Single? For how long?

[Serotonin101]

Yeah, because you're more experienced with talking to women, and older men have more charisma usually. Just like 16 year old girl, 18 year old dudes are annoying.

Although, I always do enjoy teasing the interns. lol

I would love to be an intern at your workplace

 

[Ein-2765]

Nearly 21 and never been anything but single. Never had sex, either.

Part of it is by choice. I want a relationship, and I only want to sleep with someone that I'll be with for the foreseeable future (I won't have sex with someone that I know I'll leave eventually), so I'm holding out until I find someone I can love. I'm not a "sow your wild oats" type person. Ideally, I'll only have one sexual partner my entire life (however naive and unrealistic that may be).

The other part of it is my lifestyle. I work from home and have no social life, so that makes it hard to meet people. I also know that having no car and no disposable income is less than appealing to a potential girlfriend.

Plus, I just don't know if I have what it takes to make a relationship work. I'm used to being entirely on my own, doing things the way I want to, and having "me" time 24/7 all year long. It would probably take a good amount of time for me to adjust to sharing my life with someone, no matter how appealing that might sound in theory.

So anyways, while I'm not "happy" per se, I am content.

 

[lola]

I've recently (a few weeks ago) found myself single again at the tender age of 33... which got me thinking that I've rarely been single since my first serious relationship at 19: 5 years, then nearly straight into another one for 2 years or so, then 4.5 years live-in relationship, then just over 2 years with current ex... fuck, it's been non-stop with maybe 3 months break at most for the last 13 years!!

So now I'm single - without giving up on the fun kinky hot sex; my last relationship was open and BDSMish, and now, having combined existing lovers and new catches from OKC I have about 4 lovers: one who's great with bondage, one who cooks for me and looks after me, one who's just a filthy "mean" dom, one who's also dom but a friend as well. I also have about 5 more men shortlisted and ready to be interviewed they're all going to be play partners/fwb though - I think that emotionally I always get into very intense situations very quickly, so I'm seriously watching myself and staying very level headed about it all.

I'm in an emotionally demanding job where I need to be there for other people, I have bought my own flat recently and I've also gone freelance and found myself doing really well in my career! So all good stuff; will aim to be single for at least a year to learn to know myself a bit better. But ain't no way I'm giving up on sex

 

[rangrz]

one who's just a filthy "mean" dom

I'm fucking with someone who appears to be exactly that on OKC. He messaged Ms.G and so I messaged him. I just don't like his arrogant, self righteous profile. So, I'm hoping to bait him into something where he'll find that maybe this "sub" has no qualms what so ever about giving this "Master" a vicious, Rodney King style beating for nothing more than my own amusement and his narcissistic profile. (He goes own about his money and blah blah blah I'm the ultimate man and I'll keep you in the kitchen like you belong, little girl)

I really, REALLY enjoy fucking someone's whole world up when they're that kind of person. It's truly transcendent.

 

[lola]

(He goes own about his money and blah blah blah I'm the ultimate man and I'll keep you in the kitchen like you belong, little girl)

Jeez, noooo ain't no one like that going anywhere near me!! My "filthy" dom is a fully respectful, gentlemanly PhD student who works for an organisation which specialises in empowering people in developing countries, especially African and south-east Asian women. He is incredibly respectful and a feminist... and , like me, he gets off on some degradation and power exchange in a safe, boundaried context (I switch but prefer to be sub). BDSM IS ONLY FUN IF IT'S PLAY!!!

 

[Psychlone Jack]

I haven't been in a relationship in a few years, about five actually. Had some *activity* since then, but I gotta admit, I'm long overdue for some play.

I actually met a girl today who was clearly interested, laying it on hardcore with the flirtation, BUT... I met her at the psychiatrist.

She also happened to be accompanied by her older brother, a patient there too no less. Way too many potential problems with that scenario, so as the sublime song goes- "I just let her pass by..."

 

[Illyria99]

It's been a few years for me...and while I don't mind fucking, I get paranoid when a guy wants to take it to the next level. I'm really selfish and untrustworthy...I don't like compromising with anyone, and I don't like any kind of restrictions put on my life. I don't like being asked, "Where have you been?" and the thought of being sexually faithful to anyone for longer than a month makes me jumpy. I attract weak men for some reason.

I haven't met my "dream" guy yet. If he exists, I could be faithful to him.

 

[hyroller]

Been single since June of last year, when the ex fiance took off and we unceremoniously ended up parting ways.

Longest stretch of being single I've had in the past was 3.5 years. Could easily see myself equaling or exceeding this timeframe during this stretch.

Ho hum!

 

[Pagey]

I haven't been in a relationship in a few years, about five actually. Had some *activity* since then, but I gotta admit, I'm long overdue for some play.

I actually met a girl today who was clearly interested, laying it on hardcore with the flirtation, BUT... I met her at the psychiatrist.

She also happened to be accompanied by her older brother, a patient there too no less. Way too many potential problems with that scenario, so as the sublime song goes- "I just let her pass by..."

Yeah that was probably smart.

 

[MyFinalRest]

It's been a few years for me...and while I don't mind fucking, I get paranoid when a guy wants to take it to the next level. I'm really selfish and untrustworthy...I don't like compromising with anyone, and I don't like any kind of restrictions put on my life. I don't like being asked, "Where have you been?" and the thought of being sexually faithful to anyone for longer than a month makes me jumpy. I attract weak men for some reason.

I haven't met my "dream" guy yet. If he exists, I could be faithful to him.

