Women in porn... What do you think?

[MyDoorsAreOpen]

If I take off the rose-colored glasses of liberal sexual liberation that I and many of us here were raised with, I note that sex is one of the most emotionally loaded deeds that people commonly do, if not the most. It arouses very strong feelings, as the high traffic and frequent flame wars in SLR are testament to. I daresay laying out the details of one's own sex life for others' judgement is not something most people can do dispassionately, which is why most people are selective about when, where, and how they air this.

The adult entertainment industry subjects one of humanity's most personal and emotionally loaded activities to the brutal steamroller of the marketplace. It seems obvious to me any such industry would select for a fairly callous crowd on the whole.

And this would really be the reason I'd hesitate to form a romantic or other close personal relationship with someone in porn. It has nothing to do with me judging their line of work. It has to do with the fact that I don't relate to or bond with people who have a callous side to them. I've had very few close friends whom I'd describe as "hard". Anyone in porn would have prove to me that it's something about them other than emotional detachment or coldness that allows them to work the job they do, before I'd fall in love with them, or start a business or band with them.

 

[jeng1128]

If I take off the rose-colored glasses of liberal sexual liberation that I and many of us here were raised with, I note that sex is one of the most emotionally loaded deeds that people commonly do, if not the most. It arouses very strong feelings, as the high traffic and frequent flame wars in SLR are testament to. I daresay laying out the details of one's own sex life for others' judgement is not something most people can do dispassionately, which is why most people are selective about when, where, and how they air this.

The adult entertainment industry subjects one of humanity's most personal and emotionally loaded activities to the brutal steamroller of the marketplace. It seems obvious to me any such industry would select for a fairly callous crowd on the whole.

And this would really be the reason I'd hesitate to form a romantic or other close personal relationship with someone in porn. It has nothing to do with me judging their line of work. It has to do with the fact that I don't relate to or bond with people who have a callous side to them. I've had very few close friends whom I'd describe as "hard". Anyone in porn would have prove to me that it's something about them other than emotional detachment or coldness that allows them to work the job they do, before I'd fall in love with them, or start a business or band with them.

Do you mean anyone who did porn ever? Or someone currently in & staying in the business?

 

[jeng1128]

Pretty much sums up everything about anything

I can't disagree, but the porn industry is ESPECIALLY BAD. They take advantage of so many kinds of people & couldn't care less. I know you can say that about TONS ofindustrys but IMO porn is just somthing(unless you are clear headed,mature & really think about) that u should stay FAR FAR away from.

 

[MyDoorsAreOpen]

Do you mean anyone who did porn ever? Or someone currently in & staying in the business?

Not anyone ever. Like I said, there's a variety of people in the job like in any job. But I'm saying pretty cold, emotionally hardened people are probably a lot more common in this industry than in the population at large. At least that's my theory. I think the stereotype of the loud crass borderline-gangster porn director is probably based in truth.

 

[jeng1128]

Not anyone ever. Like I said, there's a variety of people in the job like in any job. But I'm saying pretty cold, emotionally hardened people are probably a lot
more common in this industry than in the population at large. At least that's my theory. I think the stereotype of the loud crass borderline-gangster porn director is probably based in truth.

Obiously I've been in the industry, although I HATE to admit it. It was somthing I did in 2006, I had gone to Ft. Lauderdale to rehab from Ct, met my roommate & decided to stay & move in w her bc I love Fl. Anyways I relapsed & being 21 @ the time, very naive an agent pursuaded me to do it. Noone forced me, I can only blame myself but those fuckers(escuse my language) know how to take advantage of someone. @ the time it sounded great, traveling to LA, making a shitload of cash, & everything(beauty orientated-nails,hair,tanning,gym even a condo) being paid for. But @ the time I was using rx painkillers(bc obv u can't have track marks or be nodding off on set) so my judgment was extreamlly cloudy. I ended up doing like 20 movies. No crazy stuff(thank god) but still shit that is embarresing. Once I did a video for Girls gone wild. I was paid(w another girl) & everyone from my uppermiddle class subberb(where my moms a teacher no less) found out. @ the time I didn't really care, but now is a whole different story. Luckily my family has let it go but my bf just won't. He knew the first week he met me. He actually gets alerts on his phone everytime they re-release a video of mine, why would he do it, I have no clue. I don't, my family & friends don't but he just can't let it go. Its a source of many problems in our relationship. It's one of the things in my life I truley regret.

