lars90
Bluelighter
We were gonna meet at my house with some other friends and then she said she ddint feel like it and is now not coming...
I feel like shit...
I feel like shit...
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Urgh. My girl freind says she doesnt feel like seeing me :(
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addictivepersona
Bluelight Crew
Meat = Something that you eat, usually the flesh of an animal.
Meet = When two or more people come together.
No offense meant. Knowledge is power. ;)
Meet = When two or more people come together.
No offense meant. Knowledge is power. ;)
Bagseed
Bluelighter
did she say she didn't feel like hanging out or that it is about you? i wouldn't worry that much. everyone needs time for themselves every now and then (;
lars90
Bluelighter
She deosnt feel like hanging out but jsut the other day she wqas ignoring me and going out of my way.
Lysis
Bluelighter
Is this a long distance thing lars? Do you guys see each other regularly? Don't fret. I need some space and time to myself sometimes. Maybe she is the same way. Doesn't mean anything, because I just want some alone time to myself.
lars90
Bluelighter
No we see each other every day. But once once or twice for like 5 minutes ....
addictivepersona
Bluelight Crew
^ Sounds like she just wants some "alone time". Give her space.
Lysis
Bluelighter
Yeah, lars90. Don't sweat it. For some people, constantly being around the same person all the time is just annoying. She might just be one of those people. I am like that, and I just need some time alone to think, enjoy my "me" time (like BL or whatever I'm into at the time) and just have some space. It reflects nothing on the other person. It really is the cliche "it's me" line.
lars90
Bluelighter
Technicly I havent seen her for like 2 or 3 weeks shes should ahve had plenty alone time ...
addictivepersona
Bluelight Crew
Lysis
Bluelighter
lol yeah, you said you see her every day.
Don't smother her. Being too clingy can be a turn off. She might be giving you a hint that she wants you to back off. Of course, we can only guess, but don't sweat it.
People are super predictable, but you have to get out of your own head and put yourself in the other person's shoes. I bet if you got out of the emotional state and analyzed things, you would be able to tell us if she is done with the relationship or if she just needs space. If she is stand-offish and annoyed at your presence, she might just be over it altogether, so you can start the healing process now, save yourself the headache, and just leave her alone. If she is just needing a little time for herself and typically seems happy being around you, then just go and do your thing and she'll come around when she is ready.
I think very rarely are people blindsided by a breakup. You know it's coming. It's just a matter of reading the signals and listening to your gut.
Don't smother her. Being too clingy can be a turn off. She might be giving you a hint that she wants you to back off. Of course, we can only guess, but don't sweat it.
People are super predictable, but you have to get out of your own head and put yourself in the other person's shoes. I bet if you got out of the emotional state and analyzed things, you would be able to tell us if she is done with the relationship or if she just needs space. If she is stand-offish and annoyed at your presence, she might just be over it altogether, so you can start the healing process now, save yourself the headache, and just leave her alone. If she is just needing a little time for herself and typically seems happy being around you, then just go and do your thing and she'll come around when she is ready.
I think very rarely are people blindsided by a breakup. You know it's coming. It's just a matter of reading the signals and listening to your gut.
lars90
Bluelighter
No Lysis thats the thing. Shes diffrent. She is the frist girl I can not predic. She is so difrfent all the time. She forgat to log of facebook once over here and I saw thats he wrote a freind that she really loves me but the acts difrent.
It#s jsut so complicated with her. On some days shes really nice on other day I would like to sufficate her with a platic bag. She is so mean but so swaet at the same time its wierd...
No jsut the other day she said soemthing meen but aplogised and said she was just having a hard time an letting her anger out on others. What in the world is this girl doing
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Lysis I think you got the stroy a little mixed up here. I know she wont break up she never does. She always wants to save things. If someone breaks up its me... I really love her though... Its just such a childish realtionship...
@addictivepersona
well we see each other during the week. But we really ahvend done allot of stuff apart from school together. Thats when she ignores me sometimes. So technicly we havent doen anything after wards but the first 2 weeks were jsut because of a fight betwwen us... Now we amde up and shes still doing it...