I will never understand women like this...and it seems like I meet lots of them too. Must be the trendy thing...commitment issues and waiting for this "dream guy" that they know will never exist.

on another note,
It seems like people treat you like shit for being single, and then treat you even worse for wanting a gf...it's like a catch 22. It's like you need a "trophy gf" to be normal and "prove" to everyone your not gay so you can spend all your time having bromance while the girls go off in some room by themselves and endlessly gripe about how their men "just aren't that into them." Seems like everybody's lovin' it but me!

Looks like I've got good chances of being single for a while. Even when I am dating someone nowadays, it feels just like being single and cheated.

 

[Mr.Scagnattie]

After this past fuck up with my girl, I seriously thought I was going to be single again but.. things are ironically better than ever now. How did a piece of shit like me ever get so lucky? Haha

 

[Lysis]

Awww mr scagnattie, maybe you really aren't a piece of shit.

MFR, I get shit on here for being conservative and having high standards. It doesn't really bother me tbh. I think there is a difference between wanting a relationship and seeming desperate. Sometimes people cross that line and maybe they don't realize it. There isn't anything wrong with wanting a GF. It's very hard to find a GF vs a chick you can hang out with for a night and can't see anything longterm.

Just be cool and stick to what you want but understand that people aren't perfect. There is likely going to be a compromise somewhere.

 

[Mr.Scagnattie]

Awww mr scagnattie, maybe you really aren't a piece of shit.

Haha. Thanks Lysis.

 

[Illyria99]

I will never understand women like this...and it seems like I meet lots of them too. Must be the trendy thing...commitment issues and waiting for this "dream guy" that they know will never exist.

There's nothing trendy about it. It's just that too many guys lie about every single fucking thing, and a lot of women are tired of that shit. Therefore, fucking while one is not in a "relationship" proves less troublesome much of the time.

 

[rangrz]

Jeez, noooo ain't no one like that going anywhere near me!! My "filthy" dom is a fully respectful, gentlemanly PhD student who works for an organisation which specialises in empowering people in developing countries, especially African and south-east Asian women. He is incredibly respectful and a feminist... and , like me, he gets off on some degradation and power exchange in a safe, boundaried context (I switch but prefer to be sub). BDSM IS ONLY FUN IF IT'S PLAY!!!

Hmm, I dunno...I think it's that in my own experience, I've found A LOT of male doms to be rather misogynist or otherwise caught up in a way of thinking and acting that seems to try to and project their kink preference as being the only "right" way to do D/s and to project it in a way that implies their sub partner is, as a human, lower, less valuable, not as smart, not as capable, etc. Whereas I've never had had a female domme act like that or express views of the sort "You should quit the armed forces and quit your studies and stay at home naked all day to be fuck toy and domestic labourer."

 

[IntimacyAddict]

MFR, I get shit on here for being conservative and having high standards. It doesn't really bother me tbh. I think there is a difference between wanting a relationship and seeming desperate. Sometimes people cross that line and maybe they don't realize it. There isn't anything wrong with wanting a GF. It's very hard to find a GF vs a chick you can hang out with for a night and can't see anything longterm.

Just be cool and stick to what you want but understand that people aren't perfect. There is likely going to be a compromise somewhere.

There's nothing trendy about it. It's just that too many guys lie about every single fucking thing, and a lot of women are tired of that shit. Therefore, fucking while one is not in a "relationship" proves less troublesome much of the time.

For what it's worth, I totally agree with both of these comments.

Ironically I'm trying to find a regular GF and as I'm honest and upfront about everything I seem to meet lots of women that respond to that in a positive way, but still can't seem to get beyond a fwb, finding sex is easy, finding a stable relationship is something else.

 

[Namhe]

I've recently (a few weeks ago) found myself single again at the tender age of 33... which got me thinking that I've rarely been single since my first serious relationship at 19: 5 years, then nearly straight into another one for 2 years or so, then 4.5 years live-in relationship, then just over 2 years with current ex... fuck, it's been non-stop with maybe 3 months break at most for the last 13 years!!

So now I'm single - without giving up on the fun kinky hot sex; my last relationship was open and BDSMish, and now, having combined existing lovers and new catches from OKC I have about 4 lovers: one who's great with bondage, one who cooks for me and looks after me, one who's just a filthy "mean" dom, one who's also dom but a friend as well. I also have about 5 more men shortlisted and ready to be interviewed they're all going to be play partners/fwb though - I think that emotionally I always get into very intense situations very quickly, so I'm seriously watching myself and staying very level headed about it all.

I'm in an emotionally demanding job where I need to be there for other people, I have bought my own flat recently and I've also gone freelance and found myself doing really well in my career! So all good stuff; will aim to be single for at least a year to learn to know myself a bit better. But ain't no way I'm giving up on sex

I could use some tips from you, lola!

 

[Namhe]

It's a few months now that I'm single and I want it that way. however, this erotic beast needs skin to skin contact and throes of passion. I could look into dating sites, I guess.. scary venture....

 

[neversickanymore]

I've been single for many years in a row... loved it that way until I met my girlfriend a couple months ago and she just completely spun my world around on its axis.

Funny how that goes

haven't really thought about this... haven't been able to remain single for a while, though have managed initial relations with distance involved.. tho the gap closed quick , a long string of highly varied relationships, hmmm, all healthy and strong, one really strong with a difficult end. edit: its been 14 years with a couple months total single but a;ll others were in daily contact with intimate or future intimate partner.

 

[MyFinalRest]

There's nothing trendy about it. It's just that too many guys lie about every single fucking thing, and a lot of women are tired of that shit. Therefore, fucking while one is not in a "relationship" proves less troublesome much of the time.

You shouldn't give these liars and creeps your sex either. There are nice people out there, but you and I will never meet them if we keep settling for the same shallow experiences with the same shady fuckers.