 

[Joker11789]

Cytherea tori black, Kirstina rose ,Lilly carter and riley Reid really enjoy porn and bobbi star

Man I think Kristina rose is amazing , cyntherea is good but mostly for her squirts ..both lesbian vids are amazing though and that's all I can watch but rose is hot .

 

[Joker11789]

Obiously I've been in the industry, although I HATE to admit it. It was somthing I did in 2006, I had gone to Ft. Lauderdale to rehab from Ct, met my roommate & decided to stay & move in w her bc I love Fl. Anyways I relapsed & being 21 @ the time, very naive an agent pursuaded me to do it. Noone forced me, I can only blame myself but those fuckers(escuse my language) know how to take advantage of someone. @ the time it sounded great, traveling to LA, making a shitload of cash, & everything(beauty orientated-nails,hair,tanning,gym even a condo) being paid for. But @ the time I was using rx painkillers(bc obv u can't have track marks or be nodding off on set) so my judgment was extreamlly cloudy. I ended up doing like 20 movies. No crazy stuff(thank god) but still shit that is embarresing. Once I did a video for Girls gone wild. I was paid(w another girl) & everyone from my uppermiddle class subberb(where my moms a teacher no less) found out. @ the time I didn't really care, but now is a whole different story. Luckily my family has let it go but my bf just won't. He knew the first week he met me. He actually gets alerts on his phone everytime they re-release a video of mine, why would he do it, I have no clue. I don't, my family & friends don't but he just can't let it go. Its a source of many problems in our relationship. It's one of the things in my life I truley regret.

Im sry but just own it ..you did it ..not every one can say they did that ..for many reasons from guys to no one willing etc etc ..I know it was a mistake to u but it builds character and will help u laugh it off ..it's all about perspective .

good luck with your bf though that sounds like it would be tough .

 

[jeng1128]

Im sry but just own it ..you did it ..not every one can say they did that ..for many reasons from guys to no one willing etc etc ..I know it was a mistake to u but it builds character and will help u laugh it off ..it's all about perspective .

good luck with your bf though that sounds like it would be tough .

I try....believe me. It's alot easier to say than do. It really fucks w ur self esteem, thats why I really despise a ton of people in the industry....

 

[Joker11789]

I try....believe me. It's alot easier to say than do. It really fucks w ur self esteem, thats why I really despise a ton of people in the industry....

I can half relate .. Did a lot of crimes but then again there's no video/photo besides my arrests and I never felt shame bc it was me at the time and either taught me to grow up or accept things etc etc ..

at least you learned your lesson ? It's an experience ... As for the bf some guys wouldn't mind ..hope he gets over it (I can understand why it bugs u n him btw just being positive bout this for ya ..)


good luck with everything .

 

[MyDoorsAreOpen]

Obiously I've been in the industry, although I HATE to admit it. It was somthing I did in 2006, I had gone to Ft. Lauderdale to rehab from Ct, met my roommate & decided to stay & move in w her bc I love Fl. Anyways I relapsed & being 21 @ the time, very naive an agent pursuaded me to do it. Noone forced me, I can only blame myself but those fuckers(escuse my language) know how to take advantage of someone. @ the time it sounded great, traveling to LA, making a shitload of cash, & everything(beauty orientated-nails,hair,tanning,gym even a condo) being paid for. But @ the time I was using rx painkillers(bc obv u can't have track marks or be nodding off on set) so my judgment was extreamlly cloudy. I ended up doing like 20 movies. No crazy stuff(thank god) but still shit that is embarresing. Once I did a video for Girls gone wild. I was paid(w another girl) & everyone from my uppermiddle class subberb(where my moms a teacher no less) found out. @ the time I didn't really care, but now is a whole different story. Luckily my family has let it go but my bf just won't. He knew the first week he met me. He actually gets alerts on his phone everytime they re-release a video of mine, why would he do it, I have no clue. I don't, my family & friends don't but he just can't let it go. Its a source of many problems in our relationship. It's one of the things in my life I truley regret.

First of all jeng1128, your contribution to this thread is rare and valuable. I'm sure this thread has already been read by, and will continue to be read by, young naive people who are considering a job in the industry. With that in mind I'd rather see 10 pages of posts from people like you who know what they're talking about, than 1 more page of baseless speculation and pissing contests by folks who've never been backstage.

