Captain.Heroin
Bluelight Crew
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Admit something v. Sex, Lies and Videotape edition
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^ lol!
rangrz
Bluelighter
lysis said:
Well, I'm being straight up with you Lysis. Like, I'm on the internet, on a drug website, and I think my track record in SLR seems to indicate I'm not the kind to give lines about sex and romance. (I mean seriously, I've admitted to all sorts of bizarre fetishes and morally dubious activities) and like, even if the chick is hot, there have been reasons why I've declined. Maybe she is emotionally/intellectually unappealing...like I've had very hot but dumb as a rock girls try to pick me up many times. I just don't want, I find it SO off-putting it's not even funny. Maybe she's been hot (in a general/objective/abstract sense) but not my type...I'm REALLY into cute, like small/thin/fine features/pale skin/etc...and personally don't find the typical pornstar or stripper type body very appealing. Many people do, but it's just really my thing. I've also been like too tired/busy/feeling sick/sad/depressed/angry to want to have sex, and turned people down cause of it. I've turned people down cause they don't sound fun in bed/compatible/don't wanna do what I'm in the mood for. Like, if they're too repressed or shy or not kinky, or they're really into a kink that incompatible with mine/the one I'm really in the headspace for...like if a submissive girl wants to play when I'm really not in the head-space to top/really just want to sub. Cause it would just end up being a shitty experience for both of us. I'd do a bad job of it and not get what I wanted, she'll not get a good scene, and then we'll both probably feel even worse cause she'll think she was bad at subbing or not hot, but I'll just be in my own head knowing I just did a bad job, and it's better if we just don't do it.
Then there is just like "Hmmm, do I really want to risk teh aids and teh heps and all that?"
pagey said:
Hmm...but who says they TRULY are unavailable...maybe his GF/Wife/Gay partner would be open to something...you never know...while fully open relationships are admittedly rare, it's not nearly as rare that there is some latitude to be involved with both them...threesomes, or even dating/seeing both of them in a relationship of sort... I've done a lot of that in my past, and like a lot of girls have been quite cool with it, but relatively fewer have been cool with me banging/dating any arbitrary girl I pick independent of her.
psytaco
Bluelighter
I admit not having sex in two months, and not having GOOD sex in six months.
I would just really like to have sex with someone I'm really attracted too and for it be good to amazing. But alas, it has been illusive as of late. To add matters worse I am stuck in a small town (like 2000 people) for the rest of the year. I have seen like 5 attractive girls since I have been here (for a month). Most people seem to be married here anyway.
I am starting to think that this year is going to be a very dry sex wise.
I would just really like to have sex with someone I'm really attracted too and for it be good to amazing. But alas, it has been illusive as of late. To add matters worse I am stuck in a small town (like 2000 people) for the rest of the year. I have seen like 5 attractive girls since I have been here (for a month). Most people seem to be married here anyway.
I am starting to think that this year is going to be a very dry sex wise.
Pagey
Bluelight Crew
True, true, I'll have to ask next time
I feel ya. I've been having sex regularly but for the most part it's been so shit that I haven't had worthwhile sex in like....8 months.
B1tO'RoughJack
Bluelighter
^yo that sucks.
After years of worthwhile/amazing sex intermingled into crappy or standard shagging, I decided that no sex is better than crap sex. I highly recommend it.
You can control how much you let them affect you though.
Attached people have that attractive thing going on because of simple instinct - you see that they are with someone, so they instantly aren't a massive creeper or a rapist or anything like that (unless they cover it well ha), this is an attractive quality. Like it's often a fair amount harder to pick someone up if you're going stag, or rolling with the lads, BUT if you go out with a gal, as I have a few times, then try and pick up a woman; the sheer fact you're with another female, who seems sane, speaks to women on a great level. It's analogous to the situation.
I generally don't go for attached birds - that's more drama than it's worth, but the woman I'm in love with just happens to be in a relationship at the moment - however I've felt this way for over 5 years, and she's had 2 bfs in that time.
I admit at the current time, my dick is chafed from 3 days of great sex. I actually had to say no a few hours ago, because it was too much. I will try again this eve, or tomorrow.
After years of worthwhile/amazing sex intermingled into crappy or standard shagging, I decided that no sex is better than crap sex. I highly recommend it.
You're dead right about not being able to control attractions
You can control how much you let them affect you though.
Attached people have that attractive thing going on because of simple instinct - you see that they are with someone, so they instantly aren't a massive creeper or a rapist or anything like that (unless they cover it well ha), this is an attractive quality. Like it's often a fair amount harder to pick someone up if you're going stag, or rolling with the lads, BUT if you go out with a gal, as I have a few times, then try and pick up a woman; the sheer fact you're with another female, who seems sane, speaks to women on a great level. It's analogous to the situation.
I generally don't go for attached birds - that's more drama than it's worth, but the woman I'm in love with just happens to be in a relationship at the moment - however I've felt this way for over 5 years, and she's had 2 bfs in that time.
I admit at the current time, my dick is chafed from 3 days of great sex. I actually had to say no a few hours ago, because it was too much. I will try again this eve, or tomorrow.
amanda_eats_pandas
Bluelighter
He's very gentlemanly, sweet, caring outside of the bedroom and it carries over into bed. I texted him yesterday and told him that he could be rougher in bed to which he responded that he had no idea he wasn't being rough. That boy's got a lot to learn haha.
rangrz
Bluelighter
Why don't *you* be rough then AEP, or if you are, do it more (either intensity or frequency) and he'll probably follow suit. Like, I think we all take cues from our partner and if our partner sets the tone in a certain direction, We'll (humans in general, not just men) will go with it and do what they're doing.
amanda_eats_pandas
Bluelighter
I've actually tried a bit in the past, he didn't seem to catch on though. But the more I think about it, the more I like the idea of me leading by example.
Hopefully I'll see him in March so I'll report back after that, can't wait.
Hopefully I'll see him in March so I'll report back after that, can't wait.
Sepher
Bluelight Crew
Oh yeah. Sometimes it's kind of a permission thing, I didn't know I could do that and it be OK, sometimes it's more wow, I never knew she'd be into that, happy days. Blokes can often be pretty dumb instruments, not always very good at reading subtle cues or acting on the ones they think they might have been given, subtlety's not always a strong point. Being direct and explicit about wants and needs very much the way forward though often difficult to broach the subject, especially when you've been with a partner a while and settled into a kind of routine, one or the other has to do something to shake things up a little. If the guy's backwards at coming forwards down to the girl to set the tone otherwise nothing changes. If it was me I'd be quite glad of the direction far as broadening the sexual repertoire is concerned, all well and good.
rangrz
Bluelighter
Ya, and trust me...it's SOOOO fucking sexy when the girl takes the lead, esp if she's the one who initiates the rougher, harder, more vigorous sex. Like, the night before last, my fiance just started banging me so hard and intensely and it was really, really, fucking hot.
@Sepher...Yeah, and it's not even always a permission thing...like, I'll ask a girl for consent/if she's into trying something if it's something I really want to do or think she would enjoy trying. But at the same time, if she is being really soft and cuddly and gentle, I'm going to do the same because I just presume that is the mood she in, and that's the kind of sex she wants at the moment. I like that kind of sex as much as I do rough sex, and I want her to enjoy herself, so I'll go with it. Ditto, if she's being rough, I'll get right into it and slap her ass, bite and pinch her nipples and set an anti-symmetrical thrusting pattern. If she is acting Dominant, I'll gladly sub to her (well ya, I do prefer to sub tbh) but if she's acting subby, I'll top. Etc But yes, lead by example and give your partner cues, and verbal feed back, is IMO the key to great sex.
Lysis
Bluelighter
Oh, I understand you ( I think?) rangrz. That's why I respect you. I think your post where you said if you liked a girl and gave her a graphing calculator to figure out if she was worthy of you was damn classic. LOL It was something like that, but I ROFL'd and just thought "oh rangrz." I think it's funny, because I know you're telling the truth.
^^ I'd give the chick an abacus and see if she can use it to balance my checkbook. if she knows how to use it, cha-ching, if she asks "Wtf is this?" out the door she goes. also she doesn't know my favorite neurotransmitter (should be obvious) or doesn't know what a neurotransmitter is, she's out the door as well.
rangrz
Bluelighter
lolz.Well, it's a good test...like yesterday, I was explaining/talking about the expectation value of the Hamiltonian operator in quantum field theory and how it ties into so-called "zero point" or "vacuum" energy and how it arises from uncertainty to Ms.G. Like daamn, I came a little.
But at the end of it, it looks like the girl with microscope and scalpel skills was the right choice... I'll have to teach her how to do linear algebra and tensor calculus sometime.
What would you use Lysis? I'm thinking you'd open a BASH prompt and ask him to compile and link his own kernel?
But at the end of it, it looks like the girl with microscope and scalpel skills was the right choice... I'll have to teach her how to do linear algebra and tensor calculus sometime.
What would you use Lysis? I'm thinking you'd open a BASH prompt and ask him to compile and link his own kernel?
its also a turn on when a chick knows proper injection technique (proper IV AND z-tracking for IM), knows what potentiation is, understands there are no "bases" in rolls, can roll a decent blunt, has a vocabulary at least comparable to myself, pronounces the "I" in words like "either, neither, missIle, projectIle,etc", texts with proper grammar, ah there's so many things.
rangrz
Bluelighter
Yes, it is really fucking hot to be engaged to a med student.
@Cheerio. But not everyone likes it rough it all the time... like just cause she does sometimes doesn't mean she does every time. So I just follow her lead during the act itself.
rangrz
Bluelighter
I'm not a homo hater and I'm still presuming the same property applies to men, as it at the very minimum, applies to myself.