do, all i can give you is cliches, time heals n all that (which it does). Oh and be fucking careful with the drugs!
 
RLP said:
Don't worry, thar be plenty more ladies in the sea for you.
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That's where ladies belong after all. In the fucking sea. Heartless bitches.

I feel for you, hexagram. Try not to let it crush you if you can. There are thousands more poisonous harpies out there for you to meet and subsequently regret ever meeting. Things will be okay.
 
Go for a more mature woman. They've seen it all, done it all, and will therefore put up with your comedown shenanigans.
 
I actively avoid women, since I realized that I can easily go without sex for long stretches of time or at least without a regular sex life, being content with the occasional shag on holiday, I completely re-calibrated the importance women have.

I guess I grew up as the sort of pathetic beta, putting pussy on a pedestal, it's inevitable growing up in Italy as Italians are one of the most pussy-whipped people on the planet, it's so normal for blokes to be orbiters here, floating around some undeserving woman, paying way too much attention to her, doing anything she says, even changing the way you behave or look just to please her.

In all honesty the thing that healed me was having a black flatmate in London, okay sorry for mentioning his ethnic background, but I do believe it's relevant as I've seen a behavioural pattern, witnessing how he interacted with women was an eye opener, he was more than the quintessential alpha male, fascinating how his attitude was completely natural too not forced or learned.

In uni I used to have flings and one night stands, but since then my social life has tamed down a lot and I've also lost the urge, I mean until my mid-twenties I still had a fairly strong drive, now I'm much more calm, don't really have a desire for sex on a regular basis.

I really do think that women are much more of a hassle than they're actually worth, much more, it's okay to go after them if you're young and horny but really wasting your time trying to pull or even trying to make relationships work is not really worth it.

I absolutely hate dating, I still remember the first time I've used a pro, thinking hey I just spent a fair bit of cash but it's pretty much the same as dinner for two with that girl from the office, no drama, no gossip, no problems. The best thing about it is that the sex was great too and she had skills, usually one night stands are terrible when it comes to the actual sex, good for validation but not much more, girls you pull on nights out sometimes her lady parts smell like the club's restroom, her breath tastes like an ashtray and booze and she could even be incompentent and boring in the sack. Anyway most girls I've had ONS with were trashier than actual pros.
 
Heh. =D Nah, I put up with a fair amount of crap. Or possibly I'm just very tolerant/patient.

But hexagram, what others have said.. plenty more fish in the sea, etc. Just don't go overboard with the booze and etiz.

(Er. That wasn't meant to sound quite so nautical..)
 
Oddly enough I was thinking back over the various times I've been dumped whilst on the train earlier. Not gonna say much about your situation cos I don't know it and could only hear your side of it at best anyway. As such, will just waft platitudes about fishes and seas and stuffs and thats your way. You know the score I'm sure ;)

The thing I garnered from my previous relationship-based navel-gazing was that I need to be more of a twat. More of an arse. A bellend. An utter scumfuck. This goes completely against everything I believe in and stand for but I guess I don't get to make the rules so is not my call :\

What the fuck is that female "Too nice" thing?!? Does my bastard tits in. I wouldn't mind if it were but one of many complaints but, no, it's the only complaint. Which got me thinking...

Of all my exes (and there haven't been that many but enough to see patterns develop) I only recall one reason given for breaking up (I should probably point out I've always been on the receiving end - I've never been the breaker-upperer) is that I'm "Too nice" which inevitably comes with the side-order of "I'll never be good enough for you; I'm only gonna hurt you".

On the surface this seems very reasonable - decent even. But all it actually says is "I fancy someone else. I would just shag him but you actually are quite nice so I'm gonna skirt the issue and say summat soothing instead rather than just do it behind yer back". Have tried to find some other meaning to it but really can't. These things happen and are always gonna hurt so I appreciate the (relatively) gentle let-down but it's happened so often (literally all of my longterm(ish) ladyfriends) that it kinda leaves a boy hopeless :\

The obvious answer is to try to become a twat... I'm just not though. So am doomed to a life alone or - at best - a "Ah well, I suppose she'll do..." relationship if I'm lucky. Why is it that all the good ones seem to crave abuse?

*ahem*

Apologies. Of no relevance to anything. Just happened to coincide with prior personal ponderings is all. Fish. Sea. As you were.
 
Fuck em numb your senses (safely as you see fit) and eventually it will be alot better.......but if you go out with a "straight head" the only options are to take a lot less (on the sly) or join then in their straight lifestyle unless you try both ways how will you ever know if it could of been good.....fuck me even I would give up any drugs I was on for my perfect relationship..... if she wasn't as I said above FUCK EM..........stay safe:):)
 
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