MyDoorsAreOpen
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I think porn is just like any other job, in that you can find people from all walks of life who found their way to that job for all sorts of reasons and have varying levels of love for the work they do. Also like most jobs however, one can identify paths in life, and travelers on those particular paths, that are unusually common in this line of work. Adult entertainment is definitely a 3D job (dirty/degrading, demanding, dangerous), meaning that it's going to attract people who are willing to forgo social status and occupational prestige, and put their health and safety at risk, to earn their livelihoods. Beyond that it's really hard to generalize, but I imagine good looking young people who have little job skills or formal education, who've gotten through life on a bit of charm and an incredibly thick skin for both physical and emotional pain, would be overrepresented in the porn industry.
If I were a single guy, would I date a pornographic actress, if she were the perfect girl for me in every other way? Not if she was still active in the industry. I'd be too afraid it would be a future source of baggage or an impediment to her being sexually intimate with me. But I wouldn't necessarily dump a woman who admitted she'd done some porn in the past, especially if she'd always seen it, and effectively used it, as a financial stepping stone to greater dreams, and wasn't deeply scarred from it. Nowadays there's probably a solid cohort of female white collar workers who did a few nude cam shows back in college to fund their gap year or pay the rent. So long as they're able to come to terms with that choice and integrate the experience, I'd rather a girlfriend be upfront about this, than to stumble upon her "past works" some lonely night.
If I were a single guy, would I date a pornographic actress, if she were the perfect girl for me in every other way? Not if she was still active in the industry. I'd be too afraid it would be a future source of baggage or an impediment to her being sexually intimate with me. But I wouldn't necessarily dump a woman who admitted she'd done some porn in the past, especially if she'd always seen it, and effectively used it, as a financial stepping stone to greater dreams, and wasn't deeply scarred from it. Nowadays there's probably a solid cohort of female white collar workers who did a few nude cam shows back in college to fund their gap year or pay the rent. So long as they're able to come to terms with that choice and integrate the experience, I'd rather a girlfriend be upfront about this, than to stumble upon her "past works" some lonely night.