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Sex Rise in popularity of anal sex has led to health problems for women

That really seems like a you problem.

Also you are kind of being a dick, knock it off.

He may be being rude, yes, but he has a valid criticism. It would just be better if he used the time he spends writing out his attacks on trans people with engaging in a discussion with what type of terminology would not offend him, and would also work for trans people so both of us could have a positive outcome to this issue.

Given the repeated lack of him doing that, I've realised he probably doesn't have any interest or intention in doing so, for whatever reasons that may be.

I'd be happy to discuss the issue properly with him to come to a point where we can find terminology that works well for both of us, but considering he gives me no alternatives, I can't really use anything else because it may result in the same outcome. Which is a pity, because I would actually like to change it for that reason if we can agree on a term that doesn't offend either of us.

It's up to him.
 
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just as a side note, can people such as you stop taking issue with transgendered people. prretty sure someone or something ASSIGNED them something cos they is something down there regardless of what they identify as.



why dont you just knock it off man your the one who seems to have the problem. THEY are humans too. THEY are the same as us. stop being rude

I do very much appreciate it, but intersex people also have a valid voice. He is being rude, yes, but he is entitled to point out that the terminology I use is offensive to him.

However, he could do it without any of the rhetoric that comes along with his posts. It could have literally just been about that.

And while I personal do identify as transsexual, that is a term I use for myself. It isn't really a term I'm comfortable with other people using to describe me, I'd prefer trans.

I would softly suggest to whomever attacks a person for using terminology they don't like, to make sure they are also using terminology that the other party is comfortable with as to avoid any awkward situations.

However the point remains that this is not the first time he has raised this issue and I am willing to work with him on it to reach a resolution, so I suppose I'll have to wait and see what he responds with. If it's just more of the same, it would be sad because he could actually take this chance to work together with me and do something positive for his community and mine by fixing some of the tension that exists, so it would be a lost opportunity if it's just a negative response again.
 
Not really. It's not like i judge.

I place anal sex in a lighter end of the same spectrum as punching and cutting each other up in bed. This is because it has potentially damaging and superfluous additional elements.

If you like putting stuff up a body part that's not designed to have stuff put in it and likely gets somewhat damaged by that, i'm fine with that. Do you really need me to not call it for what it is, too? This entire thread is even about the same thing. There is scientific indication here. You don't have to enter a thread about a topic you're uncomfortable with. Your comment is confused.
No it’s not confused at all. Anal sex isn’t inherently violent. Can it be, sure, but so can vaginal sex.
 
Ok, believe it or not I'm actually aware of the fact that the much larger portion of the clitoral erectile tissue is on the inside of the body, kinda the reverse of the penis. But doesn't that mean that a large part of the satisfaction from vaginal intercourse ALSO comes from the internal parts of the clitoris? And what about what one or two women here have said, that they find the g-spot can be stimulated by anal intercourse, and THAT is definitely inside the vagina?

Well many blokes can't either even if they're as gay as they come.


Also just as a side note, can transsexuals like yourself fucking stop appropriating terminology that doesn't apply to you?!
I know it's fashionable and PC right now to say 'assigned female at birth' for transsexual men, and the opposite for women. But this is simply incorrect, if nothing else. The whole essence of the condition of transsexualism is that the brain is hardwired for an opposite-sexed body, ie what might be called neurological sex and physiological sex do not match.

However the doctor present at the birth observes physiological sex. THAT'S what goes on the register. So if you had a standard female body at birth with no physical abnormalities whatsoever, your sex wasn't assigned to you, it was merely CORRECTLY NOTED.

Sex 'assignment' only meaningfully happens with intersexed individuals, because that's the only case where it would have to be consciously decided what sex to raise the child as. Hell even the majority of intersex people don't get 'assigned', because they need to be VISIBLY intersexed, ie exhibit ambiguous genitalia, in order for a deliberate sex assignment to be thought necessary. And as I hope you're aware, for most historically such a 'sex assignment' meant surgical removal of any clitoral structure deemed too large / penile structure deemed too small, and amounts to genital mutilation.

Of course, and perhaps not surprisingly, a proportion of transsexuals later receive an intersex diagnosis on further investigation ; but unless you have one, or unless there was reasonable doubt about which you were when you were born, STFU using this word just because people like you find it 'validating' or whatever. It's insulting.
According to what you said about yourself so far, you have XX chromosomes and a perfectly normal female reproductive system. Sorry if that sucks, but nobody fucking ASSIGNED you anything.
Sure, it could’ve been worded nicer, but definitely a valid point nonetheless.
 
No it’s not confused at all. Anal sex isn’t inherently violent. Can it be, sure, but so can vaginal sex.

"Snorting food isn't inherently violent

It's not an over the top kink! I'm baffled and offended by this ludicrous characterization!"

I'm sure you understand my wording and since you now know that i don't judge, maybe there's not much more to say.
 
Hell no. I like being maximally seal-like.

I just found out the other day that many twinks actually shave/wax often to retain their hairless nature. I just assumed (based on my hairless where it is visible twink cousin) that they, like the otters such as myself, simply popped out like this. Is this true?

There always has to be fucking. There always has to be "sucking his dick to get it ready" or "getting his hole nice and worked" for the inevitable fuck. There always has to be a top and bottom. Always these prescriptive roles. It's heteronormative.

Many gays many enjoy penetrative sex but we don't have to have it for sex to have occurred.