It#s jsut so complicated with her. On some days shes really nice on other day I would like to sufficate her with a platic bag. She is so mean but so swaet at the same time its wierd...
No jsut the other day she said soemthing meen but aplogised and said she was just having a hard time an letting her anger out on others. What in the world is this girl doing
... ? Lysis I think you got the stroy a little mixed up here. I know she wont break up she never does. She always wants to save things. If someone breaks up its me... I really love her though... Its just such a childish realtionship...
@addictivepersona
well we see each other during the week. But we really ahvend done allot of stuff apart from school together. Thats when she ignores me sometimes. So technicly we havent doen anything after wards but the first 2 weeks were jsut because of a fight betwwen us... Now we amde up and shes still doing it...
addictivepersona
Bluelight Crew
^ How old are you two? Both of your behavior comes off as rather juvenile. (I.e. you wanting to "sufficate her with a plastic bag.")
Also, off topic, but invest in a spell checker. Seriously dude--Your posts are atrocious at times. Do you read them before you post?
Also, off topic, but invest in a spell checker. Seriously dude--Your posts are atrocious at times. Do you read them before you post?
Lysis
Bluelighter
^ His location says "Germany," so I'm assuming English isn't his first language. 
lars, sweetie, the love scene is tough. No one should discount how you feel, and I totally understand being in that completely weird and confused situation. We *all* go through it at one point in time.
Girls are weird, eh?
Sometimes, we don't even know what we want ourselves. How old are you guys? She might be at that stage in life where she has no idea what she wants. You know what you want. She does not. Unfortunately, a full relationship takes 2 people, and you're not a mind reader. It makes it tough.
Try not to let it get to you. Easier said than done, and I understand that. Got any friends or family you could hang out with? It could get yourself out of your head so you can enjoy yourself and not feel bothered.
lars, sweetie, the love scene is tough. No one should discount how you feel, and I totally understand being in that completely weird and confused situation. We *all* go through it at one point in time.
Girls are weird, eh?
Sometimes, we don't even know what we want ourselves. How old are you guys? She might be at that stage in life where she has no idea what she wants. You know what you want. She does not. Unfortunately, a full relationship takes 2 people, and you're not a mind reader. It makes it tough.Try not to let it get to you. Easier said than done, and I understand that. Got any friends or family you could hang out with? It could get yourself out of your head so you can enjoy yourself and not feel bothered.
lars90
Bluelighter
Thanks for that psot lysis. I'd like to keep are ages a secret... Ill just say somwhere inbetween 7 and 35 :D haha says nothing huh?
Actually English is my first language my parents come from the USA and my vather works in germany. I was boarn here. Also to all you guys out there german chicks are hot :D ...
Okay so back to the problem I really dont wanna do this anymore it feels like were both 12 year old kids that have no Idea about relation ships. But Im sure she does... IT just so frustrating at times...
And yes lysis girls are wiered but soemtimes I feel the same. I wonder what the hell I actually really want I know it but Im afraid to say it out loud.
Nope I never read my posts before posting unless they are super important like for work and stuff...
Actually English is my first language my parents come from the USA and my vather works in germany. I was boarn here. Also to all you guys out there german chicks are hot :D ...
Okay so back to the problem I really dont wanna do this anymore it feels like were both 12 year old kids that have no Idea about relation ships. But Im sure she does... IT just so frustrating at times... And yes lysis girls are wiered but soemtimes I feel the same. I wonder what the hell I actually really want I know it but Im afraid to say it out loud.
Nope I never read my posts before posting unless they are super important like for work and stuff...
1394
Bluelighter
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You can't predict her, yet she forgets to log off of her facebook? you my friend are getting mind fucked. I'm assuming you're a teen, girls can be cruel around this period, maybe because most of them start getting one.
Anyhoo
Try growing a pair, it'll work wonders. It's hard at first, but you'll be a beast in no time. If you do make it, give my regards to Dr Johnson.
D7CE
Greenlighter
i concur with 1394. Girls love trying to screw with your head but as long as they can't screw with your emotions your set.
lars90
Bluelighter
haha I guess. But as soon as I do things with other girls because I get sick of her she totally acts off...