Secondly, what exactly is it about your past work that your boyfriend can't come to terms with?
Is it the social shame?
Personal beliefs about "purity" and "cleanliness"?
Fear that your past will come back to haunt you (and him, by association)?
Insecurities that his sexual prowess doesn't compare to the professionals you've worked with?
Fear that you're more likely to cheat on him?
Fear that you're just faking it every time you're with him?
Fear that you're permanently burned out on sex, and on the verge of going frigid?
Fear that you've done a lot more eyebrow-raising things in your past besides this that you haven't told him?

Not that you should lay this on him, but your BF's a complete hypocrite if he's ever supported the adult industry as a consumer, even if he's only ever given them website hits, not dollars.

If you and he are serious in any way, you guys need to have this talk. Everyone deserves better than someone who holds their past against them, without any concrete plan of what needs to be done for him to come to terms with it. We all made shit choices when we were young. What matters is where we are now as a result.

 

[PriestTheyCalledHim]

I can't disagree, but the porn industry is ESPECIALLY BAD. They take advantage of so many kinds of people & couldn't care less. I know you can say that about TONS ofindustrys but IMO porn is just somthing(unless you are clear headed,mature & really think about) that u should stay FAR FAR away from.

Obiously I've been in the industry, although I HATE to admit it. It was somthing I did in 2006, I had gone to Ft. Lauderdale to rehab from Ct, met my roommate & decided to stay & move in w her bc I love Fl. Anyways I relapsed & being 21 @ the time, very naive an agent pursuaded me to do it. Noone forced me, I can only blame myself but those fuckers(escuse my language) know how to take advantage of someone. @ the time it sounded great, traveling to LA, making a shitload of cash, & everything(beauty orientated-nails,hair,tanning,gym even a condo) being paid for. But @ the time I was using rx painkillers(bc obv u can't have track marks or be nodding off on set) so my judgment was extreamlly cloudy. I ended up doing like 20 movies. No crazy stuff(thank god) but still shit that is embarresing. Once I did a video for Girls gone wild. I was paid(w another girl) & everyone from my uppermiddle class subberb(where my moms a teacher no less) found out. @ the time I didn't really care, but now is a whole different story. Luckily my family has let it go but my bf just won't. He knew the first week he met me. He actually gets alerts on his phone everytime they re-release a video of mine, why would he do it, I have no clue. I don't, my family & friends don't but he just can't let it go. Its a source of many problems in our relationship. It's one of the things in my life I truley regret.

True. It's also been linked with prostitution, drugs, and something else I won't go into here for centuries or a very long time at least.

I have met people who did porn and even they said how they felt used, or how the people who go into porn thinking that it's going to get them lots of money, fame, media exposure, or a major career they can have for a long time are mistaken.

A woman my friend went to jr HS/ highschool with who I grew up with in the same church wound up doing porn. It was not a Fundamentalist church, and it was actually very liberal as far as churches and organised religion go.

My friend was surprised at this because she would put on one image for people as being a church going girl, who later went to a private religious affiliated college or university, and then she did porn.

I didn't care either way. It was her choice to do this, and I never mentioned it to her. My friend on the other hand did mention it and I was not around him when he saw her in public and flat out told her she was being hypocritical and in public yelled her porn name and the website she was on.

 

[jeng1128]

First of all jeng1128, your contribution to this thread is rare and valuable. I'm sure this thread has alreadyread by, and will continue to be read by, young naive people who are considering a job in the industry. With that in mind I'd rather see 10 pages of posts from people like you who know what they're talking about, than 1 more page of baseless speculation and pissing contests by folks who've never been backstage.

Secondly, what exactly is it about your past work that your boyfriend can't come to terms with?
Is it the social shame?
Personal beliefs about "purity" and "cleanliness"?
Fear that your past will come back to haunt you (and him, by association)?
Insecurities that his sexual prowess doesn't compare to the professionals you've worked with?
Fear that you're more likely to cheat on him?
Fear that you're just faking it every time you're with him?
Fear that you're permanently burned out on sex, and on the verge of going frigid?
Fear that you've done a lot more eyebrow-raising things in your past besides this that you haven't told him?