I enjoy porn with fucking but often the way it plays out is so very A leads to B leads to C, which usually looks like: making out --> jerking off a bit --> sucking/rimming --> fucking... and fucking is the "ultimate". It's so boring, and it's subliminally saying that one guys has to be the man and one has to be the woman. Usually the top is the more dom and the bottom the more submissive. It's a snooze fest.

Two 'bottoms' having sex is the real gay energy. I actually enjoyed a gay YouTuber making a series of videos about just this, where a top was behaving in an extremely judgemental way towards two 'bottoms' who were dating and sleeping with eachother, as if that were not possible. Pretty funny and very apt commentary.
 
OK so remembering basic anatomy, the vaginal canal is only separated from the rectum by a couple layers of tissue. I'm guessing then for women anal can feel good because it sort of 'massages' the vagina -?
I can't speak for a woman BUT the best thing ever is to do a woman in the ass & get as much as you can with your hand into her vagina (lucky my ex liked to be fisted in her vagina while done in her bum with my dick)
You can bend your hand "up" while inside her & feel your dick in her arse & kind of rub your banjo string, trust me this is quite something to experience.
 
Two 'bottoms' having sex is the real gay energy. I actually enjoyed a gay YouTuber making a series of videos about just this, where a top was behaving in an extremely judgemental way towards two 'bottoms' who were dating and sleeping with eachother, as if that were not possible. Pretty funny and very apt commentary.
This channel makes me laugh, it sure opened my eyes to stuff I wasn't aware of I know that much.

 
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I just found out the other day that many twinks actually shave/wax often to retain their hairless nature. I just assumed (based on my hairless where it is visible twink cousin) that they, like the otters such as myself, simply popped out like this. Is this true?
Yeah the twinks I know all have a razor in the shower. Not the hugest sample size but the result has been very consistent.
 
Two 'bottoms' having sex is the real gay energy. I actually enjoyed a gay YouTuber making a series of videos about just this, where a top was behaving in an extremely judgemental way towards two 'bottoms' who were dating and sleeping with eachother, as if that were not possible. Pretty funny and very apt commentary.

The real gay energy?

So two tops or a top/btm are not "as gay"?

I don't get it.

Good for the two bottoms, but that's extremely rare. Two bottoms and two tops won't last in an LTR if they require anal in their relationships.
 
The real gay energy?

So two tops or a top/btm are not "as gay"?

I don't get it.

Good for the two bottoms, but that's extremely rare. Two bottoms and two tops won't last in an LTR if they require anal in their relationships.

I was making a joke, based on your comment that the only type of gay relationships that are allowed to exist are tops and bottoms, which you yourself criticised. You said yourself, penetrative sex doesn't need to occur for gay couples to have sex. I could quote you making that statement, so it seems odd that you'd now suddenly take the other side when I've supported your commentary that gay sex is very heteronormative. I was fundamentally agreeing with you.

I've seen couples on Grindr who are two bottoms or two tops.

The joke was, instead of top/bottom being the standard gay energy, it's subverted with two bottoms instead having 'real gay energy.'

There is of course, no such thing as 'real gay energy' but I didn't think I needed to make that explicitly clear.
 
I was making a joke, based on your comment that the only type of gay relationships that are allowed to exist are tops and bottoms, which you yourself criticised. You said yourself, penetrative sex doesn't need to occur for gay couples to have sex. I could quote you making that statement, so it seems odd that you'd now suddenly take the other side when I've supported your commentary that gay sex is very heteronormative. I was fundamentally agreeing with you.

I've seen couples on Grindr who are two bottoms or two tops.

The joke was, instead of top/bottom being the standard gay energy, it's subverted with two bottoms instead having 'real gay energy.'

There is of course, no such thing as 'real gay energy' but I didn't think I needed to make that explicitly clear.

I understand now, thanks!
 
sodomy has always been around but i think the popularization of it, like all kinds of fetish and paraphalia is partly down to the nature of depicting sex in media and the development of tech (when you satiate peoples desire to look at normal sex long enough thel eventually want new and increasingly more perverse stuff). Basic sodomy seems like normal sex to allot of people nowadays, thats how much our desires have been ignited. Allot of people now have fetishes and paraphalias they never would have had if not for porn on tap, some people get sexual burnout. My ex used to say porn damages relationships and i thought it was nonsense at the time but its true.

Our whole idea of sex is messed up because we overindulge and have porn on tap. I also think there is a kind of alterior agenda at play (beyond our basic drive for more extreme sex) in the porn industry - an agenda to saturate us with the most extreme things that pertain to violence and death. You may have noticed porn gets more and more violent, now they are mainstreaming stuff that used to be considered porn ect. Im not judging anyone for their kinks, im the last person in a position to judge - but i think its good to take a step back and examine our attitudes towards this stuff. The attitude that allot of us have towards sex is messed up imo, and it relates fairly closely to drugs come to think of it. Sex is a bit like a drug, and it gets abused.
I'm not sure I agree that porn is making us more perverse. I'm pretty sure that people were still sick fucks before the advent of readily-available porn, lol. But I do agree that the fact that porn is so easily obtained can be a problem for people who don't exercise self-control with it. My ex husband was addicted to porn to the point that he had difficulty cumming with anyone "normal." AKA not a porn star. And he needed to watch porn in order to finish, sometimes. Porn is a fantasy. But if you overindulge in it, you can become dependent on it for sexual gratification, and it can warp your perspective of regular women.

i'm no longer attractive to my ex because I'm 42. He only "dates" 20-somethings that he obtains off of Seeking Arrangement. :shrug:
 
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