Here's my solution: Lavoix, if she is unwilling to address your minor concerns, and if they really are make or break with you, then just leave her. Better to get out now before things get even more serious. The longer you stay, the more it will hurt her if you do decide to leave. OR look past her faults, learn to accept them, and hope she decides to make these changes on her own. Primary concern here being physical fitness, striving to have levels of intimacy you had when you first met, and her maybe wearing some clothes you find sexy. Because you didn't post concerns she has with you, I can only comment on your issues with her. If she has any reasonable concerns with you, maybe you should try and address yours first, and hopefully that will give her the incentive she needs to meet your needs. Meet her halfway.