Not that you should lay this on him, but your BF's a complete hypocrite if he's ever supported the adult industry as a consumer, even if he's only ever given them website hits, not dollars.

If you and he are serious in any way, you guys need to have this talk. Everyone deserves better than someone who holds their past against them, without any concrete plan of what needs to be done for him to come to terms with it. We all made shit choices when we were young. What matters is where we are now as a result.

Thanks. I don't really wanna comment much atm bc I'm stoned. But thanks for the comment, & theres alot to fucking think about there.

 

[jeng1128]

True. It's also been linked with prdrugs, and something else I won't go into here for centuries or a very long time at least.

I have met people who did porn and even they said how they felt used, or how the people who go into porn thinking that it's going to get them lots of money, fame, media exposure, or a major career they can have for a long time are mistaken.

A woman my friend went to jr HS/ highschool with who I grew up with in the same church wound up doing porn. It was not a Fundamentalist church, and it was actually very liberal as far as churches and organised religion go.

My friend was surprised at this because she would put on one image for people as being a church going girl, who later went to a private religious affiliated college or university, and then she did porn.

I didn't care either way. It was her choice to do this, and I never mentioned it to her. My friend on the other hand did mention it and I was not around him when he saw her in public and flat out told her she was being hypocritical and in public yelled her porn name and the website she was on.

Yah, totally different from my experiance. I never went into it thinking "I'm going to become famous." Never crossed my mind. It was because of drugs, so it was a rather easy way to make a ton of cash at the time, without doing anything illegal. The actual story is so long & crazy. I would NEVER shout out my p name. I don't even like to say or hear it.

 

[Waffle Sock]

Well since we're all exposing our porn history, I'm a webcam performer on some popular sites. Very easy and fun money. I haven't logged in in months. My experience with it is pleasurable, but surely its different than working in a studio where a lot more undesirable factors come into play. I mainly do solo shows, performed with a woman only a few times. If you're thinking of porn as an option, i'd suggest webcam. It offers more freedom, more privacy, and decent pay.

 

[Carl Landrover]

Didn't read past the first few posts because the women in a lot of these are paid fairly decently for having sex. Sometimes it is degrading, depending on what type of video they're shooting, but they are usually clearing a few thousand dollars.

I would think working at a strip club would probably be more degrading. The videos are pre-planned and the women generally know everything that's going to happen. At a strip club people can be degrading to women and they're right there in person trying to make a living.


Getting paid for sex is pretty much dominated by women. There's not many men who make a living by doing that. So I think a lot of these women are just taking the opportunity to get money for doing something that doesn't take much skill, education, or training. I think of them as opportunists more than anything

 

[Br1ngTh3Ra1n]

there should be a thread about men in porn..

 

[Mysterie]

Well since we're all exposing our porn history, I'm a webcam performer on some popular sites. Very easy and fun money. I haven't logged in in months. My experience with it is pleasurable, but surely its different than working in a studio where a lot more undesirable factors come into play. I mainly do solo shows, performed with a woman only a few times. If you're thinking of porn as an option, i'd suggest webcam. It offers more freedom, more privacy, and decent pay.

are you a guy? (pictured you as a guy from your posts in the sexual fetish thread lol) if so, are the people who goes into your 'room' mostly women or gay guys? if your a guy, what do you do?

 

[jeng1128]

Well since we're all exposing our porn history, I'm a webcam performer on some popular sites. Very easy and fun money. I haven't logged in in months. My experience with it is pleasurable, but surely its different than working in a studio where a lot more undesirable factors come into play. I mainly do solo shows, performed with a woman only a few times. If you're thinking of porn as an option, i'd suggest webcam. It offers more freedom, more privacy, and decent pay.

I'm assuming ur a guy? Different for women imo.

 

[Mysterie]

imo their is an aspect of a succubus sucking energy, transmitted from countless young men releasing their seed

like its a bit of a power trip for a woman to enslave thousands of people to their image and the fantasy of having sex with them

that could just be my far out thought for the day, that everyone disagrees with, but yeh its crossed my mind a few times

i do have a lot of empathy for women who feel trapped into that profession, i just don't see a great deal of value in the vast majority of the content thats out there, porn has become really dehumanising in the past 15 years, its sad

 

[jeng1128]

there should be a thread about men in porn..

Agreed. Isn't the thread called Women in porn what fo u think? Just sayin?