Girl in College Class -- Help!

[Pretty_Diamonds]

^^it wasnt to go see a movie, that shit was in theaters awhile ago

it was to come over n get stoned n watch it (just to be clear cuz lysis kept sayin like i was tryin to take her to a movie n said something bout stringin things on so long you lose interest but this has all happened within like the last 5 weeks, class started at the middle/end of january), i dunno maybe that makes a difference, so im just puttin it out there

Have you hung out with her before? If you only hug out with her a few times, definitely--DON'T invite her to your house to watch a movie. That just sounds like you wanna bone. Super uncomfortable unless you guys are more comfortable with each other. You want to do more fun, active things. Keep it interesting. But like I said before, just back off. There are more fishes in the sea and next time, you know to not be so needy or desperate sounding.

 

[dopemaster]

I dont think you have officially asked her out. So thats why she might seem coy. I bet if you said would you like to go (movie, grab a drink, any date activity) at a certain time she would say yes. If you think she is a slut invite her to your house to watch movies and smoke pot at a certain time. You could be like what are you doing after class. If she doesnt say she is hanging out with her boyfried ask her if she would like to come over to your place and watch some movies and smoke some weed. If shes smoking your pot its a date and you are free to make a sexual move. But yeah in her mind shes thinking "why hasnt he asked me out, maybe he doesnt date much or hes afraid of the pussy". Im not trying to be rude but thats how women think. I know this cuz ive done the whole lets hang out sometime and gotten the number and it never went anywhere till I got direct. Later on I asked the woman as to why it took so long and she basically said it took forever for me to actually ask her out.

 

[soundsystem00]

Have you hung out with her before? If you only hug out with her a few times, definitely--DON'T invite her to your house to watch a movie. That just sounds like you wanna bone. Super uncomfortable unless you guys are more comfortable with each other. You want to do more fun, active things. Keep it interesting. But like I said before, just back off. There are more fishes in the sea and next time, you know to not be so needy or desperate sounding.

Nice advice.

And hey, I was also going to say, don't smoke weed with her. Especially if you don't know her well yet. Quick way to get friend zoned.

 

[HighonLife]

I dont think you have officially asked her out. So thats why she might seem coy. I bet if you said would you like to go (movie, grab a drink, any date activity) at a certain time she would say yes. If you think she is a slut invite her to your house to watch movies and smoke pot at a certain time. .

no, i dont think she is a slut, i certainly hope she didnt take it that way, oh well i dunno, today is class day so ill be seein her this afternoon. honestly tho i prob wont attempt anything cuz ive pretty much given up, in my mind ive let it be known im interested and so the ball is in her court im not goin outta my way to make anythin happen anymore

anyways i appreciate yalls advice n takin the time to give me a few pointers n other peoples perspectives cuz i do at times forget not everyone sees the world and situations the way i do

 

[HighonLife]

well in case anyone cared

as it turns out she's gay.

i def considered the possiility of her just sayin that to let me down easy but im pretty certain she was bein honest, i dont feel like typin it all out but if anyone cares to ask ill indulge em but i dont really feel like puttin up the exact same post as i did in the social

anyways, guess ill chalk it up to another one in the L (loss not lesbian ) column

 

[Lysis]

^I don't think it's mindfucks necessarily, it's just kind of the way it is....It's just a little game everybody plays...

Weeds out the losers too.

 

[Lysis]

well in case anyone cared

as it turns out she's gay.

i def considered the possiility of her just sayin that to let me down easy but im pretty certain she was bein honest, i dont feel like typin it all out but if anyone cares to ask ill indulge em but i dont really feel like puttin up the exact same post as i did in the social

anyways, guess ill chalk it up to another one in the L (loss not lesbian ) column

ah! Didn't expect that one! Kinda misread that one, eh? It happens. All part of the learning process.

 

[HighonLife]

^^eh, i think lots of people would misread her but maybe not maybe its just me, oh well tho

 

[BlueHues]

Weeds out the losers too.

Hah...yeah, for girls I guess it could be kind of considered like a "stalker test" or something! If you don't respond immediately to a guys text and he freaks out, you kind of know its time to move on! I guess girls can be "stalkers" too though....never happened to me though..... Harassed? maybe....stalked? no

 

[Lysis]

Hah...yeah, for girls I guess it could be kind of considered like a "stalker test" or something! If you don't respond immediately to a guys text and he freaks out, you kind of know its time to move on! I guess girls can be "stalkers" too though....never happened to me though..... Harassed? maybe....stalked? no

lol I don't even really do it on purpose. I just ignore most people in general, and men who like the challenge will continue to approach me even when I give them the "meh" response. Some men actually do like the challenge too.

One of waao and my ongoing jokes between each other is that I ignored him for 3 years, which is true and it makes me laugh to think about it all now. He's definitely not a loser whatsoever.

He told me that I would blow him off all the time in PMs, so I went back and read them and yep, I sure did. haha

I don't think women do it on purpose all the time. At least I don't. I'm a relationship type of girl, and lots of times men are just swinging at the fences to get laid and that's not me. I know I can't be the only one who is like that, so I really don't think "the chase" is always on purpose but rather we assume that the guy is just looking to get laid and we're not interested.

 

[dopemaster]

I had a woman told me she liked to be chased. I chased her and we hooked up. We dated for about 6 months. She was a bit off though. Maybe she was bipolar. She was chill as hell sometimes and some days she was just so agitated. It was just like nothing was good enough for her. Like not me, but this beer tastes funny, this movie sucks, my parents are so mean, and then its like "what the fuck are you so relaxed about, where the fuck do you get off just chilling when im freaking out here". Im kinda going off on a tangent.

 

[Lost Ego]

Talk to her more. Get her number. I'd say something direct like "you know what? i think you're gorgeous and i'd love it if you'd join me for a [insert fun event/chill date]" *take out phone and hand it to her* "why don't you give me your number?" > text her > court her > date her > fuck her > post results.

 

[Pagey]

Any update OP?

I had a woman told me she liked to be chased.

Then again, don't most people like to be chased? To a certain extent obviously, but anyone would feel good about the fact that someone's interested enough to keep at it. Seems like a natural reaction.
Bear in mind this doesn't mean you should continue months after the girl's given you a very clear 'no' several times...that happens a bit too often

 

[dopemaster]

That wasnt my case in that situation. It was just a comment she made when I was seeing her. Yeah it is lame when people dont want to take no for an answer. But in the defense of men in general, sometimes women lead guys on. I try to avoid women as such like the plague. If a clear no is given than the other person should respect that. It can also happen to a guy where a woman wont want to take no for an answer.