I think its both born in and learned. I've always been able to approach others. also my personality allows a larger array of pick up tactics depending on what mood I'm in. I can be straight up charming, sweet, caring, and chivalrous (I'm one of the guys who tells a girl she's beautiful) but I can also crack crude disgusting jokes but my delivery and timing makes it appropriate and a good ice breaker. its about being able to work with what you have and KNOWING what you have. so do I consider myself alpha? no, because that implies superiority over others. but am I a good guy who does well with the ladies? you bet your sexy tight little ass I am. I know my strengths and weaknesses, and treat the situation like a game with no real penalty for losing: best case- I get a chicks number or a hookup, etc. worst case- I get a cool chick I get to hangout with whenever I see her.