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Single? For how long?

Pagey said:
^Yeah, I mean I dunno, since I got out of my last relationship last august I've slept with maybe 5 or 6 guys which would bring my total up to 7-8 and I don't consider myself a 'whore' at all... in fact I don't see any kind of problem with it and I don't see why it would make me any less of a good girlfriend.
It's just that when I'm single, I still want to have sex. What's wrong with that? :p
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No kidding, there is absolutely nothing wrong with that! And think about it - if this continues - the number would be quite a bit higher in a few years. Yet you're still a good person and you'd be a good girlfriend! A good girlfriend isn't directly correlated with how many people she's slept with. Far from the truth!
 
llama112 said:
No kidding, there is absolutely nothing wrong with that! And think about it - if this continues - the number would be quite a bit higher in a few years. Yet you're still a good person and you'd be a good girlfriend! A good girlfriend isn't directly correlated with how many people she's slept with. Far from the truth!
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Absolutely! Even what is considered quite high is relative to someone else's experience. I think the biggest concern is the fact that guys have created a reason to have to have this conversation at all.

Sometimes we wouldn't know a good thing if a good thing jumped up and bit us on our good thing.
 
Pagey said:
^Yeah, I mean I dunno, since I got out of my last relationship last august I've slept with maybe 5 or 6 guys which would bring my total up to 7-8 and I don't consider myself a 'whore' at all... in fact I don't see any kind of problem with it and I don't see why it would make me any less of a good girlfriend.
It's just that when I'm single, I still want to have sex. What's wrong with that? :p
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Nothing, a girl I was together with for a while was a real sex-freak and had probably had sex with 30 other guys at least before me. I didn't care, at least she knew what she wanted ;)

I am single now for 2 years, don't care much for sex either for the moment.
 
Never meant to imply having many sexual partners makes you a bad person. It just makes you not my type of person. Random sexual partners shows how you view sex, aka that it can be purely recreational and meaningless.

I think sex is always meaningful. Don't care if someone doesn't agree with that, I just won't be in a relationship with them
 
I agree sex is always meaningful but not all women that have many sexual partners are doing it because they want or set out with the intention of having random and meaningless sex. I've met women that have had many because they can't find a guy that will commit to a relationship with them after they've decided to have sex.

I've seen this come up on many forums yet it's rarely women concerned about how many partners the guy has had, it's nearly always the guy concerned about how many the girl has had with the assumption that she can only have accumulated that many partners because she is easy.

In my experience women generally are more concerned about the guy being monogamous and honest with them once they are in a relationship, not how many previous partners he's had. It's guys that seem preoccupied with previous partner numbers, I personally would find it denigrating to even ask my partner that sort of thing, it would be like a loaded question especially in light of this issue.
 
IntimacyAddict said:
Sometimes we wouldn't know a good thing if a good thing jumped up and bit us on our good thing.
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Well said =D


RedRum OG said:
Never meant to imply having many sexual partners makes you a bad person. It just makes you not my type of person. Random sexual partners shows how you view sex, aka that it can be purely recreational and meaningless.

I think sex is always meaningful. Don't care if someone doesn't agree with that, I just won't be in a relationship with them
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Not true. I don't view sex as purely recreational and meaningless.
When I'm in a relationship sex for me is one of the most basic ways to show how much you care about/love the other person. I consider it a very emotional thing. But when I'm single, I live under the basic assumption that sex makes you feel good. So why stop?

IntimacyAddict said:
I agree sex is always meaningful but not all women that have many sexual partners are doing it because they want or set out with the intention of having random and meaningless sex. I've met women that have had many because they can't find a guy that will commit to a relationship with them after they've decided to have sex.

I've seen this come up on many forums yet it's rarely women concerned about how many partners the guy has had, it's nearly always the guy concerned about how many the girl has had with the assumption that she can only have accumulated that many partners because she is easy.

In my experience women generally are more concerned about the guy being monogamous and honest with them once they are in a relationship, not how many previous partners he's had. It's guys that seem preoccupied with previous partner numbers, I personally would find it denigrating to even ask my partner that sort of thing, it would be like a loaded question especially in light of this issue.
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Yeah that's true too, was definitely the case with a couple guys for me...
Actually I just agree with everything you've said on the issue lol. I've yet to meet a girl concerned about the number of people her boyfriend has slept with, and yet on this forum alone it seems like it comes up every other day the other way round :\
 
^ Thanks Pagey

The other issue along these lines is that a lot of guys find women intimidating if their careers and/or incomes are greater then theirs.... geez c'mon guys get it together... it seems there are doctors, engineers, business owners, accountants etc that not only earn more than the average guy but also have had more sex partners than them - double whammy - so they are single?? How the hell does that work? Why do guys seem to need to be on top? Nothing wrong with coming second if she is coming first, so what if she has the experience to help you invest your lump sum or if her roll over plan is better than yours...Sorry enough puns :) There seems to be a select group of intelligent, experienced and wealthy women that are having trouble getting a real relationship due to their own success and experience, personally I find them both very attractive qualities... crazy world we live in.
 
IntimacyAddict said:
^ Thanks Pagey

The other issue along these lines is that a lot of guys find women intimidating if their careers and/or incomes are greater then theirs.... geez c'mon guys get it together... it seems there are doctors, engineers, business owners, accountants etc that not only earn more than the average guy but also have had more sex partners than them - double whammy - so they are single?? How the hell does that work? Why do guys seem to need to be on top? Nothing wrong with coming second if she is coming first, so what if she has the experience to help you invest your lump sum or if her roll over plan is better than yours...Sorry enough puns :) There seems to be a select group of intelligent, experienced and wealthy women that are having trouble getting a real relationship due to their own success and experience, personally I find them both very attractive qualities... crazy world we live in.
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Indeed, it seems like whether they want to or not, so many people (mostly subconsciously I'm sure) hold on to mysogynistic ideas of male superiority...but well, at least overall we're moving in the right direction when it comes to gender equality, albeit kinda slowly.

@TCMVegas + Lysis - I dunno, I'm not convinced an ugly girl could get laid whenever she wanted to, not to be mean. I mean when it comes to meaningless sex both men and women are pretty superficial, which seems rather normal tbh.
 
Pagey said:
@TCMVegas + Lysis - I dunno, I'm not convinced an ugly girl could get laid whenever she wanted to, not to be mean. I mean when it comes to meaningless sex both men and women are pretty superficial, which seems rather normal tbh.
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Sure she could. It's just she wouldn't be able to sit there and let them approach her OR she wouldn't be able to have her first pic. She might only be able to get that really drunk guy who no one will talk to. haha
 
There was a time during college when I was single for almost two years. I was still getting laid, but not in a committed relationship. It was probably the most fun time of my life, but having a steady "girlfriend" is also nice too. I've currently been single for about 3 weeks after my last relationship which lasted about 7-8 months.
 
It's been six years or so for me.

I don't have the energy, even if I do miss the feelings of intimacy and such.

The idea of having to watch movies together and deal with all the disagreements just makes me cringe.

I'm not sure i ever want a serious relationship again.
 
maan I can't remember what its like to be in a relationship at all ha. 2 years single
